I am a new stepmum (of 4 years stepping into the breach of a family who has an alcoholic mother) and my OH and I were shocked to learn that our 13yr old had had a teenage pregnancy (early stages) and been given the morning after pill which discharged the foetus. As she is in the care of CAMHs, the local walk in centre contacted them to report this. Her counselor only deemed it necessary to contact us this week, 3 months after the incident and reported that D13 was now on the Child Sexual Exploitation register. We were horrified by the circumstances of how the pregnancy occurred and the distress that D13 had experienced in the subsequent months. D13 had been working with her counsellor who then felt it necessary to contact us. We had been dealing with some very painful issues since May when D13 attempted suicide. This recent disclosure made us realise that everyone else knew about what had happened to D13 but US! As parents we were left out of the loop and this week left to deal with the terrible fall out when we were told. We were robbed of the opportunity to support our daughter at the time she really needed it. It robbed us of the understanding of what was causing her many months of anguish, disrupted schooling, fights with her siblings, dysfunctional relationships with her friends to name a few of the challenges we have had to deal with since August (pregnancy which we didn't know about) and from May (suicide attempt which we handled at the time).
My question to Mumsnet is it immoral that current legislation allows children to obtain the morning after pill and the contraception pill without the parents being told? I know the government sees this as a quick fix for reducing teenage pregnancies, but by not informing parents it dis-empowers them of their role to support, educate and care for their children. In my mind. this is just wrong.
Anyone else feel the same? If so do could a petition to the UK government be started?
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13 year olds being given the morning after pill by walk in clinics
newtoallofthis8 · 28/10/2016 08:03
So difficult... What were the circumstances of the under age sex and how old was the boy? I'm assuming a similar age otherwise presumably charges would be brought. I would want to know as a parent that this had happened but I would also want a vulnerable 13-year-old to be able to seek treatment without worrying about what mum and dad would think.
I'm not aware of Gillick competence - off to Google now... 
to you and your DD. And your whole family. I'm so sorry you're all having such a rough time.
In answer to your question though, no it isn't immoral. It's necessary. Not all parents are supportive - some are quite the opposite - and girls unfortunately need access to this care.
The right to this care for these girls was hard won.
It's also not administered without thought and consideration. Your DD will have been assessed by medics and deemed competent to make decisions about her care.
Hopefully you are at least able to be grateful that she got timely and proper care - brave young lady - even if you weren't able to help her with this at the time.
I wish you all every good thing in working through your DD's problems.
as you say it dis-empowers the parents, however it empowers the teenager. which is more important.
sometimes parents are the last people the teenagers want to turn to and they Need to have responsible adults to turn to on occasion.
good luck 
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