Facebook - to actively consider reporting underage users?

(90 Posts)
grumpypants Fri 02-Apr-10 09:58:42

because i am irritated by the persistent attempts of friends' children (aged 11 and younger) to befriend me. I keep ignoring it, they keep trying. I don't talk to them about 'me' in real life; why wd i do so on the internet? Then, yesterday i found you can report them to facebook and get their accounts removed. I am v tempted...

mumeeee Tue 01-Nov-11 08:42:22

I'm on Facebook. Mainly to keep on touch with friends and family. I don't play the games and neither do my 24 and 21 year old daughters although the 19 year old does. As the 2 older ones have said you can play games on other sites. In fact there are sites that are just for games and they are free. Face book can be safe if you set your security to the highest settings. But I still would not let an under 13 year old have an account.

wellymelly Mon 31-Oct-11 01:24:15

omg molly!!! tragic. Some parents are just brainless though. My ds just started secondary school and is 11 and a half. I want to hang out until 13 but everyone in the school, almost is on there already and they are having such a lovely time messaging each other. At the moment these kids - all they care about is upping their friend numbers, which is a concern. Most have lied about their age and occupation so as far as FB goes they are adults. I want to report the lot of them!!! Its so frustrating for me as I feel like I have to give in to peer pressure.

Lizmundo Wed 26-Oct-11 16:28:06

what?!?!?! shock

mollymole Wed 26-Oct-11 16:17:01

A friend of mine set up her 9 year old daughter and then allowed her to post
topless photographs of her (the child) in the garden as well as pictures of her 'posing' in a bikini and makeup. I reported it and nothing was done. The mother thinks it's 'a bit of fun'.

Lizmundo Wed 26-Oct-11 16:09:06

Hi everyone, I'm trying to complete research into types of websites your children or other children you know visit, so I can look into the safety features of the site. I've set up a blog for you to post comments to & I'd be very grateful if you'd help me out smile

My blog is: socialnetresearch.blogspot.com/

Thank you very much smile

UNITLAB Fri 07-Jan-11 16:49:45

I know of a childs account, set up by the mothershock

The child is only 6! and the whole account is just an ADVERT FOR TROUBLE as it's so clearly what it is, a child.

do some parents have no "*social awareness*" of what they are doing, or the fact that it is a form of FRAUD as they would have to have lied to set the account up!!

Sadly angry*facebook has become a victim of it's own success, and can no longer police itself*

Jennyresearch Thu 06-Jan-11 14:00:37

Hello,

I am currently doing a study into 'sexualisation in the media and the impact it has on kids' for my degree.
Children are becoming more actively involved in social networking sites where they can easily make friends with strangers, as a parent does this concern you?
Also these social networking sites set up games aimed at children, therefore is it not there responsibility to safeguard the site and protect our children?

buckwea Thu 16-Dec-10 23:37:56

how do i report underage children on facebook?

aokay Wed 08-Dec-10 20:05:36

my pre-teen is underage & joined - I disliked this on safety grounds so reported and asked for acc removal - FB removed then step-mother reinstated account using her own(the steps) dob. Now nothing I can do and I can't 'monitor' as step then has window into my acc via friend pages. Really frustrating - should take it to court but feel life too short - to make it worse, acc has poor privacy settings, lists school and personal info & has a recent pic on profile - so safety is compromised. I am "a killjoy" for confronting step re safety issue. Very annoyed with facebook. Step beyond contempt...

DeniseS Thu 02-Dec-10 20:40:37

you cannot report underage children unless you know 1.the URL and 2. their email address

UnquietDad Wed 26-May-10 11:35:13

It's weird - my friend's daughter (who I know shouldn't be on there) begged me and DW to befriend her and now sends us invitations to all sort of shit groups.

Mostly those called things like "OMG I Can't Believe This Optical Illusion" (and you have to "Like it to see what the illusion is), and various bollocks to do with Justin twat-face Bieber.

And why, why, why for the love of gawd do teenage girls list their friends as their "spouses" and "siblings" ??!!

ravenAK Wed 07-Apr-10 02:22:43

It's probably safe to assume that your dd's teachers don't have FB pages in order to monitor what their students say.

I'm a teacher; I use FB to keep in touch with friends & family members.

I don't accept friend requests from current students, so I'm happily oblivious to whatever they're getting up to. Nor would it be possible for any teacher to 'monitor' what students say online - they're clearly misunderstanding the nature of privacy settings!

jasper Mon 05-Apr-10 01:51:19

lighten up

GenevieveHawkings Sun 04-Apr-10 21:35:42

I totally agree. Leave Facebook for the kids I say - that's certainly all it's fit for. grin

Umleila Sun 04-Apr-10 18:31:36

My daughter, although over 13, is not allowed on FB. Why? because she's doing her homework. How come all of these kids have so much time to spend on FB anyway? DD says that many kids she knows rush thro their homework and then stay up to midnight on FB/BEBO/MSN etc. Where are their parents? I would not have time to monitor her use if I let her use it anyway. Teachers at her school also have FB pages just so they can monitor what the kids say and regularly tell the girls off for being so bitchy to each other.

Why would anyone want to join that sort of community when there are telephones in the world?

PixieOnaLeaf Sun 04-Apr-10 13:50:24

Hells73 - If you have their mums on facebook as your friends as well, though, surely their mothers could message you on facebook without going through their underage children?

Hells73 Sun 04-Apr-10 13:26:25

My daughter is a year below the FB age limit. She has an account, I monitor who her friends are and I know her password. Some of her friends (and their mums) are also listed as my friends. I don't have a problem with daughter's friends requesting to add me as most of the time it's for the games available or to pass messages from their mums.

I think it's down to the parents to decide but also to be aware of what's going on. We have spoken many times to our children about the dangers of the internet. Some of the FB groups about really should be monitored more as they are not suitable for children, even over the age of 13.

GenevieveHawkings Sun 04-Apr-10 12:19:32

tatt said:

"Most parents who claim to "monitor" their child's internet use have no idea how adept children become at flashing up a "safe" window and hiding their other activities."

Well, not all parents are quite as naive as that. Most switched on, responsible parents are quite well aware of how many windows a child might have open when online. Only someone who is completely computer illiterate would not, surely?

I think that any parent who would buy their child a computer without having a clue how to use it themselves to a competent standard is an irresponsible parent. All local authorities run free courses to help people become computer literate so there's absolutely no excuse. Any parent who allows their child unfettered access to the internet without knowing how to proerly and responsibly monitor their use of it is totally irresponsible.

People seem to forget that before computers and mobile phones came along there was far, far more scope for children to keep the things tht they were up to secret from their parents becauswe they would only know as much as their kids chose to tell them. At least nowadays parents who are so inclined can snoop on what their chidlren are up to far more easily by checking their computers and phones. I, and many of my peers, managed to find out all about sex and porn and stuff like that without the aid of a mobile phon or a computer all those years ago, And guess what, kids were also bullied too way back then.

Also, not an odd comment from me at all Grumpypants. You must be pretty naive if you don't realise that there are an awful lot of people out there who care far more about saving face than holding on to their principles.

shockers Sun 04-Apr-10 11:05:58

There's a little 'report this person' bit at the bottom of each friend request.

tatt Sun 04-Apr-10 08:13:14

no - reports are anonymous. Not easy finding out how to report someone though. reporting problems

shockers Sat 03-Apr-10 23:25:32

If you report someone, do they know it's you who did it?

jasper Sat 03-Apr-10 22:43:28

go on 123AH .Shop me grin

tatt Sat 03-Apr-10 20:48:03

people become offensive when they know they haven't an argument.

Very few parents actually "monitor" their child's internet use thoroughly. They might be horrified if they did.

I have reported one child today for inappropriate use of Facebook and have no problem reporting others if I come across them.

chicaguapa Sat 03-Apr-10 20:15:50

I saw in the paper today that Hollie from Britain's Got Talent has a facebook page and she's 11. It's in the paper as she's been getting messages from paedophiles! No-one questionned why she's on it!? hmm

porkypoo Sat 03-Apr-10 17:59:13

I get requests from my DS friends, I accept them and then discreetly a week later delete them!! wink DS is 13 now but, we allowed him to join at 12 and set his privacy setting so that he could send out friend requests, not recieve them. Only just changed it very recently.

A friends DD set up and account without permission and my DS told me about it.....that was v. awkward!!

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