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How can I get my DD12 to actually move her butt

(10 Posts)
voluptuagoodshag Wed 25-May-16 22:33:14

Maybe I'm expecting too much and should count my blessings. She's 12 but mentally and physically like a 15/16 year old. She started her periods a year ago and the hormonal cycles have been trying.
That aside, she's doing great at school, seems happy enough and just content to come home and flop and read a book.
This is the bugbear. She will not move off her butt until she goes upstairs to bed. She's given up any extra physical activities and even getting her to walk round the block is Impossible. She isn't overweight but she is unfit.
I can get not doing competitive sport but all her pals and peers seem to have boundless energy whilst she just vegetates.
Anyone experiencing similar? Do they grow out of it?

VioletBam Thu 26-May-16 01:35:28

My DD is the same. She's 12. She does a lot of P.E. in her school though so I don't worry. She also walks 2 miles a day to get to school.

Does your DD walk to school?

holidaysarenice Thu 26-May-16 02:18:31

Starting periods can be the start of anaemia and thus the tiredness? Especially when you say she is unfit?

See if you can find an outdoor activity she previously liked?

voluptuagoodshag Thu 26-May-16 07:48:39

She walks to the bus stop. Interesting about the anaemia though - I had thought she was looking a bit peaky. Have made her take some iron this morning.
I guess it's not just the exercise, she doesn't seem to have any hobbies other than reading and playing guitar - both solitary pursuits really.

Choughed Thu 26-May-16 07:54:19

Well, exercise is important but not attractive if you are harangued into it. It should be fun!

Are you active? Is sport and physical activity part of the routine at weekends? Are there things she would like to try? Dance-based activity? Climbing? Water sports? It doesn't have to be competitive.

sandgrown Thu 26-May-16 07:58:59

My DS was like this but all of a sudden at age 13 he got a paperound, bought a bike and is now talking about joining a football team! He used to just sit in his room playing x box while all his school friends seemed to be on the park. I could not persuade him to do anything active!

Penfold007 Thu 26-May-16 08:07:19

DD gets lethargic because of low iron the GP suggested iron rich foods and a VitD supplement, it's made a real difference.

SlipperyJack Thu 26-May-16 08:10:07

You could give parkrun a try? Not competitive, wholly supportive of all runners fast or slow, great friendly atmosphere. And you get free T-shirts smile

voluptuagoodshag Thu 26-May-16 12:43:30

We are a very active family but there is no way I could ever persuade her to do the park run - believe me I have tried. Her brother is quite happy to give it a go. We are a cycling family but she doesn't do that anymore either and even if we do manage out on bikes it's a moany battle. She was quite keen on mucking about in water but now that would mean her hair goes curly and then she'd need to take gas to restraighten it (sigh). Have suggested dancing - nope! Have tried martial arts - nope! Climbing? Well it's something we've tried before and there is even a climbing wall at her school but nope! She did do volleyball and netball at lunchtime but it's stopped until next term.
She will very occasionally go to the gym with her pals. Seems to hate PE now. If I try to broach the subject of doing anything it usually ends in an argument and sometimes it seems like she says black when I say white just to be single minded. It's very wearing so I've lost the will a bit and just let her vegetate. But like I say, not just the physical activity - to get her to do anything is a pain even if that is a to go into town to get stuff for her - she can't be arsed.

voluptuagoodshag Thu 26-May-16 12:45:52

'Take ages' not take gas. Though the concept is amusing confused

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