Did anyone enjoy being in labour?

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I'm getting a bit broody and thinking about TTC again early next year, but part of that broodiness is a wish to experience labour again. Last time I was in agony with dry, back-to-back labour, ending with an epidural and a crash CS, but I remember it as being a wonderful and powerful experience and I'm hoping for a VBAC next time. Does anyone else feel the same way about giving birth?

Some women orgasm, so apparenly so.

peeriebear Sat 29-Sep-12 13:24:35

No, I had DS on Sept 11th (DC3) and labour sucks balls.

TurquoiseGoldandOrangecat Sat 29-Sep-12 13:25:40

Peeriebear. Lmfao. Yes. Yes it does.

Labour for me was hell. DD was back to back and the pushing stage went on for hours (she was born ten minutes before they said they would have to intervene.)

But I do know what you mean. I did it all with only gas n air. I had pethedine but it had no effect whatsoever. I was and still am, quite proud of myself for giving birth.

DP this time (different dad to DD) keeps saying about getting an epidural because he says I shouldnt have to go through the pain. My reaction to this is a bit strange.

I am of the opinion that if I did it first time with no epidural I will damn well do it this time without one.

That said, when the pain starts I will probably jump at whatever pain relief I can get grin

Nagoo Sat 29-Sep-12 13:34:34

I did quite enjoy it last time.

Dh says I didn't, but I did. I was singing in the car on the way and the baby bascially fell out.

First time it did indeed suck balls.

amirah85 Sat 29-Sep-12 13:34:50

I agree,I found it unconfortable,and pushing baby out was quite painful but it is a special experience and I always look foreward to doing it again

motherinferior Sat 29-Sep-12 13:35:40

Given that absolutely every literary and oral culture describes labour as excruciatingly horrible I would say you are in a bit of a minority.

Melindaaa Sat 29-Sep-12 13:48:37

I love being in labour and giving birth. So much so that I have done it ten times. I love waiting for the next contraction and timing them, and the feeling of my body totally taking control.

Ha ha at sucks balls and singing in the car grin.

Amirah85 and Wannabedomesticgoddess, that's it exactly! It really hurts at the time, but you sort of forget how bad it was when you realise you've got a baby out of it and you just feel very proud of yourself.

Ten times? I'm not jealous of having ten lovely, snuggly newborns oh no, repeat to self must not ttc now

redadmiralsinthegarden Sat 29-Sep-12 13:52:23

loved it!

Aloha31 Sat 29-Sep-12 13:52:46

I enjoyed it.

Mollydoggerson Sat 29-Sep-12 13:53:16

It's like running a marathon (how do I knoow, I've ne ver run a marathon),

Agony at the time, but an amazing sense of achievement and adrenalin rush afterwards. Yes I did enjoy the whole experience. Amazing.

sillymillyb Sat 29-Sep-12 13:55:37

I'm jealous. It was hell, so much so that I'm not planning any others. And my labour was only a few hours - no pain relief at all though, so maybe that makes a difference. Ds got stuck too, so I didn't feel like my body took over, as everything I was doing was ineffectual iyswim.

Im sorry it was so bad for you sillymilly.

You should still be proud of yourself though!

ShoeJunkie Sat 29-Sep-12 14:14:03

Yep, I did enjoy it and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. It helped that I was incredibly lucky that it went completely according to plan and so I felt calm and in control throughout.

mixedmamameansbusiness Sat 29-Sep-12 14:19:47

I had ok experiences each time (3).

My last was lovely though. I was induced and there was mad panic when his heart rate dropped and he had cord wrapped around his neck.

I think it helped that i knew he was my last so I tried to maintain positive attutude and enjoy it and the sensation of pushing a baby out which i will never feel again.

notcitrus Sat 29-Sep-12 14:24:34

I enjoyed mine - with ds for 18 hours until had to get out of the pool, and then once I got an epudural. And with dd all through (epi again).

Not willing to do pregnancy again, though!

MIL had an orgasmic birth with BIL. Very nice but wish I'd never heard about it!

nickeldaisical Sat 29-Sep-12 14:26:15

i enjoyed it insofar as i was amazed by the way my body worked with handling pain and progression etc.

have to say the birth part made me very afraid. but it was a means to an end, so.

my DD also got stuck, but it was my underbeneathsies that were cut to get her out.
ow and ow for days and days and days.

If i could guarantee that the next one wouldn't get stuck, then I would be happy to do it again.

emblosion Sat 29-Sep-12 14:26:48

God no.

Utter agony, dry, back to back, huge baby, head stuck, keillands forceps in theatre. Thought I was either going to die or go mad from the pain.

Having said that, I wouldn't rule out another one on the basis that it can't possibly be that bad again......can it?

emblosion Sat 29-Sep-12 14:28:16

And I never felt my body take over, no urge to push etc. Feel a bit sad about that really.

sad emblosion. I never felt the urge to push either, but I was told to push at 9cm (found out after reading the copy of my full maternity notes that I've just bought) hmm so I think that's why I ended up with the cs.

I got my underbeneathsies (great word and I'm going to use it at every opportunity) torn as well, but from an internal (hmm again).

Still can't wait for next time though grin.

LornieLoola Sat 29-Sep-12 14:40:28

I gave birth to DS3 11 hours ago - really did not enjoy it, or the current after pains! Still too fresh to think "I'd do it again".

thanks LornieLoola

elliejjtiny Sat 29-Sep-12 14:42:04

I loved my labour with ds3. DS2 was dry and back to back and absolute agony so compared to that it was easy. Early labour was great. I was in hospital waiting to be induced but there wasn't room for me on labour ward so I spent most of the day either on the antenatal ward with my book and midwives offering me tea and toast every couple of hours or going for a walk round the hospital. Established labour was only 2 hours, painful but not that much harder than taking care of ds1 and ds2 (used to walk 1.5 miles 4 times a day for school run and ds2 has sn and not walking at the time) but with a lot more sympathy. Afterwards was amazing, best bath ever, best tea and toast ever and squishy newborn cuddles.

LaVitaBellissima Sat 29-Sep-12 14:42:20

How do you buy your maternity notes?. I want mine grin

Just request them from your hospital data controller under the data protection act. Specifically ask for all your maternity notes, including electronic records, your baby's notes and all attached documents, such as letters and laboratory results sheets. Mine cost £50 but I think many hospitals charge less than that.

milk Sat 29-Sep-12 16:17:03

I'm 39+4 and can't wait to go into labour again grin

scarlettsmummy2 Sat 29-Sep-12 16:23:46

I don't mind it! The pushing bit is less fun but I find it really exciting knowing baby nearly here!

Labour is the easy bit. Looking after babies/toddlers is what I struggle with.

DC3 is due at the beginning of February. I'm quite looking forward to labour again. Yes, it was hard, yes, it hurt, but I felt like I could take on the world afterwards.

thing1andthing2 Sat 29-Sep-12 19:10:29

No I didn't enjoy it, despite having two "woo" type home water births. After ds's birth (13 weeks ago) the first thing I said was "you're beautiful!" (to ds) followed by "thank god I never have to do that again". I was vair grumpy though as I had expected a shorter easier labour 2nd time round and it was just as long and just as painful as the first one.
If I ever accidentally get pregnant again (v unlikely), I'm going to try my luck requesting an elective c section grin

Loislane78 Sat 29-Sep-12 19:19:45

Hurt like hell, anterior lip/poor position discovered at pushing stage, epidural, drip due to contractions slowing and several hrs pushing later narrowly escaping theater, but I did 'enjoy' it and feel lucky about my experience.

I'm not some freak who enjoys pain and honestly think its because I trusted and had a good experience with the MW and docs. I had a v open mind and no birth plan so that combined with ace care made it good.

For some people I know its they had a bad experience with the MW rather than the pain or things not going according to plan.

Knowsabitabouteducation Sat 29-Sep-12 19:23:39

I enjoyed my labours having 'forgotten' the painful bits.

FrameyMcFrame Sat 29-Sep-12 19:27:33

Emblosion, I had the same expirience sad

I found labour really exciting and exhilarating until the real pain started. Then I just wanted to go home and forget all about it sad

poachedeggs Sat 29-Sep-12 19:31:28

I loved labour. Had an ELCS first time so to experience it with my second child was amazing. I had an oxytocin drip induction though so it got hard to manage in terms of pain, but it was short and the pushing phase was entirely involuntary and less than half an hour.

I too felt I could take on the world afterwards. I was on a high for at least a fortnight. It was the happiest time of my life to date!

DinosaursOnASpaceship Sat 29-Sep-12 19:38:24

I enjoyed it, I thought it was exciting and was off my face on gas and air to be honest. Luckily for me I didn't find it all that painful - probably because I didn't release the gas, not even at the pushing bit and was in my hands and knees so not much pushing required. Looking forward to ds4 arriving!

wonderstuff Sat 29-Sep-12 19:41:47

I really liked the drugs. Declined pethidine 2nd time as wanted to experience labour properly, that was dumb, it was really fucking painful. Loved g+a. Best bit of labour was the end, when you have a cute baby and you arent pg any more. I HATED being pg.

After first labour I felt very empowered, was amazing high. After 2nd I was too busy to feel anything other than knackered.

nailak Sat 29-Sep-12 19:47:54

i enjoyed it, unassisted home birth, no one poking and prodding me (mw stuck in traffic) walking, eating, my own bath, my own garden, my oil burner and laptop, was brilliant,

I was the same poachedeggs.

After having DD I was buzzing. It was the only time in my life I felt truely happy and ontop of things. I was motivated and energetic.

I dont think this time will be the same sad this pregnancy has really knocked me for six!

poachedeggs Sat 29-Sep-12 20:03:41

wanna that was a dreadful pregnancy, constant problems, and in the end I was induced due to pre-eclampsia. Maybe I felt so good because it was over grin

But it might be the same for you smile

EdgarAllanPond Sat 29-Sep-12 20:05:29

the first time was exciting, even though I did, also, fervently wish to be unconscious - after i felt on top of the world even with 2 2nd degree tears

Actual labour not enjoyable though.

last three times - just Ok i suppose. It hurts.

The thing i really enjoy now is when the older DCs come in to see the baby, huge smiles on their little faces.

nickel usually second births are easier, hopefully yours would be too, though it might not make such a long thread!

The crazy thing is that I was constantly told before the labour "you will forget the pain once the baby is here" but I remember sitting there having contractions every 2mins saying to myself "I will never forget this. Im never doing this again." grin

And here I am on a thread saying I enjoyed labour grin

I think its just such a sense of achievement. That and the fact that I was off my face on g+a!!

thunksheadontable Sat 29-Sep-12 20:29:14

Sucked balls first time. BIG time. Don't even like to think about it.

Last time I really did enjoy it.. it was long (latent labour of ctx of 1 min every 5 to 7 minutes for nearly three days and took a stupidly long time to get from 4cms to 5cms (5am to 1pm with 90 second contractions every 3-5 mins!!!!!!) but God it was powerful... I had no pain relief before pushing and I remember it SO clearly.

I was dancing about to music to keep active and get things going then flinging myself on the ground and whacking the living daylights out of it during contractions.. it was SO physical, it was like running a marathon, it was like a really hardcore euphoric/desolate slog.

Transition was just immense. I felt like I was at the lowest depth of my soul for 30 minutes (more mentally than physically) and then it just lifted and this amazing calm just flooded me and I was ready. That's just etched on my mind.. and the complete WORK that was pushing and the fear that I might split open but the determination to continue to meet this little person... and then he was out and in my arms and I was just babbling on at him overjoyed and full of love.

He is 15 weeks on Monday. I would do it again tomorrow and I would have told you the same within hours of the birth.

SarryB Sat 29-Sep-12 20:52:49

LO is 5 months old - it was a normal birth with water, gas and air, and morphine. However. It was really bloody painful. I still get flashbacks now about the pain.

But...I can't wait to do it again. What the hell is wrong with me??

duchesse Sat 29-Sep-12 21:05:38

No, none of them. Hurt like feck, all three of them. Was glad to go straight to CS without passing through labour for DC4.

poorbuthappy Sat 29-Sep-12 21:09:38

loved labour, hated pushing. Just crap at it.
Would labour all the live long day if someone else pushed.

CrackleMauve Sun 30-Sep-12 14:07:08

I'm not sure enjoy is the right word, but it wasn't as dreadful as I thought it would be. I hated having to speak to people and go to hospital though. I just wanted to hide in a corner and get on with it. The whole "when should I go to the hospital" thing really distracted me and had me worrying. Planning a homebirth for the next one to avoid that.

I think I probably found it ok because the baby was putting pressure in a way that made me start pushing really early. Meant I was actually doing something with my contractions rather than just feeling them. From an avoiding tearing perspective that's not a good way to labour though!

I felt pretty great after though, bloody hungry mind.

I think 'enjoy' is going a bit far but with DS2 I definatly had a really great birth experience and was on a proper natural high for a long time after.

All my births have been good births (the last 3 home births)

I've never had pain relief but thats because g&a made me feel sick and my aunty warned me off pethedine.

DS2 was born in a pool and it HURT, it was labour fgs! But it was strangely wondeful too.

Annunziata Sun 30-Sep-12 14:16:53

I hated it at the time, it was not serene or calm and it was soooo painful but I strangely enjoy looking back at it! Can't understand it at all.

newtonupontheheath Sun 30-Sep-12 14:35:55

I enjoyed it... And can't wait to do it again (due date tomorrow!!)

I got a bit scared when it all kicked off last time and remember saying to DH "if this isn't it, they'll have to knock me out because it bloody hurts!" But when me examined me I was already 8cm grin

Did it all without pain relief (not intended...but bloody proud of it!)

I think it's not like any other pain because you know you need only focus on that/yourself and your baby until it is done. Not like when you're ill and you have to do other "stuff" And you know there's a reason for it... And once it's done you get your baby!

I'd like my baby now please..... smile

So it's mainly yanbu then grin. Maybe those of us who enjoyed it were off our trolleys on hormones. Probably why we go back for more.

thanks Good luck newtonupontheheath

newtonupontheheath Sun 30-Sep-12 20:40:22

Pen

Yanbu

Do it do it do it grin

CanIOfferYouAPombear Sun 30-Sep-12 20:43:17

Loved it! It hurt like hell and took forever but it was so exciting!

Norem Sun 30-Sep-12 20:56:05

Yes have had 5 and loved them all for different reasons.
1 st induced had an epidural for high bp so comfy throughout and baby born easily, had a massive rush of happy hormones and even kissed the midwife.
2 nd lovely labour at home got to hospital at 6 cm started gas and air, danced round the room to the radio and he pushed himself out!
3 rd home hypnobirth not painful at all! Gas and air for last 20 mins when I felt I was on a wild rollercoaster, out he came and was drinking champagne before the placenta delivered, loved it.
4 th home water birth, very fast once it got going, midwife almost missed it. Best bit my teenagers appearing right after he was born ( they must have been listening outside the door) smile
Last induced at 34 weeks after waters went, longish, defiantly harder than previous two but he was fine and had lots of lovely skin to skin ( thought he might have to go straight to paeds).
Won't be having any more but a bit sad that no more labours and soft delicious babies for me.
Definitely recommend relaxation/ hypnobirthing .

Devora Sun 30-Sep-12 20:58:20

'Enjoyed it' doesn't describe it adequately. It was bloody tough, painful, scary, and ultimately disappointing as I was rushed off for an EMCS. But it was also the most amazing experience of my life. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

MarianForrester Sun 30-Sep-12 20:59:53

Ha haha!

ReallyTired Mon 01-Oct-12 11:29:55

PeahenTailFeathers

I am glad that you feel positive about your birth experience. I love the euphoria after giving birth and holding a newborn, it makes the pain worth it.

I would love to give birth again to experience the euphoria afterwards, although I am not keen on labour. I enjoyed the second stage as I am lucky in that it was very quick for me. (Small babies both time and very loose ligaments. ds 15 minutes dd less than 2 minutes)

Self hynothosis is a great tool for managing pain/ fear.

stargirl1701 Mon 01-Oct-12 11:42:39

I enjoyed it more than what happened next! I had a water birth which I would highly recommend. Came into midwife unit at 8cm. Baby born 4 hours later. Lovely.

We went home and one week later I was taken to the regional teaching hospital by ambulance with infective mastitis, sepsis and a bladder infection. Given IV antibiotics which I then had an allergic reaction to.

That was last week... Things are getting better!

ReallyTired Mon 01-Oct-12 14:31:57

Congratulations stargirl1701,

I'm sorry to hear that you have been so ill and I am glad to hear that things are starting to get better.

rogersmellyonthetelly Tue 02-Oct-12 20:25:12

I enjoyed my second after I had the epidural. I spent a relaxing afternoon watching wimbledon women's final before pushing her out in time for tea.

Lizzietow Tue 02-Oct-12 20:33:58

That's interesting peahan. I had just the same experience as you last time and am now 38 1/2 weeks with my second and bricking it! Seriously?! I'm beginning to wish I'd opted for a c-sec!
But-people do say the second time is a lot easier smile

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