DD is nearly 4 months old, and I thought I was starting to forget but it's been going round my head all day today.
Second pregnancy, ds was nearly 19 months.
I had a S&S at 40+3 and within an hour was getting strong contractions, this was at 10am. Laboured all day and by 10pm I called the midwives out for my home birth. Shortly after that the pain was so strong I wanted to get into the pool for some relief. I started getting the feeling to bear down, and the pain in my back was so intense, I thought I must be 10cm and ready to push. So I got out the pool to be examined. I was only 6cm! After 14 hours of hard labour, only 6cm. I kept saying "this doesn't feel right, this is different to my first, it's not progressing properly" but the midwives just said I was progressing as they'd expect.
This went on for a few more hours, the pain got even worse and there was no relief from it. I didn't get those little breaks in between contractions where you can gather yourself and get comfortable. The pain in my back was constant and intense. The MWs asked where I wanted to be but there was no position that offered any relief. I kept getting hair in my face and brushing at my face to get rid of it. I started on the gas and air.
The urge to push was so strong now, but it felt wrong somehow. I was involuntarily bearing down, I couldn't breathe. It was like when you have really bad diorreah and your stomach cramps up to expel everything and you have no control over it. This hair kept getting in my face but I couldn't get it off, my skin was sore from where I was brushing at my face.
The midwives examined me again and I hadn't dilated any further, so they manually dialated me. The pain of having to lie on my back during that process was insane.
My leg started to go numb, and I got tingling in my other leg and my arms and face. The invisible hair wasn't hair at all, it was too much oxygen in my blood from hyperventilating for so many hours.
With each contraction now I felt sick, and started vomiting from the pain. I couldn't grip the bed or the pool properly because of the numbness in my arms.
I was still bearing down and pushing but nothing was happening, so they examined me again and found that my cervix was stuck around her head like an elastic band. So they had to stretch it over. Then they broke my waters in the hope that it would speed things up. I'd been in labour now for 17 hours. I can't explain the pain. I'd had a pervious birth with no drugs at all but this was so much worse. I'm so ashamed to say it now but I actually wished the baby would show signs of distress so that they'd take me to hospital and I could have a c-section.
Once my waters had broken they wanted me to push, even though the urge wasn't right. I felt an urge but it wasn't the right kind, I can't explain it. Anyway, they realised I had a blockage in my bowel and needed to clear it before the baby could come, so I had to poo. That just went on forever. Dh was holding my hand and the MWs were encouraging me, when it finally came I felt like we should name the bloody thing.
I went up to the toilet for a wee and as soon as I got to the bathroom she started coming. I was pushing her out on the toilet. The MWs heard and came rushing up and she was born within seconds. She wasn't breathing so they wrapped her in a towel and rubbed her roughly. She was so white and silent. They took her downstairs and left me and dh. He was crying. I kept telling him to go down and make sure she was ok but he said he couldn't leave me. Eventually I heard her cry.
It turns out she was back to back. She had turned in the womb and the cord had wrapped around her neck so she was in shock when she was born. I had nerve damage in my leg from where she had been pressing on my spine for 20 hours and my pelvis is still giving me a lot of pain.
But I feel so so lucky that ee were both ok, I knew nothing about back to back labours at the time so I didn't appreciate how lucky we were, having a home birth and all, but I've since done some reading and it's scary. I have two pregnant sisters and I keep thinking of them and I guess I just needed to get this out.
Thank you for getting this far! Sorry it's so long and probably a bit jumbled.
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FoulsomeAndMaggotwise · 17/06/2015 16:18
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