So, tonight's project is to write my birth plan. I'm 33 weeks with dc2.
DS's birth was pretty horrible, although outcome was healthy baby etc so I'm not complaining too much. Short version is waters broke, i didnt progress, ended up with antibiotics, epidural and sintocin. After 2 days in hospital (no food or sleep), he was delivered by ventouse and i had an episiotomy. i was very out of sorts afterwards, didn't really have any interest in holding ds, didn't even ask if he was boy or girl (and no one told me) and didn't bf him for 30 hours or so.
Now, whenever I think about his birth, I get very emotional (and not in a good way). I've tried talking to MWs about it, but usually get too upset.
This time around I want to avoid some of the things that happened to me, although I realise they were all out of my control.
Key points for me are:
Want to try and progress naturally as much as possible. But after last time I will probably need extra reassurance that my body can and will do it, as I have my doubts.
If I need an episiotomy, I want them to tell me/ask me and not just cut me like last time.
I'm terrified of forceps and want to avoid them at all cost. Can I ask for a CS instead if they look necessary?
Skin to skin and bfing are really important to me, an I want to be helped to do them, if I don't have presence of mind to initiate them myself. Ditto re telling me the sex!
Basically, I want the MWs to read my birth plan and take it seriously. I don't want to bang on and on about last time, or look like I'm complaining about it, but I really want to get these points across.
Any tips on writing an effective plan would be gratefully received. Thank you.
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Advice re birth plan
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FredKiller · 18/08/2013 18:31
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