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Just before bed just suddenly came out with it! I don't know what to think - she is a lovely lady, seems to adore him and he's been with her more than a year. He is only just saying sentences recently so don't know if he is repeating something he heard or saw somewhere, rather than it being something that actually happened. He did say earlier he had kicked one of the little girls, which doesn't seem like him either. I'm so confused! Would you say anything to CM?

From what you have said, it is highly unlikely that your CM smacked your child's face. Kids say all sorts of things. At the age when they are starting it talk, it can be even harder to understand.

However, shit like this can happen. If you like and respect your CM (and it seems you do going on what you have said) then do talk to her rather than stew.

I hope you get it all sorted satisfactorily. Good luck.

Yes. Talk to your CM. One of my mindees was going home saying he had been hitting one of the other children (he hadn't). His Mum was really worried about it, until she heard him talking in his sleep ... I hit X ... I hit Y ... I hit Z ... etc. I reassured her that although he had once tried hitting another child, it had never happened again.

As Alliwant said though, these things do happen, so best to have a chat and get the facts out in the open.

I agree with the others. My ds, aged 4, comes out with all sorts of tall tales and doesn't seem to understand the difference between the truth and make believe. He also repeats a lot of phrases that he hears at school and on TV. Talk to your childminder and see what her reaction is.

Always best to talk, he could be telling the cm all sorts of tales about you! But if u don't have a chat to her you will be worrying a out it. She won't mind I am sure. U could start by asking her a out him saying he hit the girls and c what she says to that.

the 2 year old i nanny for told his mum that he fell in the road when with me, when she saw some mud on his vest and asked him why (we hadn't been out side that day!)
So try to give benefit of the doubt, he may be saying to her mummy hit my face.

DD2 (nearly 3) told daddy last night that I pulled her hair & really hurt her. She wanted him to send me to the naughty step

In actual fact her hair got caught on my watch & she wouldn't stay still whilst I untangled her.

Talk to her - if she is experienced she will have heard it all before.

Around 4 my ds told me him and his friends had been trying to chop their bits off with scissors! Teacher said the scissors were hidden so not true, he didn't tell me what had gone on at his childminders which now I know and is shocking.

Thank you all for your advice. I did talk to her today and she was mortified, tears welled up etc and I felt reassured that her reaction was entirely natural and that it was just one of those loopy statements that 2 year olds make.

I do feel uncomfortable if it has upset her, but not as horrible as I would be feeling now if I hadn't tackled it.

Glad you managed to talk to her. I may well react in the same way she did if one of my mindees had said that to their parents but mainly from knowing the parent had probably been worrying about it. Definitely best you asked her and pleased you feel reassured.

You did the right thing. I once looked after a little girl (7) who would call her mother to tell that I smacked her/did horrible things to her just so that the mother would come home. Of course the mother knew what was going on and said to her she shall tell me to smack her even harder :D