feeling weepy almost 2 weeks after birth,is this normal?

[allchik]

Hi,had my daughter on the 10th jan,ended up having a horific birth n time on the postnatal ward. Lots of medical interventions etc.
Finally felt on the mend by the 15th as catheter was out,pain going away etc.
But thdm past few days i keep bursting into tears for no reason,n feel really anxious,really scared im getting postnatal depression.
Its not all the time n i am still loving spending time with my daughter but also feel quite low,tired n I know this sounds odd but like i miss my husband!
Really hate feeling this way as she is so loved and wanted,just feel that all new mums must be in blissful happiness all day and im a weirdo for crying??
Is this normal? Thanku x

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

Yes it's totally normal to cry, it will pass, it's the hormones (used to be the 'baby blues')

Keep chatting about it, don't feel worried or embarrassed.

Congratulations on your lovely new daughter, well done you
xx

[fluffacloud]

I was the same when both my DDs were born. Day 2, when my milk came in and day 10 - BAM cue weepy, unreasonable and very tired me!

It lasted about 4 days both times.

I spoke to my HV (who was wonderful), she assured me that it was perfectly normal.

Be kind to yourself, eat and sleep whenever you can and don't do much else.

"This too shall pass" - I promise

[Teladi]

I cried every day for the first four weeks! I don't think I had PND, though I remember wondering if I might at the time, for me... it is just HARD having a new baby. I don't remember having any blissful happiness at all! Don't get me wrong, I loved her so much and obviously still do.

Do keep an eye on yourself and if you feel like you want to talk to someone or you think you might be depressed, speak to your GP or your HV. It is not rare to have PND. You may already have read this but it might help for you to separate out whether you may have PND or just normal hormonal reactions!

Your baby is so new, try to give yourself some time to get used to the massive changes in your life. It will get better! I hope you are feeling more cheerful soon.

[DrMcDreamysWife]

Totally normal. I remember feeling that I missed my husband too. Either one of you is always holding baby and never each other! Hormones do strange things to your body!

The sheep deprivation certainly doesn't help either, that makes me cry now and my lovely dd is 20 weeks!

Congratulations on your new baby x

[DrMcDreamysWife]

That'll be sleep deprivation not sheep...

[allchik]

That makes me feel better! Everything I read said the baby blues come in on day 4 and only last a day or two,so was worried that its been 2 weeks? Just feel guilty as DH is so good with her n feel my tears r wrecking it for him

[MarilynValentine]

Completely normal! I cried so much after having DS. We had a difficult birth experience too. And even if the birth had been a doddle the massive life-changer that is a new baby is enough to stir up loads of emotions. Throw sleeplessness into the mix and sure enough crying begins to look like the only sensible response!

You've been through a lot, VERY RECENTLY! Give yourself a break, cry for as long as you need, talk to your DH, family and friends, post on here....let it out!

I'm sure your DH understands and you know, you've just endured nine months of pregnancy and a really challenging birth. DH can pick up the slack for a bit and I'm sure he's only too happy to

Congratulations on your baby!

[ConfusedKiwi]

Don't worry - it's normal. With DS1 like you I'd been told that everyone gets baby blues on day 3/4 but it didn't hit me until about day 10. Same this time round - was about day 10 again.

I know a few others who also didn't find that the hormonal changes hit them until two weeks (particularly when the birth didn't go to plan so maybe there is an element of processing that first).

Hope you are feeling better soon :-)

[QTPie]

Congratulations!

Honestly, completely normal: lots of hormones, BIG BIG change (to be frighteningly honest, I found it a bit of a shock going for being pregnant to being a mum). Even if you had had a very good and straightforward birth you would still feel rubbish and down.

I had a good few moments of "my life is over" (and self pity) and 2/3 weeks after the birth. It really didn't last long at all and I very quickly rebuilt my life albeit in a rather different form...

Disrupted sleep really doesn't help how you feel either...

I would say start planning very little small nice things (coffee and cakes with friends, lunch out, taking regular walks with the baby) so that you have some normality, things to get you out of the house, things to look forward to and to feel yourself. If either you bottle feed or your breastfeed and start seeing patterns to feeds, then maybe start THINKING about picking up things you used to do (yoga/Pilates/swimming) - for when you physically feel ready for it... (I had a straightforward ELCS and started gym/swimming and postnatal yoga at 8 weeks - helped me to start feeling human again).

QT

[allchik]

Ladies!can't thank u enough for ur replies. Just hearing 'this is normal' makes me feel so much better!
kiwi mine hit me on day 10 too!
Had a good nite with DD last nite n already feel more myself,have also made a couple of coffee dates...great advice QT
X X X

[Ellie092]

I was a mess once I hit 2 weeks pp I remember feeding her and thinking this bottle is not clean enough I'm going to make her ill and I just stopped feeding her out the bottle down gave her to her dad and burst into tears running upstairs! I had a bad case of baby blues but dr kept and eye on me I cried at everything at the drop of a hat!

X

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

Allchik - I remember another thing too, someone mentioned to me that the loneliness thing is to do with the fact that you've been carrying the baby around for all that time feeling her grow and jsut having that sense of connection, it's not surprising is it that you'd need time to adjust to the fact that she's actually here now - handing her over to the big wide world is a bit daunting.

Hope you continue to feel better and enjoy your babymoon x

[allchik]

Good point Liza I can relate to that x
Met up with a friend from my NCT class today which was lovely.....she also said she had been feeling a bit weepy too.....whats weird is that I always feel weepy at about this time (feel fine in the day) I almost think it might be because our baby was born at 9pm and then i only had 2 hours with DH before going to the postnatal ward feeling off my rocker, scared, in loads of pain etc....
Just sat n the sofa and hubby said he might catch up with an hours work....that he oukd do it next door so I could carry on watching TV and I cried!!! (only for a second but felt really anxious about him not being there....which is odd as was on my own with the bub all day today (DH has staggered paternity) and was fine...
Im guessing its not post natal depression as would surely be feeling it for most of the day then?
Just for an hour or two in the evening that I feel a bit wobbly.....still struggling to nap in the day though, so suppose by the evening im nakered which doesn't help......again, thanks so much for your responses...makes me feel so much better xxx

[AlphaBeta2012]

Congratualtions and totally, totally normal.
I remember about 2 weeks after DS was born friend knocking on my door, I opened it and burst into tears before she even said hello, I cried solidly for an hour!
It doesn't sound like PND to me at this stage but more hormones rebalancing themsleves back out.

[OneSliceOfSwissCheese]

Glad you're feeling a bit better allchik. I remember feeling really wobbly and emotional for the first 3+ weeks. I was really worried I was getting PND as all the stuff I'd read on "baby blues" seemed to indicate that it was only the first couple of weeks.

It was a massive relief when I dragged myself out to a baby group and another mum said she'd been feeling just the same. Think it was just exhaustion and the shock of having a baby to look after. Nothing could prepare me for that! Glad you've got people in RL to meet up with and talk to as well.