Horrendously overdue - tell me your happy stories please(57 Posts)
I know a lot of first timers go overdue but I'm now 40+10 and feeling thoroughly fed up. Desperate to have a natural, spontaneous birth but feeling like induction is the only likely outcome at the moment. Also finding it very hard to believe that I'm ever going to actually have a baby!
Would love to hear some nice, positive, encouraging stories of people going overdue to lift my spirits (and hopefully get some oxytocin swirling around my body!)
Both of mine were born 12 hours before the appointment to induce them. DD at +13 and DS at +10. But I hear inductions can be ok too, if you're nearly ready anyway.
Good luck, hope it all goes well.
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I went into labour at 41+6 - the day before my induction.
That's the end of the happiness, aside from getting my gorgeous DS at the end of it ;)
Dd2 finally showed up at 40+13, 5 hours before planned induction.
DD was actually born 3 hours AFTER my induction appointment at 40 + 13. I'd been admitted, in labour, 28 hours before. I do remember that I kept going on about having to cancel my induction appointment and reminding the midwives repeatedly that I didn't need it anymore - God knows what I thought they'd do to me for a missed appointment (not like they were going to put me back on a waiting list!!)
I REALLY hadn't wanted an induction and when I booked it, at the registrar's insistence, in floods of tears, the very kind midwife took one look at me and ordered me to go home and have sex, with the immortal phrase "I know which prick I'd prefer". DH was there and very .
So is it the sex that did it kopparbergkate? Have done the deed this morning in a last ditch attempt to get things started (oh I'm so romantic). Have done it a few time in the last few weeks but hasn't worked. Although this time it's after 2 sweeps and at 40+10 so maybe it's more likely to do something...
You dont have to be induced, you can say no. They wanted to induce me at 40+11, I said no and went into labour naturally at 40+12.
I was 11 days overdue, and they refused to induce me because DD was large (10lb 7 in the end!). I had just been to the consultant and had a C-section booked in for 4 days time when I went into labour. I always say that DD obviously realised she would be coming out one way or the other and decided to get on with it!
At my unit we changed our induction offer from T+10 to T+12 because, apparently, half of the first group will start labouring by themselves in the next 48 hrs with no additional risk.
Not all clients accept induction and we offer expectant management after T+12 ie daily check with CTG until labour or IOL.
DS born at 40+13, 12 hours before planned induction. 48 hours annoying but not painful prelabour, quick rest (5hours no contractions) followed by 5.5 hour labour and straightforward delivery.
I too thought it would never happen!!
My waters broke in the early hours of the morning at 40+12. I was booked in for induction later that day.
Another one here dd was born at 40+10 the day before the induction appointment. Sex followed by a long walk works best IME
I am thick, born at 40+14!
DS born 11 days late, I went into labour a couple of hours after sex, the day before planned induction.
Could have been the sex, could have been the 20million pineapples I ate, could have been the reflexology...I reckon it was the sex though
Both my DS's were born after induction at 40+12. But it was fine. Both quick births with no complications. I was just happy to finally go into labour even though it wasn't spontaneous. Good Luck OP however it happens
Was 40 + 12 and due to be induced the next day, so went for a long walk, about an hour, within 12 hours I was in labour, glad I avoided the induction.
My DS remains the same now, a lazy sod, last to do anything
I went 40 +11
Quick easy labour, G&A only, laboured and gave birth in water.
Hi I was 40+11 I was induced at 9pm and went into labour at 2am and gave birth at 9am.
Getting induced really isn't that bad! But remember you can refuse. Good luck x
What's all this re registrars "insisting" on induction. I'm 38+4 so not overdue yet.
But it's posts like this that really worry me. My understanding was that the doctors/midwives give advice. But ultimately DH and I decide how we want to proceed. I feel extremely uncomfortable at the thought of a doctor essentially removing that choice and carrying out a procedure that I do not want.
Presume this is a one off rather than the norm for the rest of you who have been induced?
blackgrape in my experience of being induced I was just booked in as I was overdue. There was no mention of alternative options and so in that way it was sort of the registrars 'decision'. At that point (DC1) I knew next to nothing about birth choices myself other than what we'd covered in antenatal classes so didn't really query what I was told.
Now I'm much more informed (DC3) and feel like I have the confidence to ask about alternative courses of action so that it is me and DH making decisions and not being 'told' what's going to be happening.
From your post you seem like you would be prepared to ask someone to explain themselves to you so you could decide. In my case I did consent to the IOL I just don't feel it was particularly informed but I didn't feel.it was in any way forced on me.against my will.
Well, I was induced but both labours were only 6 hours long and no medical intervention or pain relief (except gas and air) needed. Ds's labour was a piece of piss - not that bad at all, dd (dc2) was back to back so more painful but manageable. They were both 13 days late although I think dd was 3 weeks late and in sure my dates are right. Ds was 8lb11oz and dd was 9lb4oz
I took myself in, in labour an hour and a half before my induction appointment.
DS was born at 40+14. I was desperate for a water birth so I refused earlier inductions.
The mw was concerned about how overdue I was and called the consultant... Who vetoed a water birth. With hindsight I should have just had the induction when I was offered it.
Hi op I'm currently 38+6 so not overdue but have been told they want to induce me at 40weeks if I have not gone in to spontaneous labour. So although I'm not overdue I feel like I'm on a week countdown to avoid it IYSWIM.
I'm hoping to refuse induction at 40 weeks but will accept expectant management.
If I hadn't researched induction and done a lot of reading on here I would not have known that I can refuse it, which annoys me as I could just go along with whatever the consultant says without medical evidence that it is required.
Fingers crossed your labour starts soon. Also agree with pasties post, come join us and shiny on the November antenatal thread
pigs (if I may call you that! ) - thanks for explaining. I'm particularly sensitive re this as my sister had a failed augmentation that ended up in a very scary situation due to medics' mistake.
So I've done a complete 360 degree turn from trusting what is said at face value to realising we need to be really on the ball and can't be passive. It's quite bizarre, as I'm naturally a bit of a people easier and tend to go with the flow. But the thought of docs just insisting in doing things makes me really cross. So knowing your circs snd how to avoid makes me feel a lot better. Glad it was a one off.
[waves at fatima] - your point exactly. I wouldn't have known re refusal of induction if I hadn't done a hypnobirthing class. I just assumed the docs/midwives would go through all the options and, you k is, treat us like adults. Now realise that this is emphatically not the case. We have to specifically ask them. Which is a pretty poor state of affairs.
Peer to peer relationship please. I'm not a child
Why did he veto the water birth lemmings? How annoying. Was it just because you were overdue
DC2 was induced at 40 plus thirteen long days..... I used the phase 'just get it out NOW' and I didn't use my indoor voice
DC2 was born less than an hour after the IV went in. He was over nine pounds and I didn't have time to have any painkillers. I was a bit shouty
Sorry, forgot to add, good luck OP, it WON'T be long.
Try and relish every moment
Thanks for all the replies! Good to hear some positive stories about last min spontaneous labour and also positive inductions stories.
Have to say don't want this thread to turn into a debate about whether or not to refuse induction. Am well aware of my choices but there's no way I would refuse induction. Obviously would be a lot nicer to go into spontaneous labour as it would a) be sooner and I get to meet my baby sooner and b) would mean I get less time in hospital as I'll be able to spend earlier labour at home. But ultimately, if there's no baby by Friday I shall be racing to the hospital begging them to make something happen!
"Have to say don't want this thread to turn into a debate about whether or not to refuse induction. Am well aware of my choices but there's no way I would refuse induction"
That's fine Mayim -but not everyone feels the same way and one of the great things about Mumsnet is that posters get to discuss and share lots of information as the conversation naturally develops - rather than the original poster being able to dictate what's discussed in the thread. It might be best to make it very clear in future opening posts that only posts agreeing with your course of action should be posted and any posts should not refer to posters' specific circumstances. Just yours (which is basically what your last post appears to say) - but that kind of goes against the ethos of mumsnet as I've said above. Your first post is also a bit confusing as it says that you think induction is "the only option" - people are just pointing out that that is not the case. You also ask for "nice positive stories". For a lot of people, being induced isn't very nice or positive as its accepted by the medics that it is very likely to start a cascade of intervention (particularly with first time mothers) so they would rather look at alternatives.
The good news is that you'll have no problem finding a consultant to agree to induce you so probably best to focus in that now and how to deal with that induction process as obviously there are pros and cons to that (fact of life not an opinion). Be prepared though - if the consultant is doing their job properly, they will want to discuss these with you to make sure they get informed consent. They will not just dwell on the positives.
I never had the option for induction it just happened. But looking back I'm glad it did. Little boy was 8lb 13 and long with big head! Lol.
He also had little fluid covering him which made his skin dry and cracking.
On the plus side labour was short which seems to be common with induced babies.
Sorry mayim didn't mean to derail in to a thread about induction. I think if I was you I would be doing the same on Friday
Hopefully it will have started by then already. Fwiw I was born at 40+14 after spontaneous labour.
Keep on bouncing on the ball whilst eating pineapple whilst having sex in castor oil
40 + 10? That's not horrendously overdue! I thought you were going to say you were 3 or 4 weeks overdue like my sister routinely goes. (her 1st was a 44 weeker, next 2 came "early" at 42 weeks (induced and still covered in vernix))
In France due dates are given for 41 weeks. They don't generally "let" you go more than a week beyond that. At least that given due date takes into account the wide variations in pregnancy length and acknowledges that most babies will be born by the end of the 41 week.
fwiw, my four were 40+10, 40+11, 40+13 and 40+ either 10 (hospital dates) or 17 (my dates).
What matters more is how your individual baby is. If they ask you to come in for monitoring, I would accept that if I were you, and furthermore ask for a Doppler blood flow scan on the cord. That's the only way of knowing from the outside if the placenta is still functioning well. Also keep a kick/movement chart.
Oh, and none of mine until the last one were induced, but she was a special case which I won't bore you with now! I can well remember feeling that they were never going to come of their own accord (in fact #3 was due to be induced the following day) when they did.
Mine was another 40+13, 5 hours before scheduled induction. 3 sweeps (asked the midwife to 'really go for it' with the last one, which she did - then ordered me to walk sideways down the stairs & go home and have sex immediately), clary sage oil in bath & to massage in (prescribed by midwife), then lots of long, stompy walks, passing the local MLU frequently, telling the bump that he was please to come out there & not in the hospital in the next city.
Shinyblackgrape- bit uncalled for.
neither of my inductions led to a 'cascade of medical intervention'. In fact I am very glad DS2 was induced and he had started to lose weight prior to delivery as my placenta was calcifying. When he was born his skin was all baggy. Very glad I was able to be induced
I had two sweeps at 40 +9 ( sorry I used to call it 41 +2?)
I'd recommend avoiding the sweeps if you can as I found them pretty gruesome. The rest was fine...except the waiting...the blinking waiting!
FunnysinlJardin - funny you should say that, ds was born with loads of baggy skin and was 57cm long but 'only' 8lb11. I don't know why though....
Hey, not read other posts, just yours [lazy] will read them in a moment.
i went to 40+12, due to be induced on the monday, had spontaneous and quick birth on the saturday before (4hours from first contraction to holding DS in my arms) no complications.
OP if you were in Sweden (I think its Sweden anyway) you wouldnt be term yet term is 42 weeks there.
shinyblackgrape hugely uncalled for and quite an upsetting post for me to read.
I think the title of my thread says it all.
Mumsnet it a place for people to come and get support. THAT is the ethos of mumsnet.
I've loved hearing everyone's experiences of going overdue and narrowly missing induction or having a good induction experience. Thanks so much for your replies.
I'm going to leave the thread here because I probably did make a mistake starting it without stating that I didn't want a debate.
I really hope I have a good induction experience without the 'cascade of intervention' but to be honest I think it's women that tell other women horror stories about childbirth that can do just as much damage.
fatima no worries! It's good that people give advice
Mayim sorry you have been upset. I agree that this thread was entirely the wrong place to start a debate about the rights and wrongs of induction. Very insensitive.
Thankfully I had no preconceptions about induction and just saw it as the next step if the DC wouldn't come on their own. I am sure that if you are induced it will be nice and quick and all will be fine. With DS2, my second induction, he was born within 2 hours of the first contraction with just Gas and Air. It was a very good birth.
Er....so sorry for not saying that all inductions are fabulous and the only option at the hospital's policy date but I'm afraid I'm not going to lie or misrepresent what the medical position is.
shiny you have upset the OP. She didn't ask whether all inductions were fabulous or not, in fact she didn't even ask to hear from us who have had inductions. She asked for happy tales from folk who had gone into labour just in time. She over due and fed up and so why not back down and say sorry instead of giving it all of this
Because I'm afraid I don't feel like that jardin and I don't think either Fatima's or my posts were unreasonable on a public forum that is read by lots of other people bar just the originating poster.
shiny I think your posts were mean and off topic. This is not AIBU and the OP was clearly asking for nice, positive and encouraging stories not your sour postings.
Start your own thread if you like but your views were not called for on this thread.
If you don't feel like that shiney then why post on this thread. As Cahoots said this isn't AIBU.
Induced at 42 weeks. First pessary at 8. Labour (didn't feel it) at 3. Contractions at 8. Baby born at 930. Stark contrast to my previous 2 long labours. Good luck!
I tried all the above plus a curry so not sure what got me started 10 days over and just before induction day. They wouldn't let me have a later induction day as they wouldn't do one over the Easter weekend. Hope reading this thread gets you going!
Find a steep hill and stomp up it briskly. Preferably pushing a heavy toddler in a push chair! Worked for me 11 days ago, went into labour 9 hours later and my DD2 arrived 10 hours later.
Just want to apologise again, I didn't intend for my post to be a post about induction.
More that because I'm due to have induction at 40 weeks that even though I'm not overdue, I feel like I am as i'm working to a "deadline" IYSWIM and so was sympathising with the OP in that way as I feel I want this baby out ASAP preferably in the next week.
I was on another thread about inductions but my post on this thread was not meant to be about that, but about empathising with the OP about wanting labour to start. But I appreciate that my middle of the night post may not have conveyed that point well.
I'm sorry if my post didn't come across as intended
Shiny - OP very clearly asked for positive stories. Given that you're well up with how labour etc works you may also want to remember that stress during labour can cause problems an worrying the OP probably isn't the way to go.
Fatima please don't apologise, your posts came across just as intended and they were fine. Hope your baby arrives safe and well however he/she gets here!
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