first timer, home alone - should I text DP or wait till he gets home?

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kalidasa Mon 19-Nov-12 14:52:27

I lost my mucus plug on Saturday (just clear jelly, no blood), had the odd twinge over the weekend and felt a bit strange, today I am having period-like pains which are getting gradually worse. Perfectly manageable atm though, and I'm only 38+3 so this could go on for days/weeks right? And even if it is the very beginning of actual labour it's almost certainly going to take a long time. So far have been getting some work done (have study at home) to distract myself. Any other tips for this stage - a hot water bottle maybe? should I stay still or try moving around? have a snack? DP should be home about 7.30 so is it reasonable not to bother him yet and see how things go?

Sorry for clueless questions. Have had such an horrendous pregnancy (very ill) that I haven't really focused on this bit!

vvviola Thu 22-Nov-12 05:59:49

Sounds like a great way to keep your mind occupied grin

Hope it's all progressing nicely for you...

naturalbaby Wed 21-Nov-12 21:38:34

ah that sounds lovely! I haven't played a board game with DH for so long. This is such a special time, I miss it so much!

kalidasa Wed 21-Nov-12 20:05:29

No excitement here! After nothing at all yesterday afternoon/evening, the pains have started again today and this time they are more definitely discrete contractions - rather than continuous period pain with some worse bits - but very infrequent, only about one an hour at the moment. So as I suspected back on Monday it's all a bit of a drawn-out process. I am v. relaxed though and still managing to eat and sleep OK so happy just to let it develop. After a stressful week or two DP got home early today and I've spent all evening so far playing "Civilization" with him - a ridiculously complicated board game that he loves and I am rubbish at, but at least I have an excuse in the current circs!

Pickles77 Wed 21-Nov-12 18:52:46

Any newssmile

naturalbaby Wed 21-Nov-12 18:23:02

ooo you've gone quiet kalidasa....does that mean you're busy giving birth??

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 20:37:58

Thanks shiny. I am quite grateful actually! And I did purposelessly do absolutely nothing today in the hope that DP would be able to get through his day. I actually feel quite well this evening and miraculously a) not too sick and b) quite hungry. I felt oddly well at the weekend as well so perhaps the whole cycle will go round again.

Welovecouscous Tue 20-Nov-12 20:35:51

Labour will be back soon, so definitely eat, rest and sleep while you can. Will keep checking back to see what's happening.

shinyblackgrape Tue 20-Nov-12 20:30:41

How annoying! Our hypnobirthing teacher said this was the "rest and be thankful" phase and all part of the grand plan. That made me feel a bit better about stos and starts

CailinDana Tue 20-Nov-12 17:12:29

Drat! Same sort of thing happened to me with DS - it took a few days to get going.

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 17:02:54

Nothing really happening this afternoon! Pains have almost died away so took the opportunity to have a nap. Maybe it was all a false alarm or perhaps it'll start up again. Bit frustrating but on the other hand quite good that DP gets to finish today before anything happens as he had loads on.

CailinDana Tue 20-Nov-12 16:28:51

Any news?

MustafaCake Tue 20-Nov-12 14:43:28

Good luck kalidasa you are doing great, so calm and collected!

Remember to rest as much as possible and keep eating (Hyperemesis permitting).

Hope to check back soon and find a baby has arrived!!

naturalbaby Tue 20-Nov-12 14:28:25

If you've been calm and collected up to that point then focus on your breathing and staying in that calm 'zone'. I counted through each contraction and focused so much on that I stayed calm all the way to the end.
Try not to let your mind wander to the what if's, just focus on what's going on at the present time.

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 11:50:19

I'm sure I won't be so calm and collected when it really gets going!

Pochemuchka Tue 20-Nov-12 11:36:24

Sounds like you are doing great! Wish I had been as calm and collected as you for my first birth smile

naturalbaby Tue 20-Nov-12 11:26:38

I only used the ball to lean over onto, knees on the floor, to keep hips moving. I also have a breakfast bar just the right height so spent a lot of time leaning on that.
Well done on the sleep!

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 10:10:43

Thanks everyone. Don't have a ball. Did try one at NCT class but too sore so we didn't get one. Had some quite bad cramps an hour or so ago but seems to have eased off a bit again now. Anyway, have got up and taken some paracetamol. DP left for work at about 8 but is on high alert! Feel a bit sorry for him really, must be quite hard to go off to work and try to concentrate. Trying to stay calm and rested and not exhaust myself by aggravating the pain in my pelvis. Also, if DP can get through his classes today there'll be less for him to rearrange so I'm not in a huge hurry.

shinyblackgrape Tue 20-Nov-12 08:59:54

Well done! Yes - I think I'd feel like you re DH. Sometimes it's good to be on your own and get in the zone a bit.

Sorry about the SPD. Can you get in the bath for a bit and then maybe on your ball or is it too sore?

NarcolepsyQueen Tue 20-Nov-12 08:18:46

You can take paracetamol!

Indith Tue 20-Nov-12 07:55:43

You sound like you are doing brilliantly smile Keep trusting your instincts and remember all these pains are bringing your baby further down and closer to being born.

Welovecouscous Tue 20-Nov-12 07:23:33

Sounds like you are doing fantastically well.

My DH didn't believe I was in labour either - he thought I was too relaxed!

I found walking around when I had a contraction really helped and waving my hands around. Don't forget to eat little bits if you can as it's good to have fuel for the work of labour.

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 07:16:40

Hospital is v. close - just at the end of the street. 5 mins at most in a cab. So not too stressed about that. I don't think DP really believes it is happening as I am v. calm.

Bearandcub Tue 20-Nov-12 07:10:50

Morning Kalidasa,

Glad you got some sleep. How far away is your hospital/ MLU? I'd give them a ring if you're in pain.

Pleased to hear things are progressing. Good Luck!

fluffacloud Tue 20-Nov-12 06:58:27

Morning OP

I camped out in a hot bath with a book, tea and snacks through most of the early stages. I wanted to get away from DP who kept asking for constant updates - Grrr!

I also made the mistake of telling my DM and a friend, they told everyone else so my phone didn't stop with people asking how things were going.

That was all with DD1 though, when DD2 was on the way DP sat on the sofa watching a movie and laughing while I was pacing and in pain - he nearly got a right hook to the nose grin

I hope things move along for you and good luck!

kalidasa Tue 20-Nov-12 06:40:50

Hello everyone. Managed to get some sleep, more than I expected. Pains seem much the same - sore and fairly regular but manageable. SPD is agonising though, can hardly stand up - think baby's head must now be right behind the pubic bone.

DP is going to go to work but with his phone on at all times. I think for the most part I'd rather be on my own at this stage, but will call him immediately of course if it starts to step up. It only takes him half an hour on the tube.

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