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That horrible and so sad

Why wouldn't you tell a child you are going away for the weekend ??'

Blondes we've spoken about this family before

There is only mum so no-one else to speak to. Will have to schedule a chat next week.

I think you really do need to schedule a chat. This is the kind of situation that breaks my heart

Adults can be so cruel to children without realising it. They think it's a joke but don't comprehend that the child simply doesn't understand, and this is a particularly vicious example.

Does this happen a lot? It's emotional abuse and I think you should be noting down your concerns and raising it with the relevant authorities if yo you see a worrying pattern.

Fuck. That is really nasty. What a cow. I'd have to say something, politely of course. You couldn't not really.

Oh that family

So.. how?

She often asks me if his behaviour is to do with her? Could follow on from there.... have other "issues" around the same theme, do I go in for the onslaught I hate this part of the job.

What sort of behaviour are we talking about?

It does sound as if there is a real issue here in their relationship.

General 4 year old stuff. But he is generally silly/naughty for her and then we have big tantrums but again nothing a bit of consistency wouldn't solve.

Thats awful. What if something happens like a car crash and god forbid the parent dies, that child will be even more messed up thinking it happened because she said i hate you.

It sounds like he's desperate for her attention/approval.

If she can't already see that and is saying this sort of thing I'm not how or if you'll be able to get through to her tbh.