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What are chances of sibling catching chicken pox?

(49 Posts)
sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 18:36:45

DS1 (4) has had it since Tuesday night. The spots have finally, today, all crusted over, so tomorrow we can get out of the house (yay!).

Does anyone know what the chances are of DS2 getting it (2). I've tried encouraging kisses etc, as I'd like DS2 to get it before DS1 starts school in September and I've not got much on work wise at moment. So purely for selfish reasons blush

It's about 2 weeks isn't it? So 2 weeks from rash appearing?

Does anyone know how likely it is that DS2 will catch it?

Also, someone mentioned to me that second sibling tends to get it worse. is that an old wife's tale? Anyone agree or disagree?


thestringcheesemassacre Sun 06-May-12 18:38:23

Ours were exactly 2 weeks apart.
And yes, dd2 (the second spotter) got it much worse. But I've never heard that before.

Exactly two weeks apart here. DS1 was 2 and Ds2 was 4 months. They were both covered. i am so relieved they have both had it. I had it at 16 and it was vile.

Seona1973 Sun 06-May-12 19:30:46

it was about 15 days between dd and ds getting it. DD was 3 and ds was 5½ months. She was first to get it and had it worse than ds.

missmapp Sun 06-May-12 19:32:23

Ive h heard that the sibling often has a worse outbreak as they are exposed to the virus longer than the first child, having said that, i know plenty of siblings where that wasnt the case

quickhide Sun 06-May-12 19:36:33

Exactly 2 weeks apart here too- DD1 age 3 got it first, she was pretty bad, then 18mo DD2 got it and was absolutely covered, v high temp and threw up. Glad it's all over with now!

The GP told me it was pretty inevitable...

quickhide Sun 06-May-12 19:36:34

Exactly 2 weeks apart here too- DD1 age 3 got it first, she was pretty bad, then 18mo DD2 got it and was absolutely covered, v high temp and threw up. Glad it's all over with now!

The GP told me it was pretty inevitable...

ragged Sun 06-May-12 19:37:16

2 weeks apart exactly ime, too. Nice you can plan for the quarantine period, at least.

sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 19:49:45

thanks all for posting. well we've got another week to go, then i'll see if ds2 catches it! he's got a really runny nose today, but i'm sure i'm just looking into things differently because of the pox expectation.

sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 19:51:22

is it bad if i go out this week with them?

i've spent 5 days in the house and i'm going mad!! they are also going pretty loopy, as ds1 has had spots, but been fine in himself.

but ds2 could be contagious for the next week. i'm not sure if we should stay in for another week, or act as normal until he starts getting spots?

sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 19:52:04

also, was it exactly 2 weeks from rash starting on first child, to rash starting on second child? i assume it is from start of rash?

sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 19:52:10

or rather spots

Catsmamma Sun 06-May-12 19:58:56

I've three and it went through them all, dd first, then ds2, he was only about 8months old too! And finally ds1....he held out for over three weeks incubation, and we had begun to think he'd not get it.

he had his birthday party when we were technically pox free, (all parents were warned we had had the pox on the premises!!) ds2 was healing and ds1 should have got it already, but he held out for another week.

Of them all dd definitely had it the worst and she was first, ds2 was very mild, I presume he still had immunity from me, and ds1 got over it very quickly too.

DorisIsWaiting Sun 06-May-12 19:59:00

With my dds dd3 was really unweel when she was incubating it (after dd2 had it) 4 days of 39+ temps, so we kept her home as dr google said that was normal before spots appearing. If she hadn't been ill there's little you can do as the sibling may not even get the virus this time (unlikely but always a possibility).

HaplessHousewife Sun 06-May-12 19:59:27

According to the NHS website chicken pox is most contagious 1-2 days before the spots appear so you should be fine for a few days.

I checked and double-checked earlier in the year as we saw someone three days before she came out in spots and it was only 6 days before DDs birthday party, luckily we escaped it that time.

TheMightyMojito Sun 06-May-12 20:01:32

DS got it 10 days after DD. Pretty much as soon as she'd crusted over... like a spotty tag-team.

sheeplikessleep Sun 06-May-12 20:10:50

I sort of wonder whether it was pox for DS1.
He hasn't had any fever or been unwell in any way.
First few spots Tuesday night.
Wednesday and Thursday - a lot more spots, quite pink, individual. But only 1 or 2 that were filled with fluid. Over face, torso, underarms and legs.
Yesterday and today - mostly crusty now and dark pink, small scabs.
He's been totally fine in himself.
But I did get him checked by Dr on Thursday, as he also had bright red arms / cheeks. Dr said he'd be unlucky to have both slapped cheeks and pox at the same time, but it's possible. She was fairly convinced the spots were pox.

I sort of feel like a fraud as DS1 hasn't been unwell. <Tempts fate for DS2 to be unwell!!>

Dd1 came put with it on a Monday and dd2 started 13 days later. You're fine to go out and about for a bit. After all your ds2 may have immunity still from you and may not catch it. It's likely that he will but nothing is certain.

There were 5 DCs at home when it went through our family, starting with my youngest stepbrother who was about 5. His spots appeared around the May half term. It went through us in age order with grim regularity, finishing with me, aged 15, at the beginning of the summer holidays. I had it worst, (was ill for several days before spots appeared) and still have scarring on my tongue which is visible first thing in the morning.

In the nicest way, I hope your LO gets it over with this time round.

ragged Mon 07-May-12 08:13:51

2 weeks from spots seen in one child to spots seen in someone else, ime, 12-15 days to be more exact, but 2 weeks is close enough.

DS1 had it at 2yo & was completely well with it. Bouncing off the walls well. It was January & we went for long walks in deserted countryside; I could not have coped with him otherwise. This was back when nursery insisted on 2 week exclusion after spots came out. Then baby DD got CP & she woke up at night -- that was the worst of it for her. I had a very mild case of it as an adult, too.

Other DC got it much worse, miserable with fever. Just varies a lot. No fraud required smile.

ruelachesty Mon 07-May-12 08:28:49

DD2 first spot appeared 3 weeks ago, a fair few spots but absolutely fine.

DD1 first spot 1 week ago. She was really poorly for first 3 days, but she was/is covered, worst I've seen, all in her bum, ears, mouth! BUT after a rough 3 days she is now fine, but we had her up at out of hours and they said they were inundated with second siblings with chicken pox.

Hope they both get mild case for you and then that's it done with smile

EdithWeston Mon 07-May-12 08:37:03

The maximum incubation period is 21 days, not 14.

shushpenfold Mon 07-May-12 08:39:35

I would bet that almost exactly 14 days later your ds2 will come out in more spots than ds1 - it has happened to me, dsis and most of my friends like times!

EdithWeston Mon 07-May-12 08:40:42

Oh, qnd that's 3 weeks from when the 1st child's last spot crusted over, so that's up to 27th May.

Quite likely it will be before that, but some children do go to the maximum, and of course some don't get it even when you know they've been repeatedly exposed

sheeplikessleep Mon 07-May-12 16:40:25

Ragged - your DS1 sounds like my DS1, he has been bouncing off the walls and not acting ill at all and not itching.

Well I've got to a week on Tuesday to see if DS2 has caught it then.

Thanks all for posting.

Astr0naut Tue 08-May-12 19:49:28

I'm in similar position, ds got spots last SAturday and had them all over trunk, back, few on arms legs, head and face by Monday. All crusted over now and he's hardly even noticed he's had them.

Now then, Dd is 6 months old and until this week, still EBF. Are the chances of her catching them high, or is she protected by my immunity still? please don't tell me we've got to stay in quarantine for another 3 weeks - I'm going mad!

Astr0naut Mon 14-May-12 19:03:18

I have my answer. Dd has chicken pox.

ragged Mon 14-May-12 20:09:42

lol, sorry to hear that Astr0. DD was excl brf & got it at 3.5m old.

sheeplikessleep Mon 14-May-12 21:07:59

We are on day 13 now and no spots to report so far. But DS2 has been much clingier, tired and more cuddly than normal. He even fell asleep whilst cuddling me yesterday, which is very unlike him. He's quite short tempered at the moment. I wonder if we're in the build up.

Astr0 - sorry to hear that, what a pain.

Tgger Wed 16-May-12 23:06:32

So, did she get it? I remember I was in denial and so have lots of friends been, thinking the sibiling won't get it, only on day 14-17 for the spots to appear!

1gglePiggle Wed 16-May-12 23:41:36

What happened then Sheep?

BackforGood Wed 16-May-12 23:59:24

Yes, they like to get it consecutively rather than concurrently, as, of course if they had it at the same time you'd only be needing to find someone to look after them while you are at work, for a couple of weeks rather than the month they can stretch it out to if they wait until one is better before the 2nd one gets it wink

I'm on pox watch here too. Dd1 got her first spots 15 days ago. Dd2 not showing any signs yet but I'm obsessively checking!

sheeplikessleep Thu 17-May-12 09:46:13

DS2 got first spots yesterday (14 days later than DS1 first spots) and many more today. Much worse than DS1. He is OK in himself, a bit under the weather, but no temperature or anything, just a bit mor irritable. Thanks all for posting!

lovechoc Fri 18-May-12 12:50:27

DS1 had chicken pox and exactly two weeks later DS2 caught it aswell. It's difficult for them not to catch it when they are in close proximity to each other all the time.

Astr0naut Fri 18-May-12 13:17:13

The good news is that we're on day 5 and the spots are already fading and going. Dd got it much worse than ds (and she's only 6 months!) and we've had, sorry I've had a hellish week at night times, but today we've turned the corner.

Luckily I'm on mat leave, so I've not had to have time off.

Now waiting to see if Dh has caught it. He's managed 42 years, but we'll see...

We made it to day 16, but spots are now appearing on dd2, just in time for dd1's birthday party tomorrow.!

sheeplikessleep Fri 18-May-12 18:41:49

We are now on day 3 of DS2 having it. He's so miserable, running a temperature, itching like crazy and covered in spots (loads around his nappy area, poor thing).

Now I realise how mild DS1s pox was!

He's been dosed up on Nurofen for his temperature, Piriton and smothered in calamine and glycerine cream. Hoping for a better night tonight, as last night was atrocious. I'm thinking of going to bed myself soon.

Oh no, poor thing, and poor you. My dd2 only has a handful of spots so far, but I'm already dreading what she'll be like in the morning.

sheeplikessleep Fri 18-May-12 18:56:39

Chaos - bad timing with your DD1s party tomorrow!
I'm just hoping today was the worst day, as tomorrow is day 4.

Yes, hopefully he'll turn the corner tomorrow and then be on the mend.

Slightly different here but DP caught CP off DS. He came down with it about a week after DS's spots first appeared. DP was really ill and was absolutely covered in spots, he was off work for 2 weeks. However I think he had it worse as he was an adult rather than being the second to get it.

Hope everybody is feeling better and that all the grown ups have had it already!

Tgger Sat 19-May-12 20:34:50

Yes, blokes getting as adults is worst I think (apart from pregnant women). My DS's friend's Dad had it, was off work for ages- got pneumonia or something as a complication from it (!?).

Hope the itchy ones aren't too bad. I had the same with my DCs, DS had it oh so mild, then DD got it FULL ON- loads and loads of spots everywhere and so itchy. Got her dosed up on painkillers, piriton (or boots equivalent) and calomine and that pretty much sussed it. The spots took ages to clear up for her, but luckily no really bad marks.

lovechoc Sun 20-May-12 17:27:39

DS1 was only 6 weeks old when DH caught the shingles. Horrible experience as an adult. sad Apparently it was stress induced because of his adapting to becoming a father.

Poor DS2! We had that as well, DD1 had it, very mild, just a few spots and hardly noticed she had it. But DD2 got it 2 weeks later and was just a spotty bundle of misery, and was absolutely covered in them. On her 2nd birthday too, poor thing. So unfair on the poor second child who catches it.

PestoPenguin Sun 20-May-12 19:37:45

If DH has not had it at that age I'd seriously consider getting a private vaccination (local travel clinic or other private place that offers jabs, not your GP). It is a genuinely horrible disease in adults sad.

sheeplikessleep Mon 21-May-12 09:55:58

We are now on day 6 and most of DS2s spots have scabbed over, phew!

However, the spots around his groin area and in his nappy haven't scabbed. I guess it's to be expected, as it doesn't get the air to it, as he is in nappies.

Has anyone had similar experiences? Guess I'm going to have another day off work tomorrow, as they haven't scabbed there? How likely is it until his nappy area spots have scabbed?


lovechoc Mon 21-May-12 10:03:50

DH had chicken pox as a child and then got shingles as an adult, so he's not been very lucky!! It's unusual for adults to contract it, but can happen. I suppose the chances of catching the shingles again in a lifetime is very low though, so that's at least something.

Hope all the mums with pooky babies are recovering. I had some hellish nights with my two.

Gill5555 Sun 27-May-12 12:11:38

Hi, DS got chicken pox 2 weeks and 1 day after DD. He is 9 months old and has it really badly, in the eyes and ears, all over the head and face, back and front and in all his little creases. Took him to OOH Dr who said to keep an eye on his breathing as the danger is if it gets into his lungs. He has quite a mucussy cough, which Dr said was probably the blisters bursting and DS bringing them up. I was hoping he wouldn't get it as bad as DD as I am still breastfeeding but the opposite is true - he has it 10 times worse. Am looking forward to this time next week when it's not so hot and DS can get comfortable again. Found oats in tights run into coolish bath really helped.

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