Words of encouragement much needed..... Hitting the wall

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varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 20:28:32

I'm 40+5 today and lost my mucous plug on Saturday, followed by more on Sunday and today. Saturday I was having tightenings that I would exactly say we're painful which stopped around 8pm & Sunday I had painful contractions that we're coming 4-6 minutes for 45 seconds until 9pm when they too stopped.

This morning I had a huge mucous loss followed by intense contractions every 3-5 minutes. I went to hospital to be told I was 2-3cm, with 1 cm of cervix left to thin out. They sent me away. All day the contractions have been bad but have not got any more frequent than 5-6 minutes- then tonight I had another huge bloody mucous loss.but now everything has stopped again and I could just cry. I am exhausted and fed up.

I have a little boy (3) who I have had to have looked after since Saturday ;-( as I can't manage him and theses contractions... And also he needs to be looked after in case of night time rush to hospital.... But I am getting beyond frustrated and it's overwhelmed me today. Feeling very emotional

Can anyone offer me words of encouragement....

Izzyalex Wed 12-Feb-14 18:58:53

((Big hugs)) it's tough but you can do it! Xx

glorious Wed 12-Feb-14 08:24:45

I really hope that baby is here now smile

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Tue 11-Feb-14 20:36:54

How are you this eve OP?

glorious Tue 11-Feb-14 12:42:15

Thinking of you

MrsJK Tue 11-Feb-14 08:37:28

Any baby?!smile

glorious Tue 11-Feb-14 07:06:38

How are you OP?

DewClawDisaster Mon 10-Feb-14 23:46:39

I was like this was DD1 and it was disheartening. I rested and then went for a great walk. Once it all happened, it happened very wuickly - I'm sure it will for you too. Good luck!

ajandjjmum Mon 10-Feb-14 23:39:07

Hope you're getting some rest now - you'll need it over the coming weeks! grin

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt Mon 10-Feb-14 21:44:19

I'm sure not having your ds at home has had an effect.

Defo send dp to work and then organise something extra special for you to do that you won't be able to do once the baby has arrived. That will defo kick things off! grin

varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 21:29:20

Move it- I agree, just done quick bit of research. Don't think MW meant to discourage me but sometimes throw away comments like that are all u remember...

Tomorrow is another day... Positive, active day. May send DP to work, that'll def get things moving. DS1 at nursery for 2days now too so normal routine will make me feel better.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Mon 10-Feb-14 21:25:13

Ina May's childbirth book on kindle

There are all these incredible birth stories and some quite graphic pics so don't read it on the tube like I did.

I think your baby is going to come sooner than you think OP.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt Mon 10-Feb-14 21:19:33

Ina May Gaskin is a MW in north America. Some would say she has quite hippy/psychedelic ideas, and admittedly some are a bit out there. But most of her advice is just common sense and what most of us would do but for the stupid things we are told by others, (your MW's comment being a classic hmm )

ChrisMooseMickey Mon 10-Feb-14 21:17:47

You are nearly there. I was like this for 3 weeks, but you are nearly there, just try and keep active if you can. And congratulations in advance smile

Stockhausen Mon 10-Feb-14 21:17:05

Good luck OP!!

I had a drawn out early Labour, but my actual recorded Labour was 5.5hrs

varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 21:15:08

Who/what is Ina May? Google search needed!

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt Mon 10-Feb-14 21:09:14

Lol at a surge against a tree!

I bloody love Ina May though.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt Mon 10-Feb-14 21:07:45

The leaking milk is another sign of your body's preparation for welcoming this baby.

I found visualisations really helpful. I'd lay on my bed and visualise myself in a calm and tranquil setting and then visualise the joy of meeting my baby for the first time. I would go into every detail possible, not of the birth, but of seeing them for the very first time - drinking every detail of them in. Doing this would help relax me but also give me confidence. But there again I can be a bit of an old hippy grin

I look forward to seeing your birth announcement smile

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Mon 10-Feb-14 21:06:37

YY to a glass of wine! Everyone in Ina May either has a glass of red wine or goes for a long country walk and has a surge against a tree. Wine is definitely the better option.

Just think OP, soon you will have a gorgeous snuggly newborn. envy

varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 21:03:00

I like the birthing ball- bounced DS1 out. MW told me this morning that 2-3cm and 1cm left to efface on cervix would be news if it was my first but as it's dc2 it could have been like that for weeks and could still be days. No wonder I'm not encouraged....

glorious Mon 10-Feb-14 21:01:38

A good cry is obligatory! I rang my mum (abroad! ) at 7am having said I didn't want anyone knowing I was in labour shock

If distraction is good maybe a film? Or I spent hours visualising a favourite walk and then what different parts of the baby might look like (e.g. nose, eyelashes).

varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 21:00:13

I want to go off like a rocket! I am feeling a little calmer now. You're all really helping me. My poor OH doesn't know what to do so us giving me wide berth (sp?). A contracting, overdue, hormonal woman is enough to scare anyone.
This might be irrelevant but I'm leaking milk. What's that all about?

MrsDeVere Mon 10-Feb-14 20:57:41

You ARE getting there.
You are doing brilliantly.

It took me till DC5 to discover the wonders of the birthing ball. You can sit down AND move at the same time.
It even allowed me to sit down whilst contracting. WTFlip did I not know this before!

The crying is normal too. I get really weepy in labour. My MW friend says she sees it all the time.

I clean a lot when in labour but I understand if that is not something you want to try smile

Come on girl! YOU CAN DO THIS flowers

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt Mon 10-Feb-14 20:53:50

{{hug}} I can feel the emotion and frustration in your post.

Remember that all of these tightenings and contractions ARE doing something, maybe they are dilating your cervix or maybe they are getting your baby into the perfect position. Either way they are bringing you closer to meeting each other.

Have a bloody good cry, a glass of wine, some comfort food and a deep warm bath. Give yourself permission to feel upset about this, you have every right to be. Then after that, you'll hopefully feel refreshed, positive and ready to face this birth.

I have a feeling that you'll go off like a rocket anytime soon and you'll be holding your newborn before you know it smile

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Mon 10-Feb-14 20:50:15

You can do it. Dig deep, you're a strong woman.

varicoseveins Mon 10-Feb-14 20:48:28

Thank you glorious and gunpowder. Think the hormones and missing my DS1 are exaggerating everything. Am in bed now trying to switch off but it's easier said than done. I've tried walking but was in too much pain & a bath etc.. I'm trying to distract my mind by reading a crap book etc but not much is working. Just spoke to my mum (looking after DS) and cried like I was 5! She told me to get a grip get some sleep.

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