Caffeine pills (for him)
He needs to brush his teeth a few times in the course of labour if he doesn't eat, and also if he does eat -- toothpaste or breathmints for him so he won't gross you out when he counts in your face while you push
Packing:
Tube socks for you
Tennis ball or some sort of back massager for you
Chapstick for you
Lozenges for you
Washcloth to soak with water and cool your forehead or neck
Bottles of still water if you like bottled water both for labour and on the ward afterwards
Light snacks for you
Toiletries, hairbrush, deodorant, toothpaste and brush
Nursing bra and nursing pads
Granny knickers and maternity pads
Some sort of nightie you won't mind binning, or just use hospital gowns
Music that you like some playlist you enjoy soothing music might work better than heavy metal
Towels for your shower afterwards
Baby clothes
Coping:
Shutting up
Doing what he's told
Not getting in everyone's way
Staying awake
Not answering his phone or talking on his phone
Not looking up football etc on his phone
Keeping relatives out if you don't want them there
There's a lamaze technique where you lightly stroke your bump during contractions that works pretty well to reduce the sensation of pain or distract from the pain can't remember what it's called something about feathers (in French)
Have you gone to prenatal classes together?
Advocacy:
Let him talk you into an epidural
He should let others talk you into an epidural
If you have a drip, make sure he knows to insist they numb your hand or arm with the small novocaine needle before putting in the large IV needle
He needs to know any allergies you have to latex (bananas, avocados) aspirin, penicillin, etc. Any asthma, any previous surgery, any reactions to anesthesia
Ask questions for you if you need questions asked on the ward afterwards
Keep visitors away if you are not up to visitors
Making sure you have what you need on the ward afterwards by way of water, tissues, fruit to snack on and get you moving, crackers, your own high quality TP, a perineal bottle (you can buy them online, they are fab), chemical ice packs for perineal use (online, they are fab)
Cleaning the house and stocking the fridge for you while you're in the hospital