My first labour was quick (5 hours all in all) and intense !
My little girl did not want to come out, she was born at 41weeks +5 days, and I had to have two swipes on week 40 and week 41. It was a Sunday morning. I was sleeping when I felt a 'pop' in my tummy and I immediately knew I was in labour. I felt I was having contractions although they were barely noticeable then. I got up and went to the loo hoping it would prevent me from having a bowel movement during the labour (it didn't!). I went back to the bedroom to wake my husband and that's when my waters broke. We went downstairs to call the hospital, my contractions were close together, every 4 minutes and I struggled speaking to the midwife but they told me to wait and call back when my contractions were getting closer. 5 minutes after hanging up I screamed to my husband and told him I couldn't wait anymore. We arrived at the hospital 5 minutes later, my husband went to speak to the staff, my whole body was shaking, I tried doing the breathing exercise but that didn't help at all. The room was arranged for us, I could barely speak to the midwife, they said I was 2 cm dilated and asked to get pain killers. I was given gas and air but all it did was make me sick. After that my memories are blurry, I remember my dad called back and wanted to speak on the phone but all I could say (or rather scream) is 'I want to die!' and ‘Never again !’ (I am now 32 week pregant with our second daughter ? ). I was sick a few more times, I had several bowel movements, and almost passed out because of the pain, my body was still shaking, the midwife then gave me morphine which helped a lot. I became sleepy but the pain was much more bearable. A few hours passed and when I was 2 cm from complete dilatation, I felt like pushing but knew I could feel I wasn't quite there yet, which the midwife confirmed. I asked for an epidural as the pain was once again unbearable and was only becoming worse and worse. Unfortunately the midwives didn't manage to put the heart monitor on my baby's head. They tried several times but it wouldn't work so I decided to continue the labour without it. I think that's when I started swearing in the 3 languages I speak but perhaps it was earlier, my husband told me to stop swearing and I felt like killing him; luckily for him I was in too much pain to act on my urge! Finally, about 4h15 after my labour started, came the time to push. I was gutted when my midwife told me this process could last up to 2 hours!! Luckily, it only lasted 45 minutes. I remember my husband told me to concentrate and pay close attention to the midwife's directions, which I did. I remember coming out of my body and being flooded with light, each time I pushed the pain increased and I thought to myself 'it cannot become more painful' and yet it did. I felt like an animal but also felt connected to the universe. Finally, my daughter was born and I felt an immense relief. She was put on my tummy and I will never forget the look in her eyes. I immediately fell in love with her and told my husband she had his nose and also couldn't help but exclaim 'Look how hairy she is (she was born with a lot of lanugo)! And how plump! (she was 4.3 kg)'. I wanted to nurse her and the midwife told me she would help me as soon as I had delivered the placenta, which was shortly after as I had asked to get an injection of oxytocin. Delivering the placenta, which seemed to have weighed about 1kg to 1.2kg, gave me another sense of immense relief. The midwife congratulated me for having done a great job pushing my baby, I did not need an episiotomy and I didn't tear either. I was relieved to see that the crippling pelvic girdle pain I had been experiencing during the pregnancy had completely disappeared. The hour following the birth, I had a bath (soon filled with blood!) and nursed my daughter for about 20 minutes.