I don't really know how to put this as I feel it's going to come across as silly but I'm getting increasingly miserable over my longing for homebirth.
In short: I'm 29 wks pg with DC3
I wanted HB with DD - DH worried about risk so didn't pursue. Ended up flat on my back in hospital but delivered on due date normally with no complications.
I really wanted BH with DS - DH supportive until diagnosed with gestational diabetes (diet controlled)then a bit nervous, made worse by MW (who washed her hands of me) & consultant who sucked teeth and reeled off loads of risks (shoulder dystocia/low sugar in baby etc)He then became unsupportive & I panicked a bit (17 yrs between births) & ended up uneccessarily induced 5 days early (they wouldn't believe my waters hadn't broken!) in tears, begging to be allowed off my back but, again, normal delivery with no complications.
This time, I really really want a HB. I have gestational diabetes (again diet controlled but no other problems) but my MW has basically said I should deliver in hospital (because of all the risks) and if I insisted on having a HB she'd have to attend (but it was clearly going to be begrudgingly - she started on about how it may not even be her, she had her own family to consider late at night etc etc!!!!)
My confidence is totally shot. This is probably going to be my last pg and I really wanted to at least attempt a HB even if I didn't end up staying here. I have the info to support any argument I need to make my case (courtesy of Loopymumsy - thanks ) but I can't help but feel that if I insist on a HB I'm going to be surrounded by MW's tutting & basically making me feel like a PITA (how supported will I feel!!) Does anyone have any words of wisdom? I don't know how to deal with this
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crisis of confidence regarding homebirth
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iris66 · 23/08/2007 14:37
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