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Organic/expensive foods and au pairs

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sagalsmith Wed 13-Nov-13 23:16:48

My last au pair that lasted only 2 months cost us an average of £80 extra a week. We were constantly out of butter/bread/leaves/milk. Lots of Green and Black chocs went missing too. That wasn't the main cost but it was mostly our expensive eating habits that we try very hard to maintain and naturally now have to take account for her. Everything I buy is usually discounted but meats are at least free range, if not organic, thin skinned fruits/veg the same. If I can't get the quality I like, I tend to buy from markets (better taste for me) and soak in vinegar/salt solution to remove pesticides etc. Its my choice to feed my family this way. It is very expensive and I really shop around to keep this sustainable. I have a new au pair now who keeps mentioning white fish once/week and lots of fruits. Fish has been a problem for me as the quality that I like is sooo expensive so normally resort to reduced to clear when I have the chance-so not often. Its very annoying to have to think of what we eat as most meals are for 2 or 4 and steaks work out very expensive. I was also considering an 'alcohol from the home' off limits rule and chocs we buy are for us only rule (she has a card to buy herself stuff- I check all receipts).
Her first meal here was soooo huge (pasta) that it was more than what my 6f2'' hubby and me and 2 kids eat combined- that was my next day's lunch and kids lunch gone. So I'm feeling a bit cautious. Also I specialise in nutrition and wellness and she's wondering why I do what I do, so seems a bit odd to ask her to eat something that we prefer not to for our family. But the cost could spiral out of control and after a £700 spend last month, I'm concerned. Any thoughts?

I don't think you are really suited to having an AP. I don't really understand what you are asking for here.

neunundneunzigluftballons Sun 17-Nov-13 23:20:52

Food in

neunundneunzigluftballons Sun 17-Nov-13 23:21:54

Oops food in our house is for everyone I would never dream of setting anything out of bounds.

Katiejon Mon 18-Nov-13 10:22:49

Hi.
U can't ban au pair from eating food!
Save expensive stuff for the weekend, I do this.
Otherwise, accept your increased food bill OR get live-out help.
I've learnt to be more flexible with ap, I have to accept she needs more supervision than my wonderful cleaner, but that I get help on a daily basis.

Blondeshavemorefun Mon 18-Nov-13 13:51:50

Why on earth would you go hungry a few times op?

Assume you are cooking a meal for an extra person so 5 instead of 4 so add more meat/pulses or say to ap she can have some bread and butter - jacket or pasta with me as well

It sounds that you begrudge her eating what you eat - as in you buy the good quality meat/veg/fruit etc for your family but you are not happy with ap eating it - an ap is meant to be part of the family - so she eats what you do

And the problem with fish - wtf - can you not buy her a piece of salmon or cod? Prob cost £3ish

1. If you have a glass of wine with meal then yes nice to offer
2. Bite the bullet - she will eat them
3. Again so will eat organic meat if you buy it
4. Treats for yourself are fine
5. Junk/juice - all ap/teenagers like it but yes fine to have in their room

birdybear Mon 18-Nov-13 13:58:40

sounds like you are a control freak, mean or really just can't afford to live the way you like to and have an au pair!

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