I'm a bit shy about posting but would really value any advice any of you have! (sorry about the war and peace epic here!!) I had my ds 4 months ago - he's my second bubba and I still feel really anxious and upset by the birth. I had a VBAC and while the delivery itself was very straightforward, labour was very frightening and for me, upsetting. I was 10 days overdue and requested, reluctantly an induction. I felt strongly that my baby was well overdue - I was right as it turned out and was very concerned about both of our health. I had suffered a mild but nasty case of depression throughout my pg and got every infection going. At the end docs felt I was too ill to deliver so gave me some steroids to help hold off the birth till I was better.
When I saw the consultant he agreed to an induction the next day. I arranged my childcare and was frankly relieved. I rang the hospital next morning and they told me that they couldn't take me in but I should drop by for some monitoring. I had now been having contractions on and off for a week and this morning they were strengthening. I cancelled my childcare thinking that it would be some time before things moved on. We went in for monitoring and they told me that I would be given prostaglandin there and then. My husband rearranged the childcare. Contractions now strong and continued for several hours - mw thought I was about 4cm dilated but I felt very anxious and upset. Contractions stopped. I then spent two days being told that I would be taken to the delivery suite for my induction 'imminently'. On Sunday morning I felt baby and I both really really fed up. Baby very quiet and I intuitively felt that he was scared and reluctant to make an appearance. I felt that if I could go home, relax, groom my horse and see my 16 month old daughter that my body might carrry on for the best. As I was leaving the maternity ward the delivery suite sister caught me up and told me that they would take me there and then. Husband and I both in a quandary (?sp) His mum was looking after dd and we were now desperate. I felt things were utterly out of control and that although I was sure I was in labour no-one would listen - it was syntocinon or nothing! I was also told that it was ridiculous to try an induced birth without a 'full range of pain relief' even though I expressed a desire to be allowed to get on with it on my own. Once in the delivery suite, I was, of course, hooked up to monitors etc etc, though mw did do her best to help me move around and use my birthing ball. As the ward was so busy we were left to ourselves which was fine. I had gas and air for the last 1/2 hour and used breathing and visualisation to help a bit as well. Labour progressed very quickly and mw ended up telling me 'I cant stop you pushing, you'll just have to push love''! Which I did. Ds born v healthy but within 2 days was in special care due to a blood incompatibility(though no-one told us that this was the problem until he was a month old and perfectly healthy).
The mw on the ward told me I was just 'upset' when I said that he was not okay and not feeding well. I had to insist on seeing the paediatrician who agreed that ds was making a 'horrible noise' and needed looking at. He was taken to special care, getting iller by the moment - bright orange and not responding.
All in I was in hosp for a week during which time I hardly saw my dd as I spent so much time expressing and feeding ds. She stopped talking and her upset was very distressing. Both dd and ds now extremely healthy and bouncy but I am finding it very hard to process my own experience. Any advice about what I could do to help?
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Traumatised by childbirth experience - any advice please?
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cashmeresox · 28/06/2006 13:44
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