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Childbirth

What did your Dh/P feel about homebirth?

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Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:13

And what did you say/do to convince him if he were none too keen?

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funnypeculiar · 11/02/2007 20:14

sent him (on his own!!) to a local homebirth support grp - he came back full of usful advice for me!

Beauregard · 11/02/2007 20:14

I said F**in hell it's coming
Upon which dp caught dd2,lol.

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:16

Ahh, so with a birth that quick, your MN name really is apt then!!?

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LadyTophamHatt · 11/02/2007 20:31

Dh wasn't keen when I wanted a HB with Ds3, I mentioned it to the MW so she came a spoke to him.
She bought the HB pack* with her to show him all the stuff they have incase they need it, talked through the resusitation stuff and all that.

they don't leave the HB pack with you anymore, with DS4 I was going to have a HB and the MW has the pack permantantly with her so brings it once you're in labour. DS4 was born in hospital anyway...

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:33

I'm hoping he can get the time off work to come with me to my booking in appointment at the end of the month, where it can all be discussed. I need to find out about any antibodies first. Do you mind if i ask why you didn't end up with the home birth LTH?

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maewest · 11/02/2007 20:37

pfnomore

Mine was none too keen (first baby) to start with. We went along to homebirth group together, which was almost disastrous tbh as the first woman telling her birth story was a bit extreme (placenta pate etc, I exaggerate but you get the picture). The second woman was a lot more 'normal' in DH's eyes, so helped him feel a bit more relaxed about it.

Have just asked him now... and he has told me that he carried on not being sure (but didn't tell me that) but felt that the most important thing was for me to be in a place where I felt calm, and that he should support me in that.

LadyTophamHatt · 11/02/2007 20:37

with Ds4?? (Ds3 was a HB)

MW and consultant couldn't make up their minds if I was having a whopper of ababy or lots of water so they suggested it might be safer to do it in hosp incase he got stuck.
He was 8lb 11oz, so not mahooooosive but big enough but there was alot of water. MW said it was like a firemans hose gushing out so I'm glad I didn;t do it at home!!

maewest · 11/02/2007 20:38

Sorry, x-posts

TeeCee · 11/02/2007 20:38

DP said 'no bloody way' when I told him I was having a home birth with DD2. What did I say to change his mind? I just laughed at him and ignored him. It was the best thing and he agreed, eventually and went round telling everyone how superb it was to have the birth at home afterwards. This time round he's just (rightly) assumed it would be the same.

Trying to persuade him to be the one to actually 'catch' the baby as it came out was a different story though! Never got him to agree to that one!

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:39

Aha! Waters I'm not worried about. We'll have leather sofas by then, laminate floors and what the heck we already have a damp problem .

Your only just down the road aren't you MW? Where was the homebirth group?!

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maewest · 11/02/2007 20:40

Oh, and my DH has now bored the pants off everyone we know with my birth story, some of my single friends in particular started to look a little pale as he went into significant detail...

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:41

TeeCee I think Dp would love that. He likes all the gruesome bits. It still makes me shudder remembering him desperately hacking away at the cord. Yuck.

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maewest · 11/02/2007 20:41

Homebirth group is in St Werburghs, will have a scout around and see if I can find info for you.

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:42

Thank you -don't worry too much. Am hoping midwife will be able to provide info like that if appropriate. Its all a long way off really, and yet time seems to be moving quite alarmingly this time round.

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maewest · 11/02/2007 20:44

Ta da! Link to website here

DH categorically did not want to cut the cord (even wrote it into my birth plan). In his words 'it would be like trimming bacon fat'.

maewest · 11/02/2007 20:44

damn, x posting all over the place tonight

kama · 11/02/2007 20:45

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Heathcliffscathy · 11/02/2007 20:47

the blessedly lovely man read up what I'd read and then totally went with it as the right option.

i love him.

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:48

The midwives said last time I would be ideal for a homebirth. DP heard that. He is just trying to be a control freak I think.

Thanks very much for that MW - I may well see if I can drag him along.

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Heathcliffscathy · 11/02/2007 20:49

he was the first person to touch ds (we did end up in hosp after trying at home for 3 days....but it was a fantastic birth, which I know it wouldn't have been if I'd started in hosp).

he 'caught him' cut the cord and passed him to me to lie on my chest. ds was only weighed later. lovely.

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WestCountryLass · 11/02/2007 20:49

DH was really worried about it. We had DS at 34 weeks and fairly traumatically which I think was worse for him being a bystander. When the midwife came round and we went through the birthplan he was concerned about the possible problems ref. homebirth delivery but also reassurred that they had action plans for each situation.

Course, once we did it and it all went smoothly he now thinks it's the way to go and is really pro-homebirth

maewest · 11/02/2007 20:50

I would also add that I reassured him that I wasn't intending to be a hero, and that I would listen to advice and transfer to hospital if needed.

Flossam · 11/02/2007 20:50

You sound v loved up Sophable. How are you? Not seen you about as much?

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