My wonderful nearly 12 year old daughter.
She is a normal-to-slim build.
Happy, thoughtful, doing well at school, enjoys sports and ballet (at hobby level, not 'pressured') It's a pretty unpressurised life. 2 brothers, good circle of friends. Hasn't done the typical preteen stroppiness and has always had a remarkably equable temprament.
We live in a developing world country and she goes to a pretty 'wholesome' and old-fashioned in a good way International School which means there is not the 'appearance' peer or media pressure to the same extent that there is in High Schools in the UK.
Last week she didn't eat any packed lunches but threw them away, this week she has skipped at least one main meal a day and not had any snacks. She has lost at least a kg and has taken to weighing herself every day..frankly, I am surprised she even knew where the scales were because none of us weigh ourselves and tange from average skinny to average plump..but no 'issues'.
Two days ago she said, a little tearfully, that she hates herself because she is so fat and she will only cheer up if she can lose weight to 'not be fat'. She is adamant she is overweight. We did the NHS BMI index together which shows she is just above the 'underweight' border..apparently 'it is set up wrong' and 'I know you love me Mum, but you are lying to me about my weight and I don't know why..'
I am so pleased she could confide in me but now what to do? I talked about how 'feelings' and 'facts' battle for space in everyone's mind, but she won't 'hear' it.
Today she enjoyed her dance lesson, hanging out with friends and baking cupcakes for her friend's burthday tea tomorrow. Apart from 'food' stuff, she is almost her normal happy self.
I am utterly lost. Is this a 'phase'? I fear it's a lot more than that because of her obviously disordered thinking, but do I go in heavy and demand she eats, or pretend nothing's going on and just see how things pan out over the next couple of weeks (we are going back to UK soon anyway)
Any thoughts and help really gratefully recieved...
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is it anorexia..really, really worried..
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