I'm not normally a shy person but I can't get my head round asking a doctor to check my bits. I had episiotomy and forceps, ten months ago. When I was in hospital one midwife actually said "oh if they were my bits I'd want them restitched" the consultant then disagreed and said it's been more than 24 hours so we won't anyway. We managed sex after around 3 months, it's not sharp painful but it feels like I'm being stretched/pulled in the wrong direction. Not enjoyable for either of us! I now live in a different country so have to go straight to a gynae I think, which should be easier but I hate not knowing the system, and just feel so mortified at trying to explain my sex life (or lack of it).
Thank you, just writing it out makes me squirm but if I'm ever to have another baby I need to do something! I think I'm just scared they'll say tough, that's what happens! If I'd given birth here it would have been straight to csection rather than forceps, so sort of expect them to know less about episiotomies/scarring etc. irrational head is on.