Should I discharge myself from hospital?

[Sophieeleanorxx]

I had a csection on Thursday night after a traumatic labour, some of the anaesthetic got into my little boy. He is fine now but he is still down there as there wanting to keep an eye on him and get him feeding ok. The ward I'm on his horrible nobody helps I'm limping everywhere I limp all the way to the special unit twice a day no one offers to help. I have to get up and walk to collect my food on a heavy tray no one offers to help. I struggle to sit up in the morning they hear and see me struggle no one offers.I ask the midwife to come see me she never comes back. My csection feels sore like I'm doing too much. I feel if I went home my mum would look after me better the only good thing is my little boy is just downstairs and I'm trying to express some milk to bring him. If I go home il have to spend £20 a day on taxis just to see him. I feel horribly depressed here should I just suck it up? Or go home and rest properly and visit him everyday. I don't think he will be here much longer maybe until monday.

[isthatpoisontoo]

Your mum to look after you at the hospital. You're there for a reason, but someone to get your lunch for you would be good. I was in hospital for a week after birth, things got a lot better when I stopped waiting patiently and kept pressing the buzzer and asking for things over and over. Still don't know how I'd have done it without my husband's help.

[Sophieeleanorxx]

She does come in everyday but she can only come between 2-4 4-6:30 and I need to be up and about way before that.

[PacificDogwod]

Begin up and and about after your CS is likely to help your recovery.

Congratulations on the birth of your DS

I stayed in hospital for 10 days after I had DS2 prematurely by emCS, simply to allow for me to visit him whenever I wanted and to get expressing well established.
Would your mum come and support you in hospital?
Is your pain relief sorted out?
I found antiinflammatories really effective and better than morphine tbh.

Hope you feel better soon and get home when you are ready.

[ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay]

Do you have a partner? If not is there any way your mum could be a stand in partner as partners are generally allowed in all day not just visiting.

As for lifting walking etc, if you are in pain you need to slow down. Don't be afraid to ring the buzzer repeatedly. You've had major surgery. If you are ignored as to see someone in charge.

[Honeybee79]

You have my sympathies as I was on the post natal ward 5 nights after DS was born by EMCS 6 yrs ago. My experience was v similar - really struggled to get around those first few days and was so miserable and tearful. However, being forced to get up and mobile - while hellish at the time - def helped my recovery. Just make sure you get some good pain relief.

The ultimate humiliation for me was when I called for help to change a nappy. I was about 6 hrs post section and still had catheter in. Midwife plonked DS between my legs (covered in blood) and told me to do it between my legs - even tho I couldn't reach a clean nappy! Ffs.

Hang in there!

[Sophieeleanorxx]

Yeah my mum is allowed to visit when she wants but I think she's struggling with visiting everyday. She came at 4 today and has just left but she's complaining that nothing is getting done at home and she just asked for a day of. I don't think people realise how hard it is having a csection she's 61 and I know she gets tired but this isn't going to last forever.

[lovelycats]

A lot of post surgical care is about getting up and about. It is evidence-based although obviously unpleasant at times. When I worked in gynaecology (not my specialty) I was taken aside after assisting a lady to wash and dress and advised that they operate an 'enhanced recovery' programme. The sooner you are up, walking, eating and drinking and regaining independence the shorter your recovery time will be. Congratulations

[Blahblahblahyadayadayada]

Congratulations! Sorry you're feeling so low. Have you told the midwives you are feeling low?

Don't just suck it up. Ask for pain relief if you're in pain and if what they are giving you is not helping then you can ask them to get the doctor to check you. Don't be afraid to press the buzzer if you need to and accept any help that family is willing to offer. Of course moving is good four your recovery, but you may need someone to help boost your confidence a bit. Sometimes the student midwives are a bit nicer as they haven't been beaten down by the job yet!

You could ask to be discharged, they will say it is Afghanistan medical advice and then you can raise your cocnerns at that time.

Good luck!