I feel a bit funny my childbearing days are probably over

[chocbiscuits]

well I was desperaely sure during my pg that I didnt want any more of that and was pretty keen on it all being over, now dd is out (and lovely) feel bit odd about it....
anyone else get that?

[whyme2]

er no, not me but my friend has seven at the last count and is still thinking about more.

[MostlyReindeer]

I don't think I could bear that moment, I am going to keep going until I can't anymore.

[Portofino]

Seven??????

[MKG]

I'm going through that now. I'm 24 weeks with my third baby and I think it will be my last, and I'm finding difficult to accept that. Although I never want to be pregnant again, I can't imagine not having more children. It's hard to reconcile those feelings.

[Flightattendant4]

I would love more children but am not too fit any more

also am getting old and haven't got the sort of partner who is likely to be around. So can't get pg again even if I wanted to, iyswim. because I couldn't do it all on my own. Also I hate being pregnant because it makes me so sick.

I wonder if I'll ever have another baby. Makes me very sad

[waitingtobloom]

I suffer badly in pregnancy with 9 months of hyperemesis, have op bad position labours and pnd afterwards. I swear each pregnancy never again...yet get intensely broody once they are out.

Swore DH was going to have the snip this time around and then sobbed when he raised it after DD's birth. I cant even give any clothes or anything away just in case.

It makes me so sad to think never again.

[Flightattendant4]

I've been trying to sell prams and so on, and give away clothes and toys. It isn;t easy when you know you want more kids, is it. However unlikely it is.

[lulumama]

i totally get that feeling. I had my second and last child at 30. I am now 33 and ever so often I do get a pang of something almost like grief that my childbearing days are over. I think a part of that is to do with not breastfeeding and feeling about that and knowing i will never breastfeed.

but when i weigh things up, i know that the practical, sensible side of me knows that this is the right decision for our family.

i think if i had my last child at 39 i would have felt differently, as lots of people i know are just starting their families or adding to them and i am done

[greenlawn]

Yes me too, I've had 4 children, 3 survived and I think for me there will always be that "one missing" - not that he would ever be replaced, it just doesn't feel right to have completed my family.

Realistically ds3 (6 weeks old) is my last - don't think I can go through the trauma of another emergency cs again.

[uglybugly]

I had this conversation with my DH today funnily enough about whether we should have another. I am in my 40s and have 2 DS, but even though I don't want another can't bear to part with any stuff. I have all the last ones baby clothes, toys, pushchair etc. I know I don't want another and neither does DH, but why do I still feel like I do?

[Twinklemegan]

Uglybugly - I feel just the same. I have one DS who I love dearly and my family does feel complete. I had a very difficult time conceiving, being pregnant, giving birth AND breastfeeding so all in all I really really don't want to do it again. But I have a box full of baby clothes and another one full of baby toys that I can't bring myself to sell or give away. And I don't know why...

[whomovedmychocolate]

Yep, feel the same. I know rationally having another one would be bloody stupid - we don't have the room, each pregnancy I have to spend longer and longer in hospital and the last one was bloody awful and yet.....and yet to feel that new life kick inside me again....and to get a chance to 'do-over' all the bits I didn't manage last time (like actually having a baby as opposed to having another one surgically removed!) Makes me very sad

[Scifinerd]

Totally understand how you all feel. I am desperate to stop feeling broody and be content with the wonderful family I have. Everyone thinks I am insane to want more as I have dreadful pregnancies and find it all tough going as it is but I don't think it is about rationality. I just keep saying never say never...

[NotBigJustBolshy]

If we weren't ancient and impoverished, we would have liked more. But there are infinitely more cons than pros, so we won't be doing it again. Am secretly sad, but have given away all the baby stuff. My dcs are not sad. They are v. happy.

[whomovedmychocolate]

I gave away all my maternity clothes and newborn clothes today to a mumsnetter.

DH actually apologised for being insensitive in putting them all in a box under the stairs because he's finally realised I was upset about it - three weeks after the event but hey I was touched that he noticed.

But having them hanging around won't help me move on so off they go. Together with all those teeny tiny vests and socks.

[Nbg]

I practically frog marched my dh to the dr's for the snip after our third baby but I get quite upset at the thought of never holding a newborn again.

I've kept alot of our baby things though because I just cannot bear to get rid of it.
And I mean, how cool will my kids be when they have their own. They'll get all this free vintage baby stuff

[whomovedmychocolate]

Nbg - hmm - DD has already nicked some of our newborn stuff for her Annabell doll

[littlefrog]

oh, whomovedmychocolate...

dh is adament that this one will be our last, and who knows, maybe I'll agree with him after it arrives, but I don't want to think that this is for 'the last time'...

[Nbg]

Ahh well my dd doesn't like dolls. She is only 5 though and I doubt my ds's would want any of the stuff.

[whomovedmychocolate]

Don't be sad LittleFrog - I'm really happy that they are going to a good home. Much better that than sat in a cupboard for years mocking me!

Mind you had a shockingly funny conversation with my GP. Booked in to ask about sterilisation and she looked at me and said - for you? I thought you couldn't have kids???

[ledodgy]

I've had my fill too but must admit am dying to try that digital pregnany test that tells you the amount of weeks pregnant you are. However that of course is not a sensible reason to have four!

[sweetkitty]

ledodgy - I was thinking the same thing

I had an awful pregnancy with DD3 swore to anyone that would listen never again, don't have the space, the money or the time but when I hold DD3 it makes me so sad she might be the last.

Stangely DP feels the same.........

[lulumama]

WMMC

[Simplysally]

I feel like that - I am 36, had my daughter at 28 but it has only been in the last year or so that I've been in a position to consider a second child - just as my career has restarted! I also don't have a partner so that's another consideration.

I'm fairly resigned to having a 'one and only' but it unless something happens in the next few years, looks like that'll stay the case. It's a shame.

[sweetkitty]

DP said to me last night "so if we were to have a fourth daughter what names do you like?"

Funny enough he's never given birth or had SPD!