Would you like to have your delivery photographed?

(42 Posts)
seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 09:18:34

I photographed a delivery recently and it was the most wonderful and moving experience. The parents asked me to be present and are now thrilled to have that moment documented.

I was certainly surprised to hear their request! I wonder if this would interest or horrify most expecting mothers?

MustTidyUpMustTidyUp Wed 01-May-13 09:19:12

Horrify!

MrsJohnDeere Wed 01-May-13 09:29:53

Horrify!

RuckAndRoll Wed 01-May-13 09:38:37

Definately not. Photos can come after baby is safely tucked up on my chest.

EssieW Wed 01-May-13 09:42:01

I would have said no but one of my independent midwives did take done photos when I was in labour and shortly after (ie a few minutes) and they are lovely.

EssieW Wed 01-May-13 09:42:35

That's 'some' photos obviously

TwentyTinyToes Wed 01-May-13 09:45:04

Ds - maybe, calm, serene waterbirth
Dd- no, induced, not so calm

Would quite like them to look back on,

TwentyTinyToes Wed 01-May-13 09:46:17

Ds - maybe, calm, serene waterbirth
Dd- no, induced, not so calm

Would quite like them to look back on privately, not the sort of pictures you put up!

DaisyFlower123 Wed 01-May-13 09:51:06

Horrify!! No, No, no!!!

ThedementedPenguin Wed 01-May-13 09:56:36

I'm not sure, it would be great to have some pictures of the baby straight away, however you don't know how labour is going to turn out and I would hate for there to be another person in the room.

abigboydidit Wed 01-May-13 12:22:12

No shock

TheSlug Wed 01-May-13 12:40:13

yes! (disclaimer- I'm not a mum and I might not be pregnant)

DontmindifIdo Wed 01-May-13 12:44:07

no, it was my most vunerable and most terrifying moments of my life - the photo I do have that DH took, taken about 10 minutes later when I'm snuggling DS to me, is one of the most beautiful photos I possess - it doesn't need a professional photographer.

seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 12:46:07

So mostly no's with a few interested in capturing the beautiful moments to be able to look back on them. How about if your female photographer offered a bump, delivery and new baby in family package, from which you could choose one, two or all of the options. If you got to know the photographer and liked them, would you feel more comfortable arranging for them to be around, when you wanted, for the important moments?

I would love to see moments from the births of my two children, or a video. I would love to see what happend from another angle, as it were.

There aren't many photos from the time right after the birth of DD, in fact the photos start from the next day really due to the fact that lots of other stuff was happening. With DS though I have a wonderful picture of him and me that I took myself while DH was making calls. That'll do!

AtYourCervix Wed 01-May-13 12:47:26

Birth.

Pizzas are delivered.

seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 13:33:40

good point AtYourCervix!

moogalicious Wed 01-May-13 13:37:26

grin I thought pizza/shopping delivery when I read the title.

seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 14:13:16

accidental pun on the title, sorry ladies blush

Florin Wed 01-May-13 14:16:59

I had a very simple birth but one of my specific requests to my husband was no photos! I didn't want pics of me straight after birth either looking awful. We have of course got pictures of my ds straight after birth which are lovely.

seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 14:20:43

LittleDirewolfBitJoffrey I wonder if there are more women who share your interest in documenting their births with video or photographs?

seizethecamera Wed 01-May-13 14:22:36

I shall continue my research! Thank you to everyone who has responded so far!

GingerDoodle Wed 01-May-13 21:12:02

Beforehand - I would have said hell no.

Now, given my experience - It might be nice, if unobtrusively and sensitively done.

However in my case; there was no time; my camera didn't even make it in with us (nor did the bag with towels!) until the morning after.

knittedflower Wed 01-May-13 22:05:49

I had photos taken of giving birth to my second child, at home in the water, I have some of my third child immediately afterwards, I didn't plan either way to have them photographed or not just told my sister to snap away with dc2 and not with dc3. Would not have considered it first time around but then one of my favourite photos was of her on my chest still blue. I am a midwife though and I kind of wanted to see how it looked when it was me having seen so many others go through it !

exoticfruits Wed 01-May-13 22:07:27

No! No one other than you would ever want to see it. The DC certainly won't!

Springforward Wed 01-May-13 22:13:46

Nope. Yuk.

LifeOfPee Wed 01-May-13 22:15:45

Yes. I would love to have some pics of DS's birth. However, it was a calm and easy (well, as easy as it ever gets) labour and birth.

DD's birth on the other hand wouldn't have made for great snaps, maybe at the point of delivery but labour was me, on a bed, groaning. We don't need pictures of that.

Very difficult to plan any of that so inviting someone beforehand to take photos might not be feasible really.

xigris Wed 01-May-13 22:21:03

We have photos of DS1 the moment he was born, but none of the actual birth. I was pretty out of it on the entonox so couldn't remember a lot about his birth I'm also a bit of a control freak and thought it was a bit of a shame I never got to see his arrival. DH took photos of DS2 crowning and then filmed DS3s actual birth. It was a good couple of weeks before I could watch it but I'm so glad we did this. It was lovely to watch. Having said that, it was a very easy, fast birth. I think that had there been any complications or it had been traumatic, then I don't think I could have watched it! I also don't think that either DH or I would have wanted someone else at the births purely to record it.

I'm going off on a tangent now, but on the subject of having an extra person at the birth I've never got my head around the amount of people at some documentary (eg A Baby Story) births! I saw one where the labouring woman had her DH, parents, sister, in laws AND her Pastor! hmm

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Fuckwittery Wed 01-May-13 22:22:24

My next and third brith will likely be a planned section so I might consider it, don't want the gory bits but I would be nice for dh to focus on me and photos to be taken by someone else. Although I think they only allow one in theatre so probably wouldn't work,
No way to natural delivery shots. I just couldn't have another person in the room and would be put off, I find it hard enough to labour with medical people around.

Yes. Just not the bit when I was pooing or shouting at DP.

quip Wed 01-May-13 22:28:42

Yes except when pooing, screaming amd vomiting. And the haemorrhage would have been a bit monochrome, photo-wise.

Tbh I can't think of much worse than creating a digital record of the baby crowning.

No. No. No.

The idea of having a stranger in the room who isn't anything to do with the birth (ie midwife/doula) is awful.

JiltedJohnsJulie Wed 01-May-13 22:29:53

Horrify here too.

PoppyWearer Wed 01-May-13 22:31:30

No no no!

There was blood.....everywhere with both of mine. Everywhere.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

JiltedJohnsJulie Wed 01-May-13 22:41:59

Arrhhg to mirrors. DH didn't even want to cut e cord.

5madthings Wed 01-May-13 22:46:23

Yes i wish i had photos of mine, i have one in labour with dd.

I wish i had some pics of my labour with ds4, pool birth. Would have been lovely to have a pic of me and him im the pool.

My ds1 was at dd's birth and took pics on his phone but someone stole his phone before we got the chance to download them sad

seizethecamera Thu 02-May-13 12:48:39

Oh no 5madthings! that's such a shame!!
This is all so interesting. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I must say I don't have children myself. The reason I'm putting feelers out to see how women feel about documenting their births, is because it struck me as such a special and seminal moment in person's/family's life. This seems obvious to say, but you just can't describe the look on a mother and father's face when they see their child come into the world. I realized there are probably few more poignant events in life that bring everybody together. So as a photographer, it was fascinating!

elliejjtiny Thu 02-May-13 16:44:55

I wouldn't want a proffessional photographer in the room, or have the actual birth photographed. However I've seen some lovely photos done by birth photographers of the older siblings going off with grandparents so I'm going to ask DH to do that, as well as the one of me and the baby having skin to skin, baby being weighed ones he usually does.

I spent most of latent labour with DS3 pacing up and down the corridors in the hospital. When I heard they were going to tear down that part of the hospital I went and took photos of the corridors where I had been pacing [soppy idiot emoticon]

AmandaCooper Fri 03-May-13 14:55:39

Yes - the photo I have of me in the pool with DS is my favourite photograph ever. We also have some lovely shots taken just after his birth, I only wish there were more. I'd want exclusive rights to the photos though!

LO was photographed very soon after birth with me, OH and the MW. Lovely pictures that I will treasure forever.

If someone had pulled a camera out while I was in labour/delivering him, I probably would've killed them with my bare hands.

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