is it a really bad thing to have your kids images on social media sites?

(14 Posts)
bico Thu 30-May-13 23:38:38

I'm on fb, highest security settings sharing photos only with friends. I also only have fb friends that I see regularly in real life so less than 30. I was very shock to discover recently that a 'friend' had taken a photo I posted of ds and entered it in a competition as being her ds. She didn't ask my permission (and of course I wouldn't have given it) but it has completely made me rethink the images I post on line, even if only accessible by people I consider to be my friends.

When she told me she thought it was funny but all I could think was hmm and confused.

MultipleMama Germany Thu 30-May-13 23:32:34

I don't have any social sites nor blogs, if I did I'd keep my children's pictures. I wouldn't wanna chance it.

Yankeedoodlenic Mon 27-May-13 21:51:04

I've been wondering about this issue as I am due to become a mum for this first time this year. I'm American but live in England so half of my family & friends live 4,000 miles away. So for many, posting pictures on Facebook is the only way to share these experiences with people I choose to share with.

I think as long as you use common sense while using social media it will be fine. Make sure your privacy settings are so that only accepted friends can see your photos and posts and don't post photos with nudity (even though bathtub pictures are adorable!)

I'm sure most children born in the 2000s will have Nearly their entire lives documented online so all of them will be in the same situation. More than likely the children whose parents didn't post about them will be the odd ones out!! If anyone can point out other concerns please so because I'm sure I haven't thought of everything!!

FoundAChopinLizt Fri 03-May-13 17:43:17

I'm not on facebook but I hate it when people put pictures of me or my kids in facebook, even if they don't name us. I just like my privacy.

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Bethmuffin12 Tue 16-Apr-13 23:01:35

People seem to be over reacting to this entire thing. The actual chances of some sick person using these photo's (provided you have taken the most basic security steps) is tiny.

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GreenLeafTea Sat 06-Apr-13 03:20:47

I do put my kid's pictures on Facebook but I noticed some newspapers use a lot of Facebook pics in their articles. I don't know if their pages are open or if Facebook sells them the photos.

A friend of mine had a vile experience after her daughter was on TV. Someone took the photo and uploaded it onto a forum where people made some very sick comments. Her son found it when googling stuff. They reported it to the police but it was very upsetting for them .

Rulesgirl Sat 06-Apr-13 03:06:05

When you put your photos on facebook they then cease to become your property any more and even if you delete them I believe they can still have already been stored by facebook. Its says in their terms that everything you put on facebook becomes the property of facebook. I am amazed at the amount of people have their facebooks open and I can see everything about strangers. Not that I go looking, its just when you look at a friends and then it links to another person and so on. Also . images of young children are collected from all over the web by paedophiles for use on their children websites. I personally wouldn't want these types of people using photos of my kids . Another thing is people don't realise that in their photos if you look in the background you can see information about you like letters lying around with account numbers on and addresses. People take photos outside their houses which shows the house number, sometimes the street name. The last thing you want is people having pictures of your kids and your house, the area you live etc and then people coming a stalking you or your kids.

syl1985 Sat 06-Apr-13 02:32:35

The danger is there when everyone on the world wide web is able to see your pictures or personal information.
You can also post them and make sure only people who you invite are able to see these pictures.

There're some very sick people out there!

I've learned my lesson the hard way:

My first child was born. We're making pictures all the time of him and of us as a family and posted them online.
There was one picture of me breastfeeding.

I totally didn't thought that this could be an interesting in the wrong way for some sick persons.
You were barely able to see my breast!

This is the response one man who we didn't know has send to us:

I wish I could suck your tits.

That was so hurtful and worse is that we couldn't do anything about it.
If someone would say that to your face you could call the police for that and accuse someone of sexual harassment.
But that doesn't work like that on the internet.

This person must have been googling for breast feed pictures or baby pictures. Otherwise he wouldn't have found our pictures.

They're so sick. You'd think there're enough breast pictures on porn sites. But this man went to look for pictures of new families like ours.

Never not ever let anyone see anything private from you on the internet as long as you're not 100% sure that you know this person.
There really are some very sick man to be found on the internet.

How can anyone get sexual interested by seeing a baby drinking by his mum? There was barely any breast visible and still this psycho looked at it.

Don't become a victim of them.
Because it really feels terrible when that happens and on that moment you can't do anything about it anymore.

Sylvia

Bonkerz Thu 04-Apr-13 07:12:48

I'm unsure of the real risks. My FB privacy settings are high. I share only with friends. I actually think its a good thing I have photos stored on Internet. If I had a fire etc I still have access to my photos online!

mamakirsty Thu 04-Apr-13 07:10:10

When i said " mainly " ment mainly thats what i post!! Pic off mine no others!! My Grammar is terrible. I would never post another against any ones wishes

I just wondering about the real threat out there? Im I too late, shall I delete every pic so images off my DC are safe. I have never thought about this now I find myself doubting!

meditrina Thu 04-Apr-13 06:40:05

It's OK to post pictures of your own children, though you are of course creating a discoverable profile tHT may be with them for life.

It's not OK to post "mainly" your own children if the "mainly" mean' other children are in the picture. Unless of course you have specific permission for each child and every event. Some people have extremely good reasons for privacy, others just want to decide their/their DC's published profiles themselves, and it's pretty antisocial to prevent them choosing by your selfish posting actions.

mamakirsty Thu 04-Apr-13 06:33:40

Im new here on mums net.
I was reading over some convo about peoples options on sharing their kids images on fb. I found a few mother who dont do this for obvious reasons. I myself post my kids , mainly my kids I feel proud to put them out there for friends and family too see how they grow, what they ve achieved so on and so forth.
Now after reading a few threads here im beginning to question myself. Im I doing my children harm? Its just been second nature to me since they born,,, now im feeling increasingly worried I have let there images out there!!!!! Is there a real horrible threat to posting your kids images? How do others feel on this subject confused

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