Anyone had a home birth for their first?

(51 Posts)
HotToddyDog Sun 28-Apr-13 17:18:58

What was it like, would you recommend it?

I'm currently 18 weeks with DC1, always presumed I would have a hospital birth but my midwife mentioned a home birth at the booking appointment at 12 weeks and seemed really keen, so have been thinking about it on and off since then!

I like the thought of it as guaranteed water birth if I hire a pool (my hospital only has one birthing pool), obviously been nice to be in my own surroundings, one to one care plus I don't fancy staying in for days after would rather be at home.

I'm just over 5 mins from the hospital but still scared if things go wrong, plus being my first not sure how I'm going to cope with the pain, is it a big deal to be transferred in half-way through if I need something stronger? And how about helping with bf after, do the midwives come back to help you later on or the next day?

I didn't mention it to my midwife at the 16 week appointment so next time I see her is at 28weeks, I presume this is still enough time if I do want to go for it??

Any advice or experiences greatly received!!

Dorange Sun 28-Apr-13 17:23:36

I did. It lasted 4 hours only. One of the midwives was late so my husband had to help and do her job. It was brilliant but I appreciate I might have been lucky. Of course I recommend since I had a excellent experience but childbirth is like lottery and what works for some may not work for others, so you need to make up your mind for yourself..

Congratulations smile

I tried for a homebirth with Ds my first and only so far 10 months ago. We bought a blow up birth pool (la bassine) but I didn't manage it. I waa in labour for 40 hours in total...managed 30 hours at home and would have stayed longer in terms of being able to manage it without pain relief but the midwife I liked had to finish her shift and I didn't like the replacement at all, plus they thought something could be going wrong because it was taking so long (I wouldn't let them do internal exam so they were guessing)

I did have the pool at home for labour which was lovely the while experience of being at home was great, I only called the midwife to come twice so mostly just me and my dp. I would definitely try for it again next time.

Transfer should have been by ambulance but I went in the car, it was uncomfortable transferring but not unbearable. Turned out baby was back to back and had arm up in the way and head facing at a funny angle so was the right decision to go in.

I liked the fact that I was able to just manage my own pain and keep myself calm, it was much harder when I got to hospital and immediately asked for pain relief because I found the situation hard and more stressful. There is usually a lot of time to make decisions about whether to go in or not and we often know a lot about hoe labour is going as it goes so I think it's definitely worth trying for one!

Good luck

Celia1978 Sun 28-Apr-13 18:36:56

I did. Similar situation to you - only five mins from hospital, wanted a guaranteed water birth, very keen midwife. Main motivation was not having to decide when to go in to hospital (or going in and being sent home) and not having to be in hospital afterwards.

It was a long labour (like previous poster, my baby's arm was up and head to one side) and I think had the baby not put in an appearance when she did they'd have started talking about transferring in. But am very glad I was at home - felt relaxed the whole time and did without pain relief - it definitely hurt, but not in a way that would make me panic and think, 'I can't cope with this.' Maybe because I was relaxed, or maybe I was just lucky!

The midwives were all great and I felt like I got good support with feeding etc too. Though not necessarily more/better than if I'd been in hospital. They were all very enthusiastic but also professional - lots of monitoring etc. I felt looked after in every sense.

I don't think you have to decide before 36 weeks or something and anyway, as my mw pointed out, if you decide on a home birth you can change your mind at any point and go to hospital instead - can't do it the other way around, so you might as well plan to do it at home if you're keen on the idea!

I haven't got anything bad to say about it really - just made the birth seem really normal and do-able. Hope that helps!

Celia1978 Sun 28-Apr-13 18:48:26

Ps re: feeding, the midwives will see you feed before they go and offer advice etc. Pretty sure they come the next day too, and on day five (I think) for more checks. I'd recommend finding the numbers of local support groups/La Leche League helpline etc and putting them on the fridge in case you wake up with monster engorged boobs on day four (like I did!) or whatever else, and need some immediate support or advice.

JuliaScurr Sun 28-Apr-13 18:52:07

my friend did; it was disastrous - new midwife, haemmorrage, baby mother and midwife in shock, all rushed to hospital

I had one with DD1 and it was fab. WS hoping for a repeat with dd2 but sadly it wasn't to be. Having had one of each I'd never pick hospital birth by choice.

Kubalai Sun 28-Apr-13 19:02:25

I did - brilliant experience, I felt safe and able to do what I needed to do throughout a long latent phase and fast and furious delivery. I loved the birth pool, and havinga bath in my own bathroom and snuggling up in bed after with dd1 and dh after was unbeatable.

I enjoyed it so much I wanted to do it all again, and did with dd2!

janek Sun 28-Apr-13 19:07:42

I did, it was a good idea. It was much more relaxing (i imagine, i had both my dds at home) dd1 was 7 lb, labour around 15 hours, dd2 was 9lb 10 with a head above the 98th centile, labour also 15 hours.

I did have to go to hospital when dd1 was five days old as i wasn't feeding her properly and the feeling of disempowerment was incredible. I suddenly had no confidence in what i was doing, in fact they let dp stay with us too as i was no use to man or beast. Then we were allowed home and i knew what to do again.

My point is, in your own home you know the way things are and can follow your own agenda more easily. In hospital it's someone else's house and you have to follow their rules. And i prefer my rules!

My dd also got very sick when she was a baby. I could be wrong but I truely believe that had she been born at home none of the first three months would have happened. Being in hospital served to do nothing but to expose her to bugs that being a little small and a little early she had no hope of fending off.

CityDweller Sun 28-Apr-13 19:25:54

I did - 2 wks ago. I am glad I got to do it at home, as for some reason it was important to me (not really sure why!) and it was so nice not having to go anywhere before during or after. It was, however, extraordinarily painful! But I had a precipitous (fast) labour and went from 2cm to fully dilated in about an hour, so essentially had no respite in pain btw contractions, yet didn't know that's why it was do painful as I got in pool at 2cm and didn't get examined again. But - I coped (the pool was a godsend as I hated the gas and air, and yelling REALLY loudly seemed to help too - so much for my natal hypnotherapy plans for a calm birth!) and the pushing stage was far less painful in that I actually got breaks btw contractions. Everything was fine with me (only minor grazing and an internal small tear, none of which warranted stitches) and baby (she had hard time regulating her temp and poor mws had to stay 5 hrs after labour until it was consistently high enough).

Would I do it that way again? Who knows - I know I wd have been massively disappointed if I'd had to be induced or go to hospital and I'm proud of what I did and it was so nice being at home afterwards. And even if I had been in hospital there wouldn't have been time to get that epidural I was begging for in the midsts of things wink.

The mw helped get her latched on, and they came and visited us 3 more times in 1st 5 days. But we still had big bf probs, and had a bf helper out from hospital twice and a local peer supporter too. I wd absolutely say familiarise yourself with what support is available locally to you - esp in your home as you won't feel like going to a drop-in on day 2 and it is miserable when it's not going right and you're in pain and sleep-deprived and baby is crying. But we persevered and got good support and it's a million times better now!

WestoS Mon 29-Apr-13 04:48:20

I did - and it was brilliant. Having a supportive midwife was critical I think, as it gave us a lot of confidence that we were doing the right thing. Same as you, it was our midwife who got us thinking about it in the first place. We looked up a lot of studies on the safety etc ad were open minded about possibly having to transfer. Also open to not being able to even try for home birth eg if te baby had been breech or overdue or any other 'problem' we would have been fine to go with their advice and go into hospital. Home birth was great tho, could just focus on getting through each stage of increasingly intense contractions without having to decide when to go into hospital, the gas and air was amazing and for me it was all worth it for the fact that we could stay as a new family all together at home from the start, I would've hated being in post natal ward without DH andhe would've hated being made to go home without us. The midwife only did one internal exam, that I asked for, thb just observed, pretty hands off, I did need a couple of stitches which she did. She had dropped off abox of kit a couple of weeks before and advised us to get some shower curtains for the floor, then she cleared up everything for us, helped me have a wee etc then checked feeding. A different midwife came the next morning to do the neonatal checks then had 2 more daily visits then a 5 and 10 day visit. Plenty of support! Would still have chosen home birth even if we'd had to be transferred as would still have liked to spend the majority of labour at home. Hope that helpa'

HotToddyDog Mon 29-Apr-13 12:06:13

Thanks so much for taking the time to share your experiences. Lots of positive stories although I guess you have to be prepared in case it doesn't work out, but feeling quite good about it now. So true you can always start off at home and then go into hospital but not the other way round, hadn't thought of it like that! Has certainly given me a lot to think about! Thanks again smile

mamabrownbear Mon 29-Apr-13 20:46:22

We are and only decided the other week (at 37 weeks!!) but are all set to go. MW was very understanding. Our hospital only has one birthing pool and I realised if someone else was using it I would have been really upset and stressed which wouldn't not have been good for anyone! So home birth it is. I got a scan last week to check baby is all in the right place which was reassuring and then it was just green light for home birth. We bought la bassine which we will sell on after but I would have bought a second hand one if we had time. Hiring seems reply expensive when you can get them second hand or buy to sell on. I've got lots of snacks, water and rescue remedy, labour massage oils and of course, happy to use gas and air! I want it to be hands off, let me just get on with it, peace and no arsing around with silly nurses telling me stuff I don't want to hear. Plus we are also only 5 mins from hospital so if we need to go then its not too far, bags still packed just incase but I'm really looking forward to hopefully a peaceful birth and immediately starting life as a family, in our home rather than a hospital and being separated from my husband later on when he needs us because he will be going through lots of emotions too. Really hope it works out for you, I think it's a great idea.

Jojobump1986 Tue 30-Apr-13 19:19:47

We did. Had to transfer in for a small pph & a bad 2nd degree tear that she was reluctant to do at home. I felt v in control even when the mw seemed to be getting stressed! I'm pretty sure I had a pph because I was dehydrated & I tore because they wanted us to transfer in & I decided he was coming out so pushed a bit too enthusiastically! blush We're hoping for another one in a few weeks time. I'd recommend to anyone that they stay at home as long as possible. There's always the option of transferring if necessary.

mamabrownbear Thu 02-May-13 10:35:16

Just watched this, I appreciate it's old and also about American health care but still very interesting...The Business of being Born
http://youtu.be/NdOUUHN8ipw

ShowOfHands Thu 02-May-13 10:48:11

I wanted a home waterbirth and that's what I aimed for. But after a lot of pushing (31hr labour, 4hrs pushing at home), I had to transfer to hospital. Turned out dd was in a very, very shoddy position and after a lot of intervention, I had an emcs.

I didn't regret it a bit. I was disappointed not to give birth naturally or at home but planned to try again for a homebirth second time round so clearly I liked that bit! Turned out ds was in the same shocking position and after 38hrs I had another emcs. grin Am crap at giving birth tbh.

The one thing I will say is prepare for a transfer. Statistics suggest that a successful homebirth is more likely than a transfer but my only real problem was that I was so set on a home delivery that the transfer felt like a failure. I'd packed a bag and was physically prepared but emotionally, I hadn't faced that it was a real possibility.

Aim for what you'd like but plan for every eventuality. That way you've thought about it in advance and you feel more in control.

organiccarrotcake Fri 03-May-13 20:42:51

No real difference to transfer in from a homebirth to transferring in with a planned hospital birth smile Both mean a transfer, and with a good, experienced midwife and unless you're really, really unlucky you won't be transferring in an emergency (and emergencies can happen when you're at home anyway, before a planned hospital birth), it will be a slow and gentle transfer if needed. You can book a homebirth and decide to transfer in at any time, so in effect you don't need to decide until you're in labour, if the homebirth is booked.

Homebirths are safer when you look at iatrogenic damage to mother and baby, and you're less likely to have things like haemorrhage at home. Even if you do, your midwife will carry the same drugs as will be available in the hospital.

It's a brilliant suggestion from your midwife and means you've got a great chance of your first birth (the most important when you look at your child bearing career!) being really positive, even if you do transfer in, as often (as can be seen on this thread) planned homebirths with a transfer as more positive than planned hospital births.

www.homebirth.org.uk is a really useful site to browse around.

Indith Fri 03-May-13 20:49:43

Showy is very wise. It is a good idea to be ready emotionally for things not going to plan.

However, homebirth is great and, with the exception of babies being in daft positions and needing an ems, even if you transfer in due to complications/the possibility of complications you are still less likely to have interventions than a woman labouring in hospital.

All 3 of mine have been at home for which I am extremely grateful. each has been a lovely experience.

HotToddyDog Mon 06-May-13 21:40:19

Just seen all the other replies, thank you ladies useful advice, will have a nosy at homebirth.org.uk now.

mamabrownbear thanks also for the for link, good luck for your home birth smile

LastOrdersAtTheBra Mon 06-May-13 21:52:54

I planned a homebirth with DC1, unfortunately had an ambulance transfer to hospital because there was blood everywhere when my waters went. I'm also only 5 mins from hospital, I seriously thought I'd been transferred somewhere else though, as it felt like I was in the ambulance for hours!

DS2 was born at home so the first experience didn't put me off.

I'd always opt for a homebirth as first choice but be flexible, plans change, particularly where birth is concerned.

Dorisday13 Wed 08-May-13 08:23:18

Yes it was amazing and I highly recommend it! 2.5h labour no drugs no examinations, gave birth in the pool no tearing, own shower and wrapped up in own bed soon after :-) x

Dorisday13 Wed 08-May-13 09:26:21

Sorry I reread your op, I have daily visits for 3d then at 5d and 10d, the MW gave me her mobile number to call in case I needed her overnight, which I didn't, it's no big deal to transfer at any point, you can get meptid on prescription the MW can give if you need it

Dorisday13 Wed 08-May-13 09:27:11

Also it's never too late to decide, my friend changed to a home birth at 40+ weeks!!

Sparhawk Wed 08-May-13 09:30:25

I had an unplanned homebirth after a 3 1/2 hour labor, my DD was BBA (born before arrival) so she was delivered by my DM and DF. It was actually an enjoyable experience, aside from the slight panic as it was unplanned and if I have kids in the future I am definitely going for a planned homebirth, the only issue for me is that we live 25 minutes from the closest maternity hospital.

Sparhawk Wed 08-May-13 09:40:05

Oh, I did have to go to hospital due to two small tears. The worst part for me was that, the adrenaline had worn off by then (I did it drug free) and the nurse who sewed me up didn't put enough painkillers in before sewing me up, it was horrific, much worse than the birth. sad But, yeah, no examinations was great as I was panicking about that before the birth.

Holly1977 Sun 12-May-13 10:23:25

I've pretty much decided to have a home water birth, it'll be my first. I'm only 8 weeks gone so it's a LONG way off yet but it was great to read all your thoughts and experiences. My doctor friend (anaesthetist in obs and gynae) was predictably not keen. She said she never would but could see why I'm keen. She thinks I'm "brave". But she also said as I'm very down to earth and pragmatic and have done yoga for 10 years so know about controlling breathing etc, it's probably a good choice for me. DP isn't keen either but suspect that's just the same instinctive reaction I had at first. I said "no way" to the midwife but the more thought I've given it, it seems like a total no brainer really. As I say, LONG way off yet but just thought I'd get in on this thread! thanks

sydlexic Mon 13-May-13 08:32:59

Two out of three of my babies would not have survived if I had a home birth.

If you need an emergency C S, you may not get to the hospital quick enough.

I would not risk a home birth ever.

Dorisday13 Mon 13-May-13 09:51:58

From a safety point of view I had 3 midwives all to myself the whole time, I don't know anyone who had this is hospital, Also if I'd have needed a c section it would have been picked up straight away (because I had 3 midwives with me) a ambulance transfer and a theatre waiting for me, I was told around 12mins, I think I'd wait a lot longer than that if I was in hospital! I don't think they check on women every 12 mins when you're in hospital!

EdgarAllanPond Mon 13-May-13 12:32:42

I had a HB for my first, very glad i did - it was relatively fast, intensely painful, but very low-stress.

I had a highly skilled MW with me the whole time (she was made team leader after)

My sister also had a HB for her first - her labour was much slower with a stuck back-to-back baby. two midwives in attendance. She transferred into hospital and from that point on was completely ignored - a MW sat in the room doing paperwork whilst she was strapped to a monitor. the monitor wasn't working but the MW still did not check FHB. terrible. Baby delivered by forceps in the end, postnatal support for BF also crap - visiting policy made it hard for me to attend and help her too. (though i did anyway, and 'milked' her to get supply started)

She would have a HB again but this time with an Independent who would stay with her in the event of transfer, and provide much better BF support than the NHS provided.

Holly1977 Tue 14-May-13 12:04:51

I'm finding people's knee jerk negativity really annoying. No-one on here, I mean friends and family. It's like everyone just says no it's a terrible idea having done absolutely no research or given it any thought. My doctor friend pointed out you have to satisfy a lot of criteria along the way and things can change as you go along so even if it's what I want, it may not happen. I'm trying not to set my heart on it...

organiccarrotcake Tue 14-May-13 15:15:40

You don't have to "satisfy" any "criteria" other than you want a home birth. Your baby, your body, your choice. Equally your choice to change your mind at any time (including in labour) and transfer. Your choice, your right and no one can change that.

NotALemon Tue 14-May-13 15:54:32

I'm 13 weeks and planning a homebirth for my first. These stories have been lovely to read, you see a lot of homebirth stories from people who have had a baby previously, but it's nice to see so many people on their first who've had good experiences! My other half is still a bit nervous about it, a colleague at his work told him that a 'consultant paediatrician' he knows said he'd never have a home or water birth as the risk of babies being born 'damaged' is 90%!! I told him in no uncertain terms this paediatrician is obviously from the University of Knobbers. I'll show him this thread as a bit of reassurance!

Dorisday13 Wed 15-May-13 06:51:34

Holly1977 that was why we kept pie choice a secret and told them afterwards! my mum was panicking I hadn't packed a hospital bag yet grin

Dorisday13 Wed 15-May-13 06:57:32

Also kept the due date very vague!

squidkid Wed 15-May-13 07:00:50

I'm a (hospital) doctor who had a home birth for my first back in September, if that redresses the balance of doctors making knee-jerk comments at all! The Place of Birth study does not back up their claims at all.

I had a long labour which I think would have been classed as failure to progress in hospital. I really think it would have been longer in hospital, I did remain mostly quite relaxed at home. It was tough, not going to lie, but in the end I had baby with no complications, no drugs, no tears, no stitches - I had fantastic midwives and felt absolutely safe throughout, very good postnatal support, my own bed, my own shower, a huge bowl of real food, and it might just be coincidence but I have had an easy time of breastfeeding (no pain, no weight gain problems) and a pretty settled baby.

lovesmileandlaugh Wed 15-May-13 07:09:28

Both mine were planned home births!

DD1 was a 36 hour labour and we transferred to hospital 20 minutes before she was born. I think getting out to the ambulance shifted her along and I was pushing as we sped to hospital. In all honesty, it was quite traumatic for DH, he found it very scary at the end. An Internet forum I posted on at the time said 'so you failed at home birth' which was such a sad comment. Just be prepared to go with what feels right at the time!

However, it didn't put me off, and DD2 was born at home after a 4 hour labour. Put DD1 to bed, had a takeaway, was rumbling a bit so had a soak in the bath. Got out about 10pm and labour really kicked in. DH watched Match of the Day over the top of my head. Midwife came at 11pm, born at 12.30am. The big sister slept through and met her in the morning. It was lovely!

Just don't get too fixed on how it should be, you won't really know what you want until it happens!

squidkid Wed 15-May-13 07:14:41

lovesmile and laugh I can't believe someone said you failed at homebirth. What an absolute twat. Sounds like you delivered like an action hero...

Your second birth sounds so lovely!

I think about 50% of first time mums planning a home birth transfer into hospital - usually for nonemergency reasons like wanting more pain relief or failure to progress - so it's worth keeping that in mind and not getting too fixed on it (easier said than done sometimes).

Holly1977 Wed 15-May-13 11:59:05

Thanks so much guys, it's really good to hear some positivity for a change. Another friend told me yesterday I was being very brave and she admired my positive attitude and that I sounded just like her before she had her first. Backhanded compliment if ever I've heard one! In other words, I'm naive and once I've had one I'll know better (she's had 2, both difficult hospital births). She also said that first births are always complicated (bollocks!) and maybe it'd be better to wait for my second. She also said that just because they say they'll be two midwives available doesn't mean there actually will be and I may end up going into hospital anyway purely because they can't get a mw to my home. And that I should think about paying for a private mw or doula if I'm determined. Which was all very encouraging and not at all negative(!!!). How does it work with the mws though? What happens if your mw isn't available or you go into labour at 3am on a Saturday night or something? What about if her shift finishes when you're still in labour?

megarobotdiscoparty Wed 15-May-13 12:45:17

squidkid it's 45% first time mums transfer I think? We're planning a HB for our first, and very much looking at it as a way to do as much as we can in an environment where we feel comfortable. Friends who have started at home and transferred said they loved the time they had in their own space, and starting off in that mind-set really helped them stay in control throughout. All are planning HBs again next time.

It's such a personal choice. I have also been wary of telling many people because I know not everyone feels the same as I do. In talking generally with people about HBs whilst pregnant I have been surprised how much scary misinformation is thrown around by people who haven't actually taken the time to check readily available research. It would be easy to be put off your stride - but don't be. It's your choice, and if you know your reasons and have educated yourself properly there's absolutely no reason you should be made to feel bad about it.

- lovesmile I feel so sorry for that commenter, what an eejit! sounds like you did brilliantly to me!

Holly1977 Thu 16-May-13 10:55:23

That's exactly it mega. Even if I end up giving birth in hospital, being able to spend as much of the labour as I can at home in a nice pool of water seems much better than being in hospital for hours, or days as has been the case for some of my friends. Yeah, I should probably learn to keep my mouth shut too! That's a much more sensible policy.

organiccarrotcake Thu 16-May-13 11:14:41

Holly,

You have made the MW team aware of your decision and it is up to them to work out how to get MWs to you. This link discusses it and AIMS have a very strongly worded letter to send if you start getting the "there may not be a midwife available" excuse (very common). www.aims.org.uk/faq.htm#Question2

Incidentally there's no evidence to show that 2 midwives give a better outcome than 1, so the NHS would probably be able to do a lot more HBs by sending just 1 experienced HB midwife. Independent midwives almost always work alone and have excellent outcomes. However, having 2 to yourself is rather lovely and far better than sharing one midwife with several other labouring women in hospital.

brettgirl2 Fri 17-May-13 19:14:56

No evidence but I assumed that there is one midwife for the mother and one for the baby? The mother potentially could bleed and the baby need reviving? I found having 2 reassuring. OP I 'only' had a hb for dc2 and I would have ended up transferring in my first labour if I'd planned a hb. But if it's what you want go for it. I think I was lucky that the only negativity was my dinosaur dad. Good luck my hb was fab smile

Ivytheterrible Tue 28-May-13 11:13:46

I had a successful planned homebirth for my first and am currently 18wks and planning one again for my second. I am also very close to my hospital - less than 5 minutes by car/ambulance.

My mum was very supportive as had had 3 homebirths herself, the MIL thought I was insane but have never known anyone to have a homebirth before. DH said he would go with whatever I wanted.

I was 5 hrs from first twinge to babe in arms and gave birth in the blow up pool we had set up on our lounge floor. Had 2 tiny stitches also done at home.

I had 2 midwives for the birth but the second one only came for the last 30 mins or so of labour. My baby did need reviving which was the scariest bit but they were well equiped to deal with this. We had been advised to set up a firm table for emergency care and ventilation in case and this was used.

Neither of us had to go to hospital and within an hr I was showered and on the sofa eating a m and s lasagne.

I would recommend it!

Snowflakepie Tue 28-May-13 17:36:58

With planning and an open mind it can be a great thing. Despite my mw encouraging me, I couldn't get beyond the 45 min drive to hospital and not knowing how I would cope with pain, as I had never really experienced pain before. So I went with the hospital as I was more concerned about being stuck in an ambulance for so long in an emergency situation, with my DH having to travel separately and drive himself in what might be a deeply stressful time for him too. A shorter transfer might well have changed my mind. As it turned out, all was fine, and I cope with pain well. This pg, I will still be going to the hospital but this time to the birth centre which is mw led. The pain doesn't worry me, the transfer time still does. Also I really don't find water very soothing, hate baths etc, so the birth pool issue really doesn't affect me. It seems to be the biggest concern for the mums I know who have had home births.

So not really answering your question but if all goes well with your pg, you aren't too far from the hospital if needed and you want to give it a go, why not try?! I have only heard positive stories from those who were successful. All the transfer stories local to me were horrendous, but that's due to the distance here sad

HelloBear Tue 28-May-13 19:24:02

I have had 2 hbs, so 1st DD was a hb.

The reasons? Because of the high level of support and monitoring you get. So much more than in hospital (well that's my understanding as I've never had a hospital birth).

Also I can't imagine only having one room to labour in. I used all of my house, up and down the stairs, numerous baths, kitchen, sofa, bed, etc, etc. Now I will admit when I was in transition with my 2nd I was asking to go to hospital for an epidural. Shortly started to push after that to get it over.

Good luck!!!!

spiderlight Mon 03-Jun-13 15:37:25

I did and it was fantastic! I didn't get my water birth though, as our home water tank wasn't big enough to fill the pool to the required depth and temperature to keep the pressure at the right level, so I had to push on dry land. We could probably have got round this if we'd had a trial run and had contingency plans in place, but DS was nearly three weeks early and arrived the day after the birth pool did! I still had several lovely hours in it though, with DH madly boiling pans to keep it topped up. Other than that the whole thing was lovely, I felt very safe and relaxed and my midwives were brilliantly supportive throughout.

webminx Mon 03-Jun-13 18:49:46

Had planned HB with DC1. Was a very long labour and transferred in quite late. Had been stuck at 8cm for hours and MW were getting twitchy at length of time since waters had broken. Like lovesmile though, the trip in the ambulance shifted things along and DC1 was born within an hour of arriving at hospital. Really glad stayed at home for so long as in hospital, would have been classed as failure to progress, would have felt pressured to agree to "speeding things up" and would undoubtedly have gone for more drastic pain relief as I found the hospital environment quite stressful. As it was, we requested a rapid discharge and were home a couple of hours later so never saw the postnatal ward etc. Would highly recommend staying at home as long as you can/planning a HB but would echo others on having a very open mind to a transfer and remembering that you can change your mind at ANY stage as things unfold on the day. Good luck!

I did, 17 years ago, and it was lovely smile

nannyl Wed 05-Jun-13 20:31:50

I did

bit of luck i did as my hypnobirthing meant i didnt even know myself i was in proper labour until transition, 12 mins before she popped out (un pushed) onto the sofa
(hospital 45+ mins away.... midwife 1 had just popped in 5 mins before as she wanted to see for herself i wasnt anywhere close, midwife 2 didnt arrive until after the birth)

It was a truley amazing experiance..... i had her at 2237, ate chocolate brioche and fruit juice, afterward (no plastic hospital toast), DD had a lovely breastfeed on the sofa and by 1am all 3 of us were asleep in our own comfy beds, me having had an hours bath, with a midwife in my lovely (clean) bathroom.

Hoping all goes well this time.... im nearly 38 weeks now, so waiting for number 2 to join us some day soon.... at home (obviously?).... and hopefully IN rather than next to my pool!

Sevillemarmalade Sun 09-Jun-13 19:18:40

Two planned Homebirths, no pool or pain relief. Did hypnobirthing cd during pregnancies. First labour 5hrs, second 8hrs and no problems of any kind. Best decision about anything I have ever made in my life (and probably always will be). Do plenty of research and if you think it's for you, go for it! Good luck OP

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