Hello,
I would welcome any advice regarding our current pregnancy.
My wife is 36 weeks pregnant with our fourth child. This time around due to her age (40! Shock! Horror!) she has been under consultant-care throughout her pregnancy.
We have had a couple of issues with her consultant-care so far. We requested a change from her first consultant after he became unreasonably defensive after we asked some very straightforward questions about the decisions he had clearly already made for us (mostly about the necessity for Clexane), to the extent that he told us that we would have to follow his advice if we "didn't want to leave our children without a mother" and suggested instead we should do our own research of the clinical studies (we did - but that's another story).
Anyway, we've just met our second consultant at the 36 week scan. He says that our baby hasn't grown as much as he would have liked in last 3 weeks. Although all other indications are normal including the amount of fluid and the blood flow, he has suggested another scan in a week plus a cervix sweep. He said that, even if the results of those are normal, he is likely to suggest an induction soon afterwards.
We didn't feel we had much chance to discuss the issue of induction. Since the meeting we have struggled to understand why, if baby and mum are both healthy, we wouldn't just leave nature to take its course for a little longer.
The main issue though, is that the whole thing has left us feeling disempowered and feeling defensive. We want to enjoy the final few weeks with our bump and then have as normal a delivery as possible. We both work for the NHS and don't mind a degree of "medicalisation" of the pregnancy and birth process. However the latest consultant's "we'll soon have that thing whipped out of you" attitude has left us feeling pretty low.
Any advice you have would be welcome, especially on the issue of how to have a constructive two-way discussion with consultants and retain some control over the decisions being made about the pregnancy and birth.
Sorry for the long post. Hope you can help. Thank you.
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Possible to have a discussion with consultants becoming disempowered?
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BrassMonkey999 · 11/08/2015 15:52
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