Photos during labour? Surely that's not normal!

(30 Posts)
HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs Wed 18-Sep-13 16:05:17

I'm watching BBCs Midwives programme. The lady is pushing, nearly there; baby's head is out. I'm cringing just watching. Then suddenly her partner jumps in with his mobile phone and takes a photo... ?!?!?!? Why? It just seems so inappropriate/gross.
Or is it just me? Is it capturing the natural beauty of childbirth?

fuckwittery Mon 23-Sep-13 10:39:39

Oh, he also texted a photo of dd2 resting her head on my boob with my nipple out to his work colleague and still cant see anything wrong with that, the twat. I've threatened to secretly film him next time he's doing a poo and text that to all and sundry.

fuckwittery Mon 23-Sep-13 10:37:40

My husband took a video of me having contractions and showed it to his fucking mother, there are no words!! Suffice to say the camera is banned from the bloody delivery room this time, I'd ban him too except he'd love that and I may as well make him bored and uncomfortable while I'm in excruiating pain.

jammiedonut Mon 23-Sep-13 03:55:10

They're definitely not going on Facebook and are password protected so not likely to pop up as a scary screensaver either!

jammiedonut Mon 23-Sep-13 03:54:03

Haha you'll think I was a right weirdo when I tell you my mum not only took photos but filmed it! After 23 hours of labour I couldn't remember my own name, and most of ds early hours are a blur to me. I love looking at the photos. And the video is hands down the best form of contraception out there! Every time I even think aww I'd love another one I can watch and hear myself dealing with the pain and decide it's really not a good idea! My sisters and sil have also seen the video, but asked to as all from medical backgrounds and weirdly curious about stuff like that.

Mamabear12 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:01:57

My mom took photos during my labour and delivery. Before I had the epidural, I was like STOP taking photos! After epidural, I was fine for her to take the pics. I enjoyed looking at them later on, as I couldnt see what was going on during the actually birth and later on was curious. A little scary looking, but def would not delete them! In fact, I ended up showing a few of my close girlfriends and going over my labour story, im the first of the group to have a baby smile

Irishfairy Sat 21-Sep-13 17:44:29

I get it, I have no pictures of dd's birth and it was in hospital and fairly medical. I would still have liked some pics to look at as my memory is fairly fuzzy. This time I'm planning a home birth and my friend who is a semi professional photographer will hopefully be there and get some pics. I've seen plenty of beautiful, tasteful birth photos and I'd like to have some to remember the event, depending on the pic and how much it shows I will then decide who and how I share it.
I think some of the biggest days of your life are your wedding day and the days your children are born, so I don't see what is wrong with documenting the birth days as well as the other big days in your lifetime if you should so choose. smile

PinkPepper Sat 21-Sep-13 17:15:21

I wish I had photos of me in the pool. I don't know why I wouldn't share them with anyone. I think my partner thought it'd be inappropriate so didn't but I've asked him to take some if there's a next time.

Shellywelly1973 Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:41

I dont get it to be honest. After my last baby there isn't even 1 photograph of me or Dp, me & baby...just the baby. I just hate looking at myself in a picture!

Charlottehere Fri 20-Sep-13 09:56:07

Well she's already being filmed confused

Amibambini Fri 20-Sep-13 09:54:56

A few years back I was a birth partner for a friend, along with her dp. As I'm a photographer by trade, and not squeamish, she asked me to document the whole process, from the waiting around, through to the crowning (artfully cropping out the little turtle head that was also being pushed out!), and the beautiful moments of first skin on skin. It's a lovely series of very personal photos for her and her partner. No flash. A really wonderful experience for me too, seeing my friends baby born, totally blew my mind!

It's probably not everyone's cup of tea, but each to their own huh?

elliejjtiny Fri 20-Sep-13 02:48:12

I've got loads of photos of my C-section. I wanted one of them framed and on the wall (it's of the surgeon with one hand supporting DS4's head and the other hand in my guts and she's got a big grin on her face) but DH was horrified when I suggested it.

Not for me thanks! I like the straight after birth ones, with mum holding a baby to her chest triumphantly, but not a fanny pic.

I'm tempted to ask for a mirror next time though, so I can see for myself!

Mouserama Thu 19-Sep-13 10:48:19

My DH took photos of DD being born by C Section. I was flicking through the photos afterwards, and lo and behold, there is my body, wide open cavity and what I swear are intestines poking out. I was shocked at first, but now I find it quite fascinating! (Lets face it, I'm never going to get the opportunity to see the inside of my body again) And no, it hasn't been shown to anyone else, and nor will it!

cantreachmytoes Thu 19-Sep-13 08:52:34

I have a good friend who took photos of their baby coming out. He then put one on Facebook without his wife's nether regions in view, but baby was JUST out, picture feet first and legs apart.

I bet she's going to appreciate that when some kid at school trawls the Internet and finds it...

When I had dd2 the other week the gas and air was so good I couldn't have gave a flying monkey fig qho or what was going on around me but I think if afterwards someone had gone 'and here are the images to scar you for life of your foofy birthing' I'd have freaked out I've no reason to want to see all that business prude

mayhew Thu 19-Sep-13 08:13:26

I once watched a dad film the birth on his phone. They both watched the replay while i delivered the placenta. Must be the modern world.

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:35:43

Yes, Creature. I wish I could delete the images from my brain!

Merrylegs Wed 18-Sep-13 20:16:25

It was filmed though so why did he need photos? The first thing that baby was greeted with was a blinding flash in its face. What a welcome to the world.

Vinegar shock you've see your MIL's stretched fanjo?!!!

My MW took photos during labour with ds. I shuddered when I saw them and have deleted them. I want to remember labour as it was in my head, not highlighted witha bright camera flash.

GiraffesAndButterflies Wed 18-Sep-13 20:07:36

You guys may enjoy the Ben Elton book Blind Faith...

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:04:02

I crapped myself when DD was born (as a very large % of people do). No thanks to that being caught on camera. DS was forceps with an episiotomy - again, not exactly prime photograph material.

PrincessRomy Wed 18-Sep-13 20:02:38

I wish I could have seen what it looked like when ds's head was coming out - I asked dh to describe it but it's not the same.

However, if he'd have been looking at it through the 'lens' of the camera phone instead of in rl it wouldn't have been the same experience for him imo.

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:02:35

My MiL has (several times) proudly shown me the photos of DH's head crowning. Yes, really.

ShowOfHands Wed 18-Sep-13 19:59:13

My friend gave birth, naturally, to twins and her dp was a photographer and documented the whole thing. The pictures are actually beautiful and they share them with very few people. They're not displayed artfully on the coffee table or blown up and stretched across an enormous canvas in the kitchen.

Fair enough if you don't want to do it, but I can see why you would. I might have considered it but hours into labour, I wouldn't have cared if a brass band had set up camp down there and had their annual publicity shots taken.

MoreThanWords Wed 18-Sep-13 19:54:43

I'm sure I've seen adverts/articles on professional birth photographers!

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