Please can someone just lie to me...

(38 Posts)
pocopearl Mon 08-Jul-13 11:47:43

...and tell me that real labour and childbirth is far less uncomfortable and painful than these braxton hicks?

They are getting more painful and uncomfortable as I'm getting closer to the due date.

ZingWidge Sat 13-Jul-13 00:02:10

gallic

I was fully dilated and ready to push with DD (6th child) when all the pain went away!

I panicked. I did not want to push, I was so afraid of the pain coming back!
I folded my arms and said I'm not pushing, I want a C-section!
all the faces went shock shock shock

It was like a standoff between the baddies & goodies in a Western!grin
after a 5 minute "argument" I thought I'd better push, I was worried MW would slap me!grin

teabagpleb Sat 13-Jul-13 08:04:34

My SIL had bad BH and says labour was much less bad.
I never had BH at all - thought I did eventually but was just slow labour...

While a 'whatever' mindset might help, some babies need more help than others - see how it goes but be prepared to make use of 21st Century healthcare if necessary.

I've had 3 babies in just under 4 years, so it can't be that bad.

I've been in labour for a total of 23 hours altogether, and only the last 15 minutes of DS2's birth was awful (and that was only because he had his hand on his chin as he emerged). The rest of it was uncomfortable and painful, but really not that bad.

Try not to panic, and ask for gas and air as soon as you can-great stuff! It doesn't stop it hurting, but it stops you caring that it hurts.

KFFOREVER Sat 13-Jul-13 10:20:50

Im also in favour of epidurals.

Looking back i focused way too much on child birth when the hardest bit was coming home with the baby. Sleep deprivation, after pains, breastfeeding and endless visitors were a lot harder to deal with than giving birth. You will be fine smile

DawnOfTheDee Sat 13-Jul-13 10:26:56

You know what I liked about labour - being the centre of attention.

It was fab. It was a big fat (literally) DawnOfTheDee fest when everyone had to

a) be nice to me
b) do what I said
c) give me drugs when I demanded them

and at the end I got a big fat squishy baby.

Best. Day. Ever.

grin

MadeOfStarDust Sat 13-Jul-13 10:27:34

I'm a complete scaredy cat - with a VERY low pain threshold - if it was THAT bad I'd have stopped at one....

but I DID IT TWICE... some people even do it more often....

TantrumsandBananas Sat 13-Jul-13 10:30:37

Much better and lovely descriptions above than I will give.

I ended up having a slow labour that didn't progress, emergency c-section in the end.

I was 14 day overdue.

I spent alot of my pregnancy worrying about giving birth, in the end, I just wanted her OUT.

jammiedonut Sat 13-Jul-13 19:52:47

'gruelling' is the word I'd use to describe labour. It was tough, but not overly painful for me at least (although there are no words to describe crowning!). Look at it as a marathon - hard, relentless, exhausting and, at times, you'll want to give up. But the sense of achievement and surge of happy hormones (not to mention the beautiful baby at the end!) are all worth it. The biggest thing for me was the fact that I had no idea how the pain would feel, would it be like a cramp for example? But once I felt that first big contraction the fear sort of went away. Yes, it was painful, but I knew what to expect from then on with each contraction, and ultimately I knew that the pain would end, even if it did take 23 bloody hours!
Never underestimate the value of Positive Mental Attitude, even in the face of complications, you will get through it!

igirisu Sat 13-Jul-13 20:27:47

Labour is painful but not as painful as the niggles of an unpleasant pregnancy or just the general waiting to meet your child, a day after giving birth i felt traumatised, a week on i was already planning my second so you forget the pain x

firesideskirt Sat 13-Jul-13 21:59:01

my labours have been agonisingly painful!
BUT very fast and uncomplicated. No complaints here. And other than a wee bit of discomfort (stitches etc), the pain stops when the bubba is out.

Personally I think it helps to be a bit scared before hand as when it actually happens you'll think 'oh, not as bad as I thought...' Worked for me anyway.

MiaowTheCat Mon 15-Jul-13 08:51:27

I had a frigging awful fortnight of pre-labour pains and stop-start contractions. Was bloody miserable and fed up beyond belief.

When my body decided to actually get down and DO the job - baby flew out in a sub-15 minute labour... DH very nearly missed it as he'd ducked out of the room to ring work, say my waters had broken and he wasn't going to be in that day, and was bodily hoiked back into the room by the midwife so he didn't miss it.

ohforfoxsake Mon 15-Jul-13 09:05:09

Braxton Hicks might occur if you are doing too much. Slow down.

Try hypnobirthing (someone on here gave me a CD - very straightforward). Listened to it as i went to sleep each night. Helped a lot during labour.

DD popped out very quickly, so much so the cup of tea DH made for me and the MWs when they got here was still warm enough to drink. No tearing.

(I will fail to mention she is DC4, was 2 weeks late and I had two weeks of slow stop-start labour).

Honestly. That birth was a piece of piss.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now