My little boy is now nearly 12 weeks old and I still can't get his birth out of my head. I had a very much a "what happens happens" approach with regards to his birth and wasn't set on a definite birth plan.
My waters went at home at 35 weeks and 1.5 hours later he was here by emergency c section. He was lying transverse when they scanned me once I got to the hospital and in a blur of medical staff rushing to me, me signing things, being told cord prolapse was a real risk, and that i was 5cm dialated without knowing, I was quite scared. I am very grateful that with regards to the bigger picture he is here, safe and well, albeit a stay in the neonatal unit. However, I can't help but feel...cheated. I feel like my body failed him. I wasn't shown him when they pulled him out. He was worked on for a while before he was handed to my husband. I feel I missed out birthing him. I didn't feel that instant bond when I held him. I wasn't the first to hold him and spend time cuddling him. For a long time he didn't feel like mine. I went up to a ward alone, as it was the middle of the night husband was sent home and my son was sent to neonatal.
If I allow myself to think about his birth it upsets me so much. My friends tell me I am lucky I didn't feel the pain of labour but I don't feel that way. I am glad that this hasn't stopped me bonding with my son but I just still feel in shock I guess. Does anyone else have any similar experiences to tell me I am not going mad replaying things over and over in my head?
Thanks for reading this far!
Katie
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Still sad about the birth of my son
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Banana82 · 28/07/2014 18:23
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