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What's your opinion of my child's weight?

(66 Posts)
poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 19:15:21

Following my rant in AIBU the other day, I've been discussing DS's weight with a couple of friends. Their opinion surprised me.

Pic on profile, what do you think?

Pizzaexpress2 Fri 30-Nov-12 19:41:43

He looks just like my ds at times. He goes like this then spurts up in height then a bit over padded then shoots up again.
I do think we are very used to larger children whereas children used to be normally beanpolesqe so we see chubby as normal.
My sons weight is a worry but I try an curb his intake now and again accordingly.
It is a concern, your ds is lovely an will be fine, you are conscious of it and aware, that's half way there.

shrimponastick Fri 30-Nov-12 19:43:12

Hmm. I would say that he has a little too much padding. Kids should be lean. He could be heading for a growth spurt soon, and will stretch upwards?

I wouldn't worry too much. But obv you have concerns, so just keep an eye on him.

poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 19:44:41

It just shows how perceptions vary. I was really surprised how overweight he is, even though we expected him to be too heavy. But the friends I spoke to were shocked that I even thought he was chubby.

Work to be done but I'm sure we can sort it subtly with a few tweaks. He's also doing fewer activities since starting school in August because he's been tired, but he's better now so after Christmas we'll hopefully have it sorted out.

Pizzaexpress2 Fri 30-Nov-12 19:51:13

Exactly. They are so easy up and down. Doesn't take much to make a subtle change. Honestly, don't worry. Just watch and make those little changes on the quiet.
There are a few of us in the same boat.

AitchDee Fri 30-Nov-12 19:52:06

Certainly looks well covered to me. None of my boys had little man boobs like your son has.

DudeInaTutu Fri 30-Nov-12 19:56:28

how old is he op?

my dd is stick thin, she is 15, but at 10 she really filled out, i think its fairly normal for kids to put a bit of meat on their bones before they shoot up....she is horrified now by pics of her at 10 but she really wasnt chubby, she just clearly had a bit of puppy fat, she is now 5ft 7 and 8st 5, i would never ever mention a childs weight for fear of making them conscious of it. he will shoot up and he will lose the puppy fat. im pretty sure thats normal.

wordfactory Fri 30-Nov-12 19:58:49

I'd say he was a little on the chubby side, but mot horrendously so.

My DC are probably under weight though.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Fri 30-Nov-12 20:02:34

What Rotavirus said, because there are so many obese children, we have forgotten what normal looks like.

Sounds like you are on top of things though.

sannaville Fri 30-Nov-12 20:42:44

Dd1 was on 95th centile at 4.5yrs we were told ahe was obese by school! She totally was not it was just chubbiness! She's now 8.5 skinny as rake and bordering on slightly underweight due to all activities she does!,
He looks normal to me tbh especially for his young age

Goldenjubilee10 Fri 30-Nov-12 21:04:50

My ds was at the top end of normal weight and he is not as chunky as your little fellow.

sneezecakesmum Fri 30-Nov-12 21:23:14

The photo looks like a normal healthy child to me. I can't see any hint of chubbiness.

aPirateInaPearTree Fri 30-Nov-12 21:30:09

how old is he?

poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 21:34:39

He's 5.

ISeeThreadPeople Fri 30-Nov-12 21:42:49

He is overweight but not in any way you'd notice if he was dressed I think. He doesn't have the sharp contours you'd expect of a child his age, more softness round the edges. He just has an extra bit of covering right now. You are right.

Are you happy with his diet/portion sizes? Do you do sport/exercise as a family?

CMOTDibbler Fri 30-Nov-12 21:57:01

I think for 5 he is def overweight - on my ds you can clearly see his ribs and collar bones, and no sign of (sorry, can't think of nicer term) moobs.

How is his portion sizes ? Its hard to hold their weight on activity alone

poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 21:57:44

His diet is ok but he has a limitless appetite and I have to watch him for overdoing the carbs. He would live on bread happily. He has porridge with fruit for breakfast, fruit snack, packed lunch inc sandwich, natural yogurt, carrot or tomatoes, after school an oatcake and peanut butter then whatever for dinner. It's all good but he is never full.

He is fairly active, cycling or walking daily, plus swimming once or twice a week. He could certainly do more though.

DH and I are both overweight but we both run and cycle regularly. We usually walk or cycle together as a family a the weekend, plus swimming.

I think we're probably not far off doing things right but need to watch portions and maintain activity levels.

ISeeThreadPeople Fri 30-Nov-12 22:01:50

I think if you're overweight as a family but doing lots of activity then perhaps portion sizes are your problem. And it's something you can all do together.

Does he drink enough? While eating and inbetween times? DD is also 5 and on days when she's hungry constantly, we insist she has a good drink and wait a while before eating. Hunger and thirst feel exactly the same. Fewer carbs perhaps, more protein. Maybe a bit of a family overhaul of diet.

Casmama Fri 30-Nov-12 22:03:36

What percentile is he on for height?

judefawley Fri 30-Nov-12 22:04:22

I think he looks chubby, but not drastically so.

Casmama Fri 30-Nov-12 22:04:27

Btw I think often friends want to be kind or say what you want to here so I wouldn't pay too much attention to that.

poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 22:07:06

I think portions is probably the issue. We have a very good diet on the whole, carbs are brown rather than white usually, lots of veg, minimal fried food, sweets and cakes etc are occasional and not available whenever. I'm pretty conscious of nutrition but the portions possibly less so. And DS does need to be told when to stop (hence me not allowing school lunches except for occasional days).

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Fri 30-Nov-12 22:07:15

He looks a bit chubby, cant see his "legs bums and tums", but can see he has puppy fat on his "breasts".

My son looks pretty much the same, apart from his chest which is totally flat in comparison. My son swims twice a week though, in addition to basket ball and other after school sports and PE. Swimming does wonders for the chest, shoulders and arms.

Cant believe he is down as "obese" though! shock
That is almost a mockery!

Blimey, if that is classed as obese then god knows what they'd have my son down as. He is overweight (due to medication), but i bet they'd put him at moribidly obese or something.

I think your son looks just fine.

poachedeggs Fri 30-Nov-12 22:12:02

He's 75th for height iI think. Let me check.

CaptainKirksNipples Fri 30-Nov-12 22:12:29

I would say he is overweight. My ds and dd had no folds under arms and can see ribs and collarbone.

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