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Would you look down on a parent who sent their dc to you when they were....

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MortifiedAdams Wed 30-Jan-13 03:42:19

off woek due to being unwell?
Im too.ill to work tomorrow, but wont be able.to fully rest up with 1.1yo DD here.

CM was supposed to have her tomorrow afternoon, would she be hmm if I dropped her off as usual.only crawl straight back to bed?

Nova26 Sat 02-Feb-13 12:24:35

She wouldnt care at all!
I am a childminder and If I am scheduled to have children here then thats all I need to worry about , what the parents do is none of my business, and they regulary drop them to go for hair appointments or coffee with friends, but that is not my concern once I am being paid for a job I do that job and the rest is not my business!
Rest up and hope you feel better soon....smile

Tanith Sat 02-Feb-13 00:00:58

Not at all. Why would we look down on you? You can't help being ill. I'd probably offer to collect and drop-off and keep for extra time.

I reserve my contempt for those who knowingly send their sick child.

Becp Fri 01-Feb-13 15:56:27

No I wouldn't mind, parents are entitled to some child free time whether it's due to illness, appointments or just to have a morning on the sofa playing a ps3 lol Hope you're better soon x

PartTimeModel Thu 31-Jan-13 22:05:18

Of course not. I've done that many times. It's fantastic! Hope you are feeling better soon.

embot1000 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:00:10

you have paid for the session regardless so you should take her. i am a cm and the parents of the child i look after were sick last week and i offered to have her for longer so they could rest more. personally i also believe that we are not here to just have your children whist you work but also if you need to go to any other types of appointments, shopping etc. what you do is up to you as long as your children are happy and you pay for the sessions its no questions asked. xx

Groovee Thu 31-Jan-13 14:01:29

My childminder has been a godsend when I've been ill. She was a star when dh turned up one morning with 2 shocked children cos mummy was rushed to hospital.

Anyone who judges a sick parent ensuring their child is cared for carefully and properly need a good look at themselves.

Eglantyne Thu 31-Jan-13 13:40:32

Not at all. My lovely former cm once took dd for us when dh and I were both ill, when it wasn't even her day to go there. In fact, she doesn't drive, and even got her dh to drive her round in their car to collect dd. We have no family nearby, and she was an amazing help.

Trazzletoes Thu 31-Jan-13 13:36:12

My DD is at nursery. I am at home (looking after poorly DS but that's by the by).

None of their business.

gourd Thu 31-Jan-13 13:34:07

Eh? How can you look after a toddler if you are so sick you cant go to work? I had to leave our LO at CMS on two days when I was really ill. I could hardly get out of bed, was shaking and feverish, ached all over. Simply awful. I’d have taken the full week off work but I had no cover at work so, as I only work four days per week, I struggled in on the third day, felt awful all day, made loads of mistakes but felt I had no choice. I was however extremely grateful that having LO at the CMs all day meant I could actually rest in bed all day on the two days I did take off work. Without having had proper bed-rest it'd have been absolutely impossible for me to go to work on the third day but there was an urgent thing I needed to do and had no cover for. As it was I was able to give the little energy I had to my LO in the evenings having had bed-rest rest during the day. I also think my child would’ve been a lot more likely to catch my bug had I spent those two days with her - and she didn’t get it, so neither did any of the CMs other kids..

Blondeshavemorefun Wed 30-Jan-13 23:12:15

You pay your cm so none of her business what you do when she has your dd

Hope you feel better soon smile

calmlychaotic Wed 30-Jan-13 20:00:57

bless you, you are lovely for even thinking of it, your cm is lucky to have you!! hope you are better soon.

PuppyMonkey Wed 30-Jan-13 17:30:50

Well, I'm sure she would've charged you anyway if you had kept your child at home with you so why on earth wouldn't you send her?smile

BertieBotts Wed 30-Jan-13 17:26:39

I always send my DS to the childminder if I'm off work sick! smile

thebody Wed 30-Jan-13 17:22:49

Of course not, I wouldn't have cared if my parents spent the off time Cottaging!! Ha ha as long as I was paid!!

Hope you get well soon.

HSMM Wed 30-Jan-13 16:44:30

I really don't know why people are worried about this. I told all the parents who had early finishes over Christmas to use the time to shop, cook, or whatever they needed. They were paying me, so they might as well make the most of the time. Illness is even more of a reason to take a break.

ScaredySquirrel Wed 30-Jan-13 12:50:34

I'm at home ill (eye infection) and my dd has gone to the CM. I could look after her but I'm taking advantage of a quiet day. (I had her at home yesterday with me!).

I'm well enough to have her with me, but am trying to do a bit of work at home today (failing obviously given that I'm on MN) in short bursts.

I think you're fine given that you are ill enough to go to bed unlike me who is just skiving a bit

lechatnoir Wed 30-Jan-13 12:47:38

No I definitely wouldn't & it sounds like yours doesn't either. I offered some extra hours to one of my mum's a few weeks ago as she's pregnant & suffering & thought she might want a bit of me time on her days off work and she was delighted to take me up on the offer.

fraktion Wed 30-Jan-13 11:29:22

Nope. I've been off with exhaustion. DS went to childcare because he point was for me to rest!

Twinklestarstwinklestars Wed 30-Jan-13 11:08:47

You should tell them though, I had one not tell me she was off work and we had an emergency and I couldn't contact her as she didn't have a mobile on her where she was. I rang work and they told me she was off so its important in case they need to contact you.

Mogandme Wed 30-Jan-13 09:14:16

I am a nanny and I am paid to work 50 hours a week - so I do; if my boss wants to spend that time in bed/down the pub/at the spa/at work - it doesn't bother me I am there to provide care when they are not there.

MortifiedAdams Wed 30-Jan-13 07:48:56

Thanks everyone. She was supposed to be there a half day this afternoon, CM is now going to pick her up this morning and take her to a toddler group and said I can pick her up anytime this afternoon, even if after tea. What a star!

Needed to tell her as I would have dropped her off in my pjs slouchies looking like shite so dhe would have guessed anyways.

HSMM Wed 30-Jan-13 07:46:13

Parents can do whatever they like while their children are with me. Why ever not?

tiffinbaker Wed 30-Jan-13 07:44:58

Of course your DD should go to the CM - you won't get better if you don't rest and look after yourself, and the CM gets paid to look after your DD to give you time to do other things - if one of those things is getting some sleep then that's FINE.

bigkidsdidit Wed 30-Jan-13 07:43:37

Why would you even tell her?

Once a month I take a day's annual leave and still put DS with the CM, I use te time to do all the house jobs that build up or batch cook or do my Christmas shopping, whatever. I don't tell her!

mindingalongtime Wed 30-Jan-13 07:40:23

Not at all, you choose to use your childcare how you wish, I have parents send their children all the time when they are not working, what business is it of mine what they do whilst their child is with me? Get better soon!

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