Photos during labour? Surely that's not normal!

(30 Posts)
HomeIsWhereTheHeartIs Wed 18-Sep-13 16:05:17

I'm watching BBCs Midwives programme. The lady is pushing, nearly there; baby's head is out. I'm cringing just watching. Then suddenly her partner jumps in with his mobile phone and takes a photo... ?!?!?!? Why? It just seems so inappropriate/gross.
Or is it just me? Is it capturing the natural beauty of childbirth?

SmallBee Wed 18-Sep-13 16:30:22

I couldn't care less about capturing the natural beauty of childbirth, if my Husband tries that crap the phone is going to be throw right out the hospital (3rd story) window.

onlysettleforbutterflies Wed 18-Sep-13 16:32:30

I thought that too op and wondered what he did with it -fFacebook, family album, framed...

PinkApple86 Wed 18-Sep-13 19:48:14

I thought that too at the time but thinking about it I would maybe like to see my child being born as everybody else can see except the mother. I'm due tomorrow so ask me in a few weeks and I might have changed my mind. Defo wouldn't show anyone else though it would be one for the personal collection

hettienne Wed 18-Sep-13 19:52:08

I thought it was one of her sisters that took the photo!

Tbf, there was already a film crew at the business end so a blackberry didn't make much difference.

MoreThanWords Wed 18-Sep-13 19:54:43

I'm sure I've seen adverts/articles on professional birth photographers!

ShowOfHands Wed 18-Sep-13 19:59:13

My friend gave birth, naturally, to twins and her dp was a photographer and documented the whole thing. The pictures are actually beautiful and they share them with very few people. They're not displayed artfully on the coffee table or blown up and stretched across an enormous canvas in the kitchen.

Fair enough if you don't want to do it, but I can see why you would. I might have considered it but hours into labour, I wouldn't have cared if a brass band had set up camp down there and had their annual publicity shots taken.

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:02:35

My MiL has (several times) proudly shown me the photos of DH's head crowning. Yes, really.

PrincessRomy Wed 18-Sep-13 20:02:38

I wish I could have seen what it looked like when ds's head was coming out - I asked dh to describe it but it's not the same.

However, if he'd have been looking at it through the 'lens' of the camera phone instead of in rl it wouldn't have been the same experience for him imo.

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:04:02

I crapped myself when DD was born (as a very large % of people do). No thanks to that being caught on camera. DS was forceps with an episiotomy - again, not exactly prime photograph material.

GiraffesAndButterflies Wed 18-Sep-13 20:07:36

You guys may enjoy the Ben Elton book Blind Faith...

Vinegar shock you've see your MIL's stretched fanjo?!!!

My MW took photos during labour with ds. I shuddered when I saw them and have deleted them. I want to remember labour as it was in my head, not highlighted witha bright camera flash.

Merrylegs Wed 18-Sep-13 20:16:25

It was filmed though so why did he need photos? The first thing that baby was greeted with was a blinding flash in its face. What a welcome to the world.

VinegarDrinker Wed 18-Sep-13 20:35:43

Yes, Creature. I wish I could delete the images from my brain!

mayhew Thu 19-Sep-13 08:13:26

I once watched a dad film the birth on his phone. They both watched the replay while i delivered the placenta. Must be the modern world.

When I had dd2 the other week the gas and air was so good I couldn't have gave a flying monkey fig qho or what was going on around me but I think if afterwards someone had gone 'and here are the images to scar you for life of your foofy birthing' I'd have freaked out I've no reason to want to see all that business prude

cantreachmytoes Thu 19-Sep-13 08:52:34

I have a good friend who took photos of their baby coming out. He then put one on Facebook without his wife's nether regions in view, but baby was JUST out, picture feet first and legs apart.

I bet she's going to appreciate that when some kid at school trawls the Internet and finds it...

Mouserama Thu 19-Sep-13 10:48:19

My DH took photos of DD being born by C Section. I was flicking through the photos afterwards, and lo and behold, there is my body, wide open cavity and what I swear are intestines poking out. I was shocked at first, but now I find it quite fascinating! (Lets face it, I'm never going to get the opportunity to see the inside of my body again) And no, it hasn't been shown to anyone else, and nor will it!

Not for me thanks! I like the straight after birth ones, with mum holding a baby to her chest triumphantly, but not a fanny pic.

I'm tempted to ask for a mirror next time though, so I can see for myself!

elliejjtiny Fri 20-Sep-13 02:48:12

I've got loads of photos of my C-section. I wanted one of them framed and on the wall (it's of the surgeon with one hand supporting DS4's head and the other hand in my guts and she's got a big grin on her face) but DH was horrified when I suggested it.

Amibambini Fri 20-Sep-13 09:54:56

A few years back I was a birth partner for a friend, along with her dp. As I'm a photographer by trade, and not squeamish, she asked me to document the whole process, from the waiting around, through to the crowning (artfully cropping out the little turtle head that was also being pushed out!), and the beautiful moments of first skin on skin. It's a lovely series of very personal photos for her and her partner. No flash. A really wonderful experience for me too, seeing my friends baby born, totally blew my mind!

It's probably not everyone's cup of tea, but each to their own huh?

Charlottehere Fri 20-Sep-13 09:56:07

Well she's already being filmed confused

Shellywelly1973 Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:41

I dont get it to be honest. After my last baby there isn't even 1 photograph of me or Dp, me & baby...just the baby. I just hate looking at myself in a picture!

PinkPepper Sat 21-Sep-13 17:15:21

I wish I had photos of me in the pool. I don't know why I wouldn't share them with anyone. I think my partner thought it'd be inappropriate so didn't but I've asked him to take some if there's a next time.

Irishfairy Sat 21-Sep-13 17:44:29

I get it, I have no pictures of dd's birth and it was in hospital and fairly medical. I would still have liked some pics to look at as my memory is fairly fuzzy. This time I'm planning a home birth and my friend who is a semi professional photographer will hopefully be there and get some pics. I've seen plenty of beautiful, tasteful birth photos and I'd like to have some to remember the event, depending on the pic and how much it shows I will then decide who and how I share it.
I think some of the biggest days of your life are your wedding day and the days your children are born, so I don't see what is wrong with documenting the birth days as well as the other big days in your lifetime if you should so choose. smile

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