If I go overdue I'll miss out on a free family cruise!

(95 Posts)
Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:28:50

Hi,

A one week cruise has been planned for the whole family for next May, all booked & paid for (extremely generously) by my FIL. It is a surprise for my MIL's 70th birthday.

I am SO excited about it, I've never been on a cruise before, it's not the kind of thing we could ever afford. It was booked before anyone knew I was pregnant.

My baby is due on 16th November. I've just found out that babies less than 6 months and 1 day old are not allowed on the cruise - due to the lack of appropriate medical facilities on board. The cruise leaves on the 25th of May.

So basically I have to have had this baby by the 24th November or I won't be able to go!! Nobody told me as they didn't want to stress me out.
If it comes to it DH and DS would have to go without me..........I will cry if that happens! We have a balcony room and everything, the whole family are going. Plus it's my DS's 5th birthday on the day the cruise leaves.

Please help me will this baby out!!

If you were me would you see if you could be induced a few days early to ensure you could go? I really don't want to be induced but if it comes to it. ......do you think they'd agree?!

They didn't want to stress you out but they told you now? If your baby is late I think they should go on a cruise a week or two later. It's not fair for you to miss out

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:35:41

It came up today by accident, hubby looked a bit sheepish when I cottoned on.
It's a specific cruise that only sails on this specific week (during half term, there will be several school aged kiddies going including my DS) , no way it could be booked for a later date.

JaquelineHyde Sun 10-Nov-13 18:36:02

NoArmani I don't think it's that simple. These cruises are booked a very long time in advance and as Bamb said it was booked before anyone knew she was pregnant.

Bamb I'm sorry that this has happened but unfortunately I don't think there is much you can do. I doubt very much any medical professional worth their salt would induce you purely so you could go on a cruise 6 months later.
Good luck I shall follow your thread and hope your baby has a prompt arrival.

sillyoldfool Sun 10-Nov-13 18:37:27

talk to your midwife and see if she'll do you some sweeps in te week before your due date?

RandomMess Sun 10-Nov-13 18:38:38

Being induced at 41 weeks is standard at my local hospital these days (didn't used to be!)

Find out what your local policy is - you may be pleasantly surprised that it ties in with what you want grin

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:38:54

Thing is presumably they'd be looking to induce on about the 26th November anyway, assuming I've not had the baby by then, so there would literally be a few days in it. I agree though it does seem a bit entitled to ask doesn't it.
Right it's curries for dinner from here on in.

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:39:36

41 weeks would work! I'll ask.

There are more and more 'social' inductions and elCS done nowadays...
Just sayin' - not sure I'd go for that personally though.
If you feel that strongly about it, it may be worth a word with your consultant, including the pros and cons.

GrandOldDukeOfBabies Sun 10-Nov-13 18:40:08

Drive up and down a VERY bumpy road every day between now and then!

That is really unfortunate but I think you should be approaching the criuse firm, not your midwife!

heidihole Sun 10-Nov-13 18:41:28

Well you'd be 8 days over...and seeing as it's your second hopefully you'd have it by then? Fingers crossed for you!

RandomMess Sun 10-Nov-13 18:41:30

When did DS turn up and how long is the cruise? You could always join the ship on the appropriate day!

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:43:12

DS came at 37 weeks, I'm now 39+1. Hace had loads of twinges so hopefully there'll be no issue. It would be so rubbish to miss out by a day or something!

heidihole Sun 10-Nov-13 18:43:19

Realistically...are the cruise company going to study your DS passport if it said Nov 28th instead? Surely you just carry baby on, flash passport to person at the door and you all walk in?

HolidayArmadillo Sun 10-Nov-13 18:44:22

I'd be asking for sweeps from 40 weeks every couple of days. Good luck!

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:45:10

That is really unfortunate but I think you should be approaching the criuse firm, not your midwife!

Somehow suspect they'll not hold up the whole ship just for me, haha!

Good point about joining the ship later in the week, I wonder if that would be ok if needed.

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:47:02

Realistically...are the cruise company going to study your DS passport if it said Nov 28th instead? Surely you just carry baby on, flash passport to person at the door and you all walk in?

Maybe although not sure I'd want to get all the way to the port to find out. SIL works for the cruise company, apparently they are VERY strict.

AndHarry Sun 10-Nov-13 18:48:55

Fingers crossed for you. I'd be on a trampoline!

VegasIsBest Sun 10-Nov-13 18:50:45

Also your travel insurance for the baby would be invalid, if the cruise company's rules say its too young to travel.

Could you join the cruise a day or two later at one of the ports, if the dates don't quite work?

lottiegarbanzo Sun 10-Nov-13 18:51:24

People I know we're offered sweeps very soon after due date with our first, I think I declined one and dd was only five days over. I don't think anyone is keen for you to wait to near 42 weeks, so the chances of that do seem quite low...

KippyVonKipperson Sun 10-Nov-13 18:53:24

Not saying this is a good idea, but..... You could always invent some symptoms that would make them want to induce you early.

Immoral, I know, just so tempting....

Bambamb Sun 10-Nov-13 18:54:52

Nah I don't think I'd go that far. I basically just have to get myself into labour.

So.....hot curries, raspberry leaf tea, sex. ....what else?

Coveredinweetabix Sun 10-Nov-13 18:55:11

Around here, they induce at 40+12. I had that with DC1 and, due to various delays, she wasn't born until 40+15. I couldn't let that happen with DC2 as DP had to go overseas at 40+ 15. I'd told everyone I could think of, burst into tears on everyone I could think of etc but was continually told I'd had to wait until 40+12. Come 40+8, which was the earliest I could be booked in for an induction, the MW said she'd ring the hospital and get back to me. By late afternoon, I hadn't heard anything and couldn't get hold of her. As it was a Friday and I didn't want to spend the weekend waiting to find out what was happening, I thought I'd try the labour ward & see if they could tell me. After being passed (by phone) from one person to another, I got through to someone who told me I hadn't been booked in, I couldn't be induced on 40+12 as they already had too many bookings that day so would have to wait until 40+13. At which point I asked very calmly whether they had any space at 40+11 as, if so, I was prepared to go in then. By chance, they only had one induction booked for that day (as opposed to the maximum 8 on 40+12 and already had 6 for 40+13) so were happy to do that. So, if no one else is prepared to budge, try the actual labour ward as they may be prepared to budge protocol for practical considerations.
But also try everything else. I had reflexology and a s&s at 40+10 and DC2 appeared that evening so I never made it to the induction.

BikeRunSki Sun 10-Nov-13 19:03:09

My pg yoga teacher swore by massaging the bottom of your toes to induce labour. I think it was the big toe.

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