Does your DH/family try to 'schedule' the birth?

(41 Posts)

I am very fed up. I'm 38+5 today with DC4 and this has been a rubbish pregnancy with hyperemesis until 36 weeks and threatened pre-term labour at 27 weeks followed by weeks of 'irritable uterus'. I would really like to have given birth at 37 weeks but baby clearly wasn't ready. I'm OK with that. Fed up, but OK.

My family and DH, however, keep telling me what days would be particularly convenient/inconvenient for me to give birth on. They keep watching me like I'm about to produce a baby if they look away. It's starting to stress me out. I would like to retreat into a little safe cocoon for a few days without them! And don't even get me started on the reminders that if I don't give birth soon, my family will have to go home soon without seeing the baby (never mind the clash of ideas about visits in the first 24 hours).

I'm not due for another nine days! Leave me alone!

Boosiehs Thu 25-Jul-13 09:48:12

My DH wants the baby to be late. smile

I'm 36 weeks today and all I want is for junior to turn up asap as I am TOO HOT AND TIRED.

sigh

purplemurple1 Thu 25-Jul-13 09:41:49

Congratualtions room

I'm so glad this nonsense hasn't started for me yet, OH wants the bb to come a week early but seems to get that I can't do any more about that than he can. 33+6 so I guess there time for family etc to start to get annoying, I must prepare some witty comebacks!

Mayanbob Sun 21-Jul-13 23:33:17

Congratulations Room

I had to jump in here, because a relative who lives abroad is visiting DH's parents for the 3 weeks before i'm due, and then they can see the baby and we can all go out together hmm And i've been told that it's going to come a week early- and i'll squeeze it out then because this relative's DP had her first slightly early. Now i'm willing baby to be late, just to prove.... I don't know what. But serve them right for being so irritating.

cookiemonster100 Sat 20-Jul-13 12:26:17

Congrats Room on your new arrival

My in laws are staying at a local hotel when our baby arrives as there is not much room at ours & they are a PITA

Realistically baby could come between 37 & 42 weeks & My FIL keeps ringing to check which dates should he book as there are discounts if you book early. He has come out with such classics of "I am sure if you ask the midwife they could tell if you are going to be early or late...". Mmmm........

rachk2702 Mon 08-Jul-13 17:57:48

DPs family kept telling me to "hurry up and have him early so we can have cuddles". I told them that I'm sure they don't wont him to be born too early and end up in NICU!! Some people are so ridiculous!

MiaowTheCat Mon 08-Jul-13 09:02:25

My mum to the midwife when I was in and out threatening slightly pre-term labour...

"Can you not just hurry up and induce her so I can make my business trip to Bulgaria on Tuesday" (she was on standby to babysit DD1 and then had decided without telling us to book this trip anyway)

Midwife's face was a picture.

kickassangel Sat 06-Jul-13 00:27:01

Actually, dd was 5 mins late. She was IVF so we know to the nearest hour when she was conceived, and she appeared at 8.05 38 weeks later.

My mum was fed up cos first babies are meant to be 2 weeks late, so I proved her wrong.

pillowupmyjumper Fri 05-Jul-13 22:17:09

After a failed induction, being in hospital since Tuesday , no sleep and very sore bits my aunty decides to shout ' get on with it' and 'stick a bomb up your backside'

What a twat

MiaowTheCat Fri 05-Jul-13 16:42:04

My mum was the worst. I s on and our with threatened premature labour and she told them to get on with inducing me so she could make her trip to Bulgaria! The look of horror on the midwife's face said it all!

Kayls93 Thu 04-Jul-13 23:19:59

My brother in law text me earlier asking if I'd had the baby yet. I replied "yeah but I'm just keeping it a secret for now, have hidden it in a cupboard" he was less than impressed but seriously, I think we would have told him if the baby had arrived. And MIL keeps saying "just cross your legs until i finish work next week" like I can decide when it's coming?! Not that it should matter, unless she's planning on practically moving in?!

BraveLilBear Thu 04-Jul-13 09:47:45

Congrats Room! Very impressive effort! grin

ChasedByBees Thu 04-Jul-13 08:21:26

Congratulations! thanks

RuckAndRoll Thu 04-Jul-13 08:16:45

Congratulations Room and welcome BabyRoom

Well DD3 was very obliging with schedules and was born in the pool today, all 9lb 13 oz of her (I'm a size 8 and 5ft 4!). DS has been vomiting all day so it's just as well that my mum is still around.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Wed 03-Jul-13 11:44:33

Chunky Baffling is right... along with utterly fucking barking grin OP - tell them all to fuck off go home and leave you in peace!

ChunkyPickle Wed 03-Jul-13 11:39:31

I am aghast at people - how do they think this all works? Do they think you're deliberately not having the baby?

Baffling. People are totally baffling.

Babylonmoo Wed 03-Jul-13 11:26:32

I think part of the problem is the fixation on the due date. Only 5% of women give birth on the due date. 95% of women are the described as "early" or " late" which is clearly nonsense. Babies should come between 37 and 42 weeks.we should all think of due window. I am 39 +5. It could be today, it could be in two weeks. Both are on time!

LadyIsabellaWrotham Wed 03-Jul-13 08:01:43

My DB and DSIL were on call to mind DD while DS was born. I told them "some time between w38 and w42". Two days before the due date they got back to me and said that it had gone on for long enough and if it wasn't born in the next three days then they wouldn't be able to take the time off work. Strong implication that I was being deliberately unreasonable.

kickassangel Wed 03-Jul-13 07:34:05

Dd was due 2 weeks before my parents 40th wedding anniversary, and they were quite insistent that they wanted me there. Also insisted that everyone had their first child 2 weeks late. I think they hoped I would be the entertainment at their party.

A friend of mine got told she'd totally ruined Christmas when expecting her first. The in laws did manage to forgive her though when their grandchild arrived.

OhTiger Wed 03-Jul-13 07:25:48

My dreadful ex had the inspired idea of opening a book for my first.

So I had people with quite serious money on telling me what day I must produce baby.

I totally lost it in the end, and refused to see anyone. You are allowed to do this.

isabellamum Wed 03-Jul-13 07:13:00

ruck maybe your in laws should just do what my dad has - he's going to Spain with his new partner, her daughter and granddaughter on the week I'm due.

Mind you, that's cos he's convinced baby will come a week early and on the date that would have been his and my mums 40th anniversary....what a prick angry

cbatbh Tue 02-Jul-13 11:41:13

Ignore them

Or tell them baby doesn't have a calendar in there with them so tough titties

Or sarcastically ask them if there is a particular timeslot they would like baby to pop out so they don't miss Corrie e.t.c

itried Tue 02-Jul-13 11:33:23

Words fail me. Ignore them.

Viviennemary Tue 02-Jul-13 11:32:16

I'm usually the get on with it type. But in this case they are being totally ridiculous. Ignore them and say you are not receiving visitors or taking phonecalls. And go and lock yourself in a room.

ShadowStorm Tue 02-Jul-13 11:29:37

That sounds really annoying. And pointless, as it's not like you can control when you're going to go into labour.

Surely they know that you can't just say "Oh, alright then, I'll just start having contractions now so that the baby can be born in the next day or so"?

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