Sorry for long post and possible TMI.
I'm currently 30 weeks with DC2. First birth I was induced on drip after waters went at 40 weeks and ended up with forceps, episiotomy and 2nd degree tear both internal and external. It took over an hour to stitch me up and consultant had to do it. It was agony from day 1 as I couldn't walk or sit.
The wound got badly infected and broke down. I asked the midwives to check it every day but no one picked up that it wasn't healing properly. Stitches had to be removed without anaesthetic (agony) after 4 days. I was left with what looked like a gaping hole in my nether regions - nearly fainted upon inspection with the hand mirror. I wasnt restitched but left to heal by secondary intention (ie naturally) which took 6 months. I had granulated scar tissue which had to be removed with silver nitrate- also really rather painful - and still have a patch even after 14 months. My perineum is basically just one big scar.
I know my tear wasn't as bad as some poor mothers with 3rd/4th degree, but I felt so traumatised by the whole thing and angry that I hadn't been warned this could happen.
So now with baby 2 I just don't know what to do. No one has mentioned a c section as I "only" had a 2nd degree tear and I feel I've just been pushed down the vaginal route despite describing to every midwife and doctor what happened last time. Part of me thinks I should go for the VB as second births generally easier and any tear should be smaller, plus I'll know what to expect and can really ensure healing is properly checked and looked after.
The other part feels that I don't think I can go through all that again, my scar tissue isn't going to stretch and there's every chance of ending up unable to move much which will be doubly hard with a toddler as well.
Just after some wise advice- especially as I'm not too far away from giving birth and feel I need to speak now if I do decide on the section (and probably be prepared for a battle!)
First ever post (and on such a lovely topic) so please be gentle! Thanks in advance for any replies.
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Second baby after tear/epi
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Nosenosebounds · 06/11/2015 15:56
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