Okay, how about the BEST bits of childbirth!

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Now we're done scaring the soon-to-be first time mums with our labour horror stories, how bout we coax them back with the best bits of labour? No poo/vomit/tears/threatening the midwives stories please.

Ringing my little sister (aged 18) at 2am to tell her I'd gone into labour and could she find mum's number for me? She actually squealed down the phone at me.

I remember sitting on my birthing ball at home, wearing nothing but a toga made of an old bed sheet, eating Rice Krispies and chatting to my mum down the phone, and her telling me about my birth.

Also, touching LO's head, just as he was crowning, whilst holding my OH's hand. Even though I have no recollection of seeing or holding him for the first time, this will stay with me forever. That soft, furry little head.

aimingtobeaperfectionist Sun 18-Nov-12 13:22:32

The minute they put DD on my chest. Best moment of my life.
Um, that's it tho blush sorry.

The first kiss I gave to both my sons - on the centre of their warm, damp foreheads.

How absolutely amazing my DH was when I was in labour - and the power of that loved up feeling.

The toast afterwards. Wow.

RarelyUnreasonable Sun 18-Nov-12 13:30:55

Apart from the baby:

The sheer excitement of driving to hospital despite the agony.
The smug feeling of MW realising I was fully dilated - she thought labour wasn't established...
The cup of tea afterwards.

stinkinseamonkey Sun 18-Nov-12 13:30:55

I'd imagined the baby being some sort of mix of me and DH, best bit of childbirth was staring at him when he was put on my chest after CS delivery and seeing eyes that were neither mine or DHs or even a mix, but just HIS grin a whole new person's eyes grin

MirandaWest Sun 18-Nov-12 13:34:39

With DD the feeling of her head crowning (with DS I had forceps so never felt it) and having a feeling of power. Was odd but good smile

milk Sun 18-Nov-12 13:40:00

No one believes me, but I honestly enjoyed both of my labours. I truly believe if you get the right pain-relief at the right times, labour doesn't have to be so bad... that being said I was lucky I guess that both DS1 and DS2 were babies that were lying in the right position in the womb to come out.

The diamorphine.

Ragwort Sun 18-Nov-12 13:45:18

Being told I needed an EMCS - after having been refused an ELCS when I asked grin.

<sorry, not helpful !>

Svrider Sun 18-Nov-12 13:45:54

Definetly when you are given your baby, and you literally feel yourself fall in love
<soppy>

aimingtobeaperfectionist Sun 18-Nov-12 13:47:46

grin at Geraldine!!

debka Sun 18-Nov-12 13:50:04

I loved giving birth.

The best part for me was when the midwife handed me DD1 and I looked in her eyes and thought- aha! It's you! I know you!

FundusCrispyPancake Sun 18-Nov-12 13:52:37

When DD was lifted up out of the water (pool birth) onto my belly and DD looked right in my eyes. I will never forget her expression of wonder!

Jojoba1986 Sun 18-Nov-12 13:54:50

When I handed DS to DH for the first time & he promptly pooed all over his jeans! grin He was so besotted he didn't care but I was trying to clean him (DH) up while also passing the placenta! Thankfully we were at home at the time so he could get changed right after but it was one of those moments that's become an in joke. DH says he's going to make sure we include a change of clothes for him in my hospital bag this time, just incase!

kdiddy Sun 18-Nov-12 13:55:11

Being told I was 6cm dilated when I arrived and therefore was actually in labour (was so worried I wasn't)

The first few gulps of gas and air - I love that stuff!!

Feeling DS slither out into the pool, seeing him open his eyes under the water, and picking him up - being the first person in the whole world to touch him

DH cuddling DS and them just staring at each other whilst I had my stitches (but this is a happy thread so we won't discuss those)

Looking at DS and not even needing to go through our list of names because we just knew what his name was. He brought it with him I reckon.

Conflugenglugen Sun 18-Nov-12 13:56:50

Apart from my beautiful little boy and my (then) DH and the midwives:

The gas and air. grin

FrankWippery Sun 18-Nov-12 13:58:21

The baby at the end of it. The drugs during.

Well I had a EMCS so among the frantic activity it was the sound of ds wailing when he came out - it let us know that all was ok!

When i caught the baby, lift it from the water and held it.

In a distant second place, when i arrived at the hospital and was told i was 8cm dilated.

Before that, ds1 birth was rubbish, but the moment he was put on my chest and found the breast was great.

queenofthepirates Japan Sun 18-Nov-12 14:11:21

Yep the labour for me-hypnobirthing worked wonders and whilst not pain free, was brilliant. gas and air was amazing, who knew I could be so witty and amusing when i was off my face on it?!

EATmum Sun 18-Nov-12 14:12:24

The feeling of power. This primeval sensation that demonstrates how strong women really are. Everything since the first time around, every moment where I've needed confidence, I think back to what I can achieve.

That and the three lovely children of course ...

MrsApplepants Sun 18-Nov-12 14:42:17

When the epidural kicked in.

Jenijena Sun 18-Nov-12 14:43:04

The high that came from holding my baby. Just Ten minutes after saying "I'm only doing this once" I was saying "I can't just do this once in my life".

Back to back, my pushing stage lasted for an hour. The feeling of progress is pretty good too. As was getting him out minutes before the forceps arrived..l

perplexedpirate Sun 18-Nov-12 14:45:57

Seeing DS's face and thinking 'its you! Of course it's you'.
I felt like I had known this brand new person forever.

Oh god, this is making me broody! grin

perplexedpirate Sun 18-Nov-12 14:48:43

Oh, and then when DS did a wee all down my brother's leg.
grin

Pickles77 Sun 18-Nov-12 14:51:04

Oh the gas and air! Amazing

Oh and the bond I created for life with my best friend who was my birthing partner blush

NAR4 Sun 18-Nov-12 15:09:23

I felt completely empowered when I needed to push and truely enjoyed pushing each of my babies out. I don't remember there being any pain at that point, just focused determination to get the baby out.

Of course there is the rush of excitement when you first go into labour and the joy of holding your baby in your arms for the first time, after such a long wait.

I had very long difficult labours, but it has been worth it every time and I am looking forward to it again this time. Can't be that bad!

I forgot about the gas and air. Brilliant stuff. I remember telling my midwife that she should open a pub where you could sit in a pool and suck on gas and air. I would pay good money for that!

Also, I actually enjoyed the very primitive screaming I did. I have never been allowed to make so much noise before.

Midwives going outside to get phone reception and park cars etc. and therefore completely missing most of the birth.

Doing own internals

Understanding for the first time that you really don't need any antenatal training if you are left in peace and stay off the drugs. That panting thing happens automatically and pushing is completely unnecessary.

Whiteshoes Sun 18-Nov-12 16:12:59

I thought it would be terrible. It was quite good. I did a bit of hypno, tens, the fantastic gas and air. I did sort of go into a trance, like they said I would at nct (I rolled my eyes at the teacher at the time). I also loved the strange nose I made and can't replicate now at all.

My dh said "you sound like darth vader" as I was very heavily using the gas and air. I surfaced sufficiently to flick him the Vs, and then returned to the business at hand.

When they handed me my baby I had sort of forgotten that was what I was doing it all for. I was a bit taken aback. Although I absolutely concur with the idea that I immediately knew that we already knew each other. It was more a reunion than a hallo.

GrrrArghZzzzYaayforall8nights Sun 18-Nov-12 16:22:55

DD1's head was out, body was in, she turned her head to the side and spat out amniotic fluid. In the direction of DH. I still laugh about it.

My waters breaking in a HUGE gush all over Dh's head, as he helped me get my knickers,on... That was a highlight (dh might not agree!)

Al0uise Sun 18-Nov-12 16:29:01

When the placenta slithers out - it's very soothing after pushing out a baby.

My waters breaking in a HUGE gush all over Dh's head, as he helped me get my knickers,on... That was a highlight (dh might not agree!)

Not sure why that posted twice...sorry!

crunchingautumnleaves Sun 18-Nov-12 16:51:49

Going to my relaxing place mentally & confusing birth partners as I rambled on about it.
Blowing raspberries to relax myself during contractions when I was more tense.
The relief when the waters broke.
The power & stability I felt from squatting to birth my baby.
Seeing the head crowning with mirror.
The whoosh of emotions & warmth as your little one's body is expelled.
The massaging effect of delivering placenta.
Holding and smelling my gorgeous new unwashed undried babies.

elliejjtiny Sun 18-Nov-12 17:08:36

The toast afterwards (shallow emoticon)
The early stages when I get to make DH watch back to back friends or 4 weddings for the millionth time with me.
That high as a kite feeling you get just after birth.
Being told I was 4cm dilated
Holding a brand new baby for the first time

First time, it was watching my DS literally crawl up me to find my nipple and latch on while still attached to me by the umbillicus. Was a joyous sensation, and asking the MW "am I ok to feed him so quickly" was just an afterthought and a formailty lol

For DD, born by section, my funniest memory was asking "Is she ok" as she was delivered, swiftly followed by "is she ginger" couldn't get the grin off my face when I was told she was!

nenehooo Sun 18-Nov-12 18:21:25

I enjoyed pushing my baby out in a strange way too - and bloody proud of myself when she came out! Then watching DH cuddle her - totally relaxed and surprisingly natural - whilst I was being stitched up. The absolute relief when the epidural kicked in and the sheer brilliance of my midwife - totally calm and in control even when preparing me for a possible EMCS. And finally - being left alone with my baby on the post natal ward at 2am. I had been dreading it as I was just so exhausted but actually really enjoyed having her all to myself and looking after her by myself. 4 weeks later I'm at the stage where I can contemplate doing it again wink

crochetcircle Sun 18-Nov-12 20:15:04

I enjoyed all my second labour, after having been unneccesarily disappointed by my first.

At some point whilst I was pushing I yelled out in surprise - "I'm f***ing doing it", because I just couldn't believe I was giving birth all on my own, I could feel her descending and it was amazing. Apparently I was smiling whilst I was yelling throughout. I found that when I hit the right note and volume my yell cancelled out any pain.

Welovecouscous Sun 18-Nov-12 20:26:31

The excitement when I realised this really was it after several days of stop start labour.

Driving to the hospital - exciting and painful smile

Realising I'd got to 4cm and nearly to 5 cm and was going strong without any pain relief.

Getting into the warm birthing pool.

Laughing and joking in between contractions with the mw.

Having the gas and air.

Knowing his head had come out after 3 hours of pushing.

Hearing his little bleaty, squashed cry while his head was out and shoulders still in.

Holding him for the first time.

That amazing first bf and gazing into his eyes while I fed him.

Euphoria, toast and looking at the placenta which I became unaccountably keen to see grin

All in all I really enjoyed labour despite the pain, augmentation and a pph!

the relief of knowing it's all behind me.

meeting my gorgeous new baby. just lovely.

the first meal post birth.

Bearandcub Sun 18-Nov-12 20:39:27

Post birth:
Looking into my DS1's eyes and just being amazed that this life was looking at me
Hearing DS2 breathe! Bliss
Feeding both of them
Both of them recognising our voices and seeing that on their faces
The incredible amount of love I felt towards my OH
Eating and drinking post birth - both induced and nil by mouth due to risk.

Only a little bit bad but true:
Knowing all the false labour was over!

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Sun 18-Nov-12 20:45:07

The epidural.

Sod gas and air, I'm going to open an epidural bar smile

MadameJosephine Sun 18-Nov-12 21:38:06

The massive feeling of relief when her shoulders were delivered and she slid out of me. It was quite amazing that the overwhelming pressure just vanished and there she was!

And the look on dp's face when he saw his daughter for the first time

Nuttyfilly Sun 18-Nov-12 21:45:50

The epidural!

Chunkychicken Sun 18-Nov-12 23:18:45

With DD, being told I was staying in the hospital (& not being sent home again) and knowing baby would be here soon. To find out we had a girl. Holding her & feeding her for the first time.

With DS (at home), giving birth in the position I chose. Pushing the little man out in less than 20mins. Surprising the MW with how calm I was & how quickly it progressed. Turning around & seeing his boy bits, & knowing we had a boy without being told. Having lots of skin to skin contact & feeding him for the first time.

DangerMousey Tue 20-Nov-12 09:42:43

As a first time mum currently 38+3 I want to say thank you very much for this thread!! Has made me have a little cry in a good way. I have been trying to steer clear of the Childbirth boards over the last few days...don't see any point in scaring myself given that labour is now imminent and unavoidable!

But your lovely stories have given me something really positive to focus on.

Thanks ladies!

Welovecouscous Tue 20-Nov-12 09:45:27

Good luck Dangermousy - I am glad you lined the thread. It does hurt of course but I also honestly found it amazing, empowering and a real life experience. After DS was born I turned round to DH and said I could do it all again right now!

Welovecouscous Tue 20-Nov-12 09:45:37

Liked blush

Haribojoe Tue 20-Nov-12 09:48:23

Breathing gas and air and cracking jokes with my friends while I laboured.

The lovely feeling of relief when you get into the birthing pool.

The moment when you hold a precious brand new person in your arms, there are simply no words to describe it.

The feeling of being completely unstoppable because of what you've just managed to do.

Cuddling up in bed with your baby skin to skin.

Having a lovely bath afterwards.

I could go on all day grin

Jingleflobba Tue 20-Nov-12 13:07:33

Knowing that when the contractions really got going it was all going to be over soon!
Actually the best bit for me was actually pushing the baby out as well, getting the head out and then that funny little rush and the the pressure leaving you as the body follows the head, not explaining that very well at all I'm afraid!
The best cup of coffee ever after giving birth the DC3, curled up on the sofa with her while everyone sorted out around me smile

chocolateicecream Tue 20-Nov-12 13:08:57

My hands off unassisted birth, Dd 1 watching with daddy, scooping my baby up into my arms and thinking WE did it!

MrsAceRimmer Tue 20-Nov-12 14:46:43

Second the relief of pressure as baby comes out. I have never felt stronger than I did when I gave birth. smile

Lying down afterwards with my gorgeous, calm baby on my chest, staring into my eyes with big, dark eyes that looked as if they held the wisdom of the universe.

(While she pooed on my tummy. grin)

Oh, chocolate that sounds lovely, I really would like to have an unassisted birth for the next. (that's providing of course, OH lets me have another one!!)

Thanks so much for this thread, I'm also 38 weeks with DS1 and whilst I'm not dreading birth and labour, it's lovely to hear all these happy stories and it makes it all sound worth it!

I really like the thought that you and baby somehow know each other already, sounds lovely!!

Princessishavingababyboo Tue 20-Nov-12 16:18:42

That intense love for my dh as I was delivering ds, I could not have loved him more, no words can describe it. Then there is the warm weight of the slimy new baby followed by him peeing all down my right arm grin

princess - I agree, I cannot believe how happy and in love with OH I felt, he is just amazing, and continues to be amazing.

PeazlyPops Tue 20-Nov-12 16:30:33

Seeing my husband crying tears of joy when DS's head crowned, and telling me how beautiful he looked.

CailinDana Tue 20-Nov-12 16:40:36

The first slugs of gas and air - made me feel like I could manage labour.

Waters breaking with a massive gunshot sound and spraying the entire room - it was really funny smile

Standing up to the horrible older midwife who wanted to intervene left right and centre and pushing DS out on my own.

Holding DS for the first time (of course) and feeling like I knew him, and he was in the right place - a sense of huge relief and comfort.

Watching DH tenderly but surprisingly deftly dress DS in his little babygro

DC2 is cooking at the moment, so this is a very good thread to read!

kate2boysandabump Tue 20-Nov-12 16:54:17

The midwife doing an impression of a cat giving birth, to show how easy they have it!

The powerful feeling of knowing my body knew what to do, even if I wasn't to sure.

Seeing their faces for the first time and that first, warm, slightly wet and slippery cuddle.

knackeredmutha Tue 20-Nov-12 17:12:20

Best thing was meeting that little person, who felt like an old friend. Closely followed by the glass of fizz afterwards.

Bumpsadaisie Tue 20-Nov-12 17:20:40

With DD, just feeling like I'd known her all along (well, I had spent the last 9 months lugging her around after all!) Being v proud I managed to push her out even after a 37 hour labour, induction and epidural, and that I'd narrowly avoided a CS. The toast the toast!!!b uu

With DS just feeling like an Amazon and so proud of myself for doing it all on G&A. Quite enjoyed the pushing which I was feeling for the first time (DD was an epi). Though I was surprised that it wasnt pushing as such, more my whole body convulsing as if I was doing a huge all body vomit! No way I could control it. Thrilled that we now had a DS, marvelling at his boy bits (no brothers!) and trying to imagine him as a bloke!

cravingcake Tue 20-Nov-12 23:22:54

The first really proper painful contraction 2 days after my waters had broke as i just knew it was all finally going to happen.

When the epidural kicked in.

Seeing my DH smiling down at our DS in his arms in the dad chair in the exact same position i'd left them in an hr ealrier to be stitched back up but thats a whole different thread

Finally, that quiet moment when all the midwives, staff etc left me & my DS alone DH was then asleep in the chair and having our first proper lovely cuddle.

MoleyMick Wed 21-Nov-12 00:12:34

The feeling of closeness with DH who was an absolute star in both my labours. Calm, reassuring and did exactly what he was told grin

ConfusedKiwi Wed 21-Nov-12 07:41:39

Finally getting admitted to a labour/delivery room (after nearly being transported to another hospital as it was too busy) and saying to my DH that I didn't think I could do it/couldn't cope, being examined and told immediately that I was ready to push.

The feeling of relief was just immense at realising that I didn't have another 12 hours to go.

Then of course holding my DS :-)

Loislane78 Wed 21-Nov-12 21:19:07

Nothing will ever taste as good as those 6 pieces of cheapie white bread toast, smothered in butter and washed down with loads of tea smile

NomNomingiaDePlum Wed 21-Nov-12 21:36:34

feeling dd2's ears squeezing through on the way out. it hurt, but you know, it was her ears grin

ISeeThreadPeople Wed 21-Nov-12 21:54:01

First time round, erm, just a lot of guilt, anguish, pain and I couldn't hear other people's stories for a long time as I felt like an utter failure.

Second time round I was prepared for the eventuality that I would end up with another emcs and determined to find positive moments in it. And there were lots!

The thing I remember most is about 10 minutes after he was born. He was a tiny bit early and it was cold in theatre so while they stitched me up, he was taken over to be checked and wrapped up. I lay there with my eyes closed (ds was out of sight) and listened. The radio in the background, the surgeons murmuring about what they were doing, the midwives cooing and softly explaining to dh what was happening and over the general hum of people working hard to bring ds into the world and keep him safe, I listened to the anaesthetist. It's weird because I felt like I knew her from the second we met. She just seemed warm and familiar and was so lovely. She held my hand at times, stroked my hair, knew how to talk to me, when to hold back etc. In fact she wrote me a letter congratulating me on ds's safe birth and delivered it to the ward. Anyway... she was whispering to me. Things like "he's beautiful... soft hair... responds well to touch... looking interested in the world around him... mouth open ready for milk... so much like you... only a few feet away from you... will be back where he belongs in a moment... I'll place him on your chest, don't worry, he won't fall... I'll loosen your gown when you're ready for him... " It was weird. I suppose the drugs and 38hrs of labour were playing tricks on me but it was like her voice was in my head. It was just so soothing.

They all knew about the trauma from first time round and from the surgeon to the recovery staff, they were endlessly gentle and reassuring but even dh says now that the anaesthetist 'got it'. She knew how I needed it to be. Calm, peaceful etc.

Rainbowbabyhope Thu 22-Nov-12 12:35:29

I loved the whole process of childbirth. It felt like a privilege to be able to do it for my little one. She was stillborn so it was the only thing I ever really got to do for her and delivering her into the world and getting to hold, cuddle and kiss her was the best moment in my life. I will never understand anyone who focuses on the negatives of childbirth - the experience is what you make of it.

Katla Thu 22-Nov-12 17:31:59

Seeing our beautiful daughter as she was so perfect - thinking ' so it was you hiccuping and kicking so hard inside me for the last few months'. smile

My DH struggling to speak on the phone as he so emotional as he was calling the family to tell them 'it's a girl!'

Thinking as contractions were starting, this is it, I'm going to feel what labour is like now - I was quite looking forward to it as was a week overdue...

The epidural taking effect...

Rainbow so sorry to hear that your LO was stillborn - you are right that whatever labour was like, all those who have a healthy baby at the end means it was worth the bad bits. flowers

The epidural taking effect...

NotForProfit Mon 03-Dec-12 13:42:32

Cuddling up on the sofa afterwards, holding dd2 & eating bubblr n squeak with salmon. Best meal of my life.

Once I got in the pool and the pain stopped totally, the whole thing was lovely - really enjoyed pushing while being held by DH and the hot slither of DS coming out and then holding his little hot body was just the most wonderful moment. I can't wait to do it again.

DS2 born 6 days ago so fresh in my mind.

Meeting him, obviously...The feeling as the gas and air kicked in. The two fantastic midwives without whom I could not have done it. The realisation as he slithered out that I had really pushed him out myself after epic long labour with forceps under spinal for DS1. Swearing at the top of my voice and making the walls resound with the sound of pushing him out and not caring who heard. Process taking 8 hours from first contraction to birth this time (1hr40 active labour) as opposed to 52 hours first time.

Wanting to do it again just hours after saying 'never again'!! grin

MKG Mon 03-Dec-12 15:01:15

The sense of accomplishment.

chroniclackofimagination Mon 10-Dec-12 02:49:40

DS2 being placed on my chest during calm ELCS 3 weeks ago today!

With DS1 it was an EMCS after a long failed labour and I was too out of it to feel the impact of meeting him, although I fell in love over the next few days.

With DS2 I was rested and ready and it felt like being hit over the head with a love mallet the instant I saw his tiny face. He's curled up on my chest now after a feed. It's the best feeling in the world.

honeytea Tue 11-Dec-12 07:22:52

Thanks for all the lovely stories! I'm 40+3 and I am so excited to meet my baby smile

SpanielFace Tue 11-Dec-12 07:37:58

I had an emergency CS as DS turned out to be breech, so:

The feeling of the spinal block working! Heaven!
DH holding my hand and giving me constant eye contact & feeling so much love for him.
DH laughing as DS was lifted out (because of the size of his big red swollen balls! grin
That first cry smile
Snuggling skin-on-skin with DS in the recovery ward, and being left alone to bond with DH & DS to bond.
The tea and toast afterwards!

Hyperballad Tue 11-Dec-12 07:54:17

My DP snapping into action and being the most perfect birthing partner.
Being aware of the midwives sat chatting together drinking tea because 'we had it so under control there is nothing for us to do!' that gave me added confidence to go with the pain.
Seeing my baby float up through the water, seeing his beautiful big brown eyes for the first time.
Being allowed to stay in the pool for half an hour holding the baby against me and seeing him suckle for the first time.
My DP's phone call to his mum, he didn't even say hi, he just managed to get the words out 'it's a boy' and then they both just cried down the phone to each other neither being able to say another word!

I could go on! Lots of fond memories!

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