(sorry this is so long) Hi, I’m currently 30 weeks and constantly fighting my head and heart when it comes to what to do for the best. The backstory is: My first son's labour was very (very) traumatic, I'd had an accident 2 weeks before his birth, I was essentially bed bound and had to have blood thinners. Waters broke at 38 weeks, phoned hospital they asked us to come in so we duly headed to hospital, I was checked, told I was in very early labour and should head home…she took pity on me being in a wheelchair (I’d had metal rods and pins put into my leg) so said I could stay on a ward, his father was sent home. I was on the ward for around 20 minutes before the pain became unbearable, all the other women were sleeping on the ward in the dark and I was there writhing around in agony trying not to wake them.
I hobbled on crutches out to the desk where I was told I was over-reacting I put in a room on my own, it all gets very vague from here on but I do remember leaning out of the window to try and cool down/catch my breath and being scared to death bawling my eyes out totally alone until a midwife came into collect something but she could see I wasn’t coping at all, she checked me, whisked me away in the wheelchair and before I knew it I was surrounded by people telling me to push, all I could hear was my son’s heartbeat on the monitor, that memory had stuck with me, I remember it slowing down to an almost dead stop. There’s a gap in my memory but my last memory is being in theatre, someone told to count to 10 and then someone saying “oh god she must be on blood thinners”…….I woke up, my son was fine thankfully but I’d lost a huge amount of blood and was really quite ill.
So that’s what happened, when I met with the doctor afterwards he said quite frankly, if I’d been sent home it would have been a very different outcome for my son as the cord was wound so tightly around his neck he would never have come out naturally. So fast forward 5 years, I’m finally over it enough to do it again! I met with consultant Monday, he told me I could try for a VBAC but I should think about a planned c-section . I cannot bear the thought of another emergency situation but I also felt like a complete failure for weeks afterwards for not having a VB so that’s pushing me towards a VBAC but I’m thinking I must also have laboured exceptionally fast, would that be the case again? This pregnancy is bringing up so many things I’d forgotten about and now its almost D-Day again I’m absolutely bricking it!
Any advice/words of wisdom/moral support...I feel quite alone at the moment x
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Consultant didn't help with VBAC decision - help!
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Romazing · 13/01/2016 14:03
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