Please be honest with me...

(40 Posts)
ElBombero Tue 06-Aug-13 22:09:07

Is labouring really easier 2nd time round?

It was for me, much quicker too.

<watches with interest>

solarbright Tue 06-Aug-13 22:12:16

It is for lots of people - it was quicker and much easier for me. But there's no guarantees with childbirth.

FlatsInDagenham Tue 06-Aug-13 22:12:45

Quicker yes, but just as painful.

intheshed Tue 06-Aug-13 22:12:54

I think it depends on your experience the first time round... for me I was less scared and felt more in control as I knew what to expect. Once things got going it was certainly quicker.

notanyanymore Tue 06-Aug-13 22:21:06

YY, absofuckinlutely! DD2 (had a CS the first time) was hell from start to finish, honestly I still cried about it whenever it got brought up, up until my midwife started talking about my birth plan for DD3 and then the floodgates well and truly opened and I finally faced up to it properly and kind of 'let go'.
But, DD3 was a dream. Student midwife checked me, then appologised and got the MW to check me again when I went in, I was 4cm but she'd doubted herself due to my vague 'oohs' at each contraction. Went straight to delivery and onto gas and air, and spent the labour watching films/chatting etc until they insisted the baby needed to be delivered or they'd ventouse me (I was scared of the delivery part due to previous birth so think I hadn't quite been on board with the pushing part) but gave a couple of pushes and out she popped! No stitches as there was just a slight graze, which caused me no probs after. After some skin to skin got straight into a lovely bath etc then back onto the maternity ward and back home the next morning.
Only probs I had was with afterpains, which I had no clue about and hurt more then the contractions had (prob because they hadn't really hurt, certainly not before the G&A kicked in anyway), but I think that might have been because she was actually my third baby IFYSWIM and apparently it is more common in 3rd's onwards.

notanyanymore Tue 06-Aug-13 22:21:52

oh and it was quicker for me too but still about 12 hours or so

Flossie82 Tue 06-Aug-13 22:22:09

Much much easier for me. 23 month age gap.

poweredbytoast Tue 06-Aug-13 22:44:13

All three of mine were equally long (12 ish hours) and equally painful, however by number three I'd got the hang of gas and air and was a lot more relaxed about the whole thing.

Nomnew Tue 06-Aug-13 22:48:53

Mine was a lot quicker by about 12 hours and drug free(unlike the first which ended up with epidural). Both probably equally painful at times but I was more resilient 2nd time round as it was quicker and I knew what to expect....

except for the ring of fire which I didn't have first time(due to epidural)- that was rather an eyewatering(understatement) surprise

After the first birth, I was thinking "never again". After the second I was thinking "that was fantastic, I'd love to do that again".

I was induced the second time, but I found the whole experience much easier than with DD1. I knew what to expect, had better pain relief, and I could see the end, whereas with DD1 I was blinded by the pain and panicked a lot.

Grittzio Tue 06-Aug-13 22:50:29

Much much easier, 37 hour labour 1st time, 2 hours 2nd time but had done some hypnobirthing as very anxious after 1st, felt a lot more in control and didn't panic when contractions started, just got a hypno book and CD from Amazon.

flatmum Tue 06-Aug-13 22:54:36

I agree much quicker and easier in terms of pushing but just as if but more painful (maybe because quickest one?), thir birth was the best and not really tht painful

IceAddict Tue 06-Aug-13 23:00:18

Yes!! It was for me. 2nd labour much quicker and pushing was far more effective. Hope yours goes well

AmandaPandtheTantrumofDoom Tue 06-Aug-13 23:02:59

For me, yes. Quicker and more straightforward. Hard to compare pain as one was very drugged instrumental and the other completely unmedicated. I'd say that the second I got all the pain out of the way in the labour IYSWIM - far less pain in the days and weeks that followed (stuff like brusing, stitches, etc).

My 2nd was so easy, easiest of the four.

No pain relief needed was that easy.

I spent my second labour chatting to leprechauns in their village aka high on gas and air, was induced but it was a really easy labour and I spent most of it talking shite amusing my birth partner and the midwife grin same length of time around 5-6 hours. I'm weird tho I enjoy labour!

NandH Tue 06-Aug-13 23:45:55

Yes grin well it was for me, 2nd labour was only 2 hours and ds 'popped' out with no tears and I had no pain releif and I can say it honestly was fine!

With dc1 labour was odd and I done what I wad told ad she was 2 months premature, it was awful,

Dc2, I was already 10cm when I got to hosp, I laboured on my knees bent over the back of the bed which totally took the strain off my back, id highly recommend doing this to anyone smile

NaturalBaby Tue 06-Aug-13 23:52:58

Not really for me, but I had a very thorough stretch and sweep with my 1st so things went pretty fast - 6 hrs from 1st contraction to baby out. 2nd baby was a longer build up and labour was about the same length but he flew out without pushing! I also had a nasty transition with ds2 but didn't notice it at all with ds1.

ElBombero Wed 07-Aug-13 08:12:04

Awww nomnew

ElBombero Wed 07-Aug-13 08:13:15

Grittizo just got that too so fingers crossed. Birth with DD1 was horrific

ElBombero Wed 07-Aug-13 08:16:44

This is all very reassuring!!! I'm shitting myself about it the labour a lot say its easier cos you know what to expect but that's what's making me anxious!!

Icedink Wed 07-Aug-13 08:38:11

Second time was so much easier, faster and less painful. I didn't realise I was in labour for quite a while and only called labour ward to shut dh up - up until that point I thought it was just braxton hicks but I was 5cm when the mw checked! It was actually a lovely experience and I stayed in control the whole time, it hurt but it was manageable which surprised me as with dc1 it felt like torture.

lollylaughs Wed 07-Aug-13 09:23:04

Second time much much easier. Had no pain relief, was all done and dusted in 90 minutes.

Having a newborn 2nd time round is much easier too....

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