X Box Live is dominating my sons life!!!!!!!(41 Posts)
I am at the end of my tether over my sons obsession with his xbox and playing online with his friends from school. He is 14 years old and has very little interest in anything else apart from gaming on his xbox with his friends online. I am about to have a baby and really want to get some rules and boundaries down around this so he is not sneaking on it everytime my back is turned. Has anyone else had issues with teenagers and xbox live usage and what is a reasonable amount of time to play?? at the moment he only has one evening a week where he dosent play it, he plays for two hours a night the other nights and on the weekends it is hard to get him to do anything else!! To make matters worse...his friends from school are on it all the time...it is like their virtual socialising!! It is not a healthy past time and I would really value some advice on this one. Thanx x
Our 15yo foster son would be on X-Box Live all day every day if he could. Like all teens he desperately needs to be "doing" something all the time and it is so easy just to pick up the controller and start up X-Box as soon as he wakes up and immediately see who is about for company. It is sort of a habit and gives instant results. Husband solved this by turning off the internet at 8.00pm week nights and we do not have it on in the day at the weekend. Luckily, he is in his GCSE years so we said we were doing this to help him study (bit lame but all we could think of a the time and actually we do want him to do well!). Having no X-Box winkled him out of his bedroom and out to find his mates. It costs us more when he goes out as he needs money for bus, swim, etc and lunch if he goes out but we prefer this. It is up to the adults to set the limits (and up to the teens to moan like mad that we are so horrible and mean until they do discover that there is a world outside of X-Box!). I am actually monitoring the length of his thumbs as I am sure they will grow enormous with all that X-Boxercising on the controllers!!
What would you like him to do in tge two hours he would be xboxing? Surely all his friends will be occupied on it so no scope for playing out. As long as he is getting all his homeowrk and chores if he has them.done, why drag him.off it? What are you wanting him to do instead?
My DP obviously missed the "growing out of it part" he is nearly 30 and he still goes on it every chance he gets ...
However i don't personally see the problem with it for children as long as homework is done, they have had their tea (and socialised with the family a bit), done their jobs and showered ... what's wrong with them playing on it for a few hours before they go to bed .. however if they take the piss, sell it and buy yourself something nice
My son was on it all the time when he was 13, to a ridiculous degree, and now at nearly 15 he hardly uses it, and in fact I am ebaying loads of his games and accessories at the moment.
Actually we have done a bit of the ebay listing together and it has been
a relief fun!
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Crystal meth - bloody hell!!!!
ha ha sounds like there are few gamer phobics on here, and whats this business of 'growing out' of games all about? People of all ages play games these days, even my 60 year old parents. I tend to spend about 2 hours a night on xbox as i prefer it to watching tv.
Like everything else as long it is done in moderation, then there shouldn't be any problems. Also it can be made into a multiplayer family activity too if you are worried about your kids spending too much time on their own in their bedroom.
My boys are 2 and 3. This thread has disturbed me greatly. Sorry I don't even know what an xbox is ( I am 42 and a fullime professional working mum in PR ). WE don't have a pc in the house. WE live in rural italy. The children have bikes, footballs and do swimming, etc etc..
You are the boss not him.
What would your parents have done if you at 14 years old spent 7 hours in front of a screen daily? Is this normal in the uk for teenagers now?
ps What is an xbox?
As a kid I'd say the Xbox is a great way to interact with your friends. However it's really easy to become addicted to it cough me I used to spend up to 12 hours on it and then the next day do just the same.
After a while I realised this was getting out-of-hand so I unplugged the Xbox from the TV and now everyday I'm out meeting people in REAL LIFE and doing REAL THINGS.
ds (also 14) is obsessed with his xbox, he has the timer set on it for 12 hours a week and how he divides that up is up to him, it is blocked from the internet 9pm-7.30am too. Thankfully he really only plays fifa and that is "rubbish offline".
He moans about it, but it saves arguments and gives him a little control.
As for people growing out of it both dh and I play games on the xbox/laptop/wii and we are in our 40s I don't see much likelihood of either of us giving it up any time soon.
2 hours a day sounds reasonable to me.
I bet he's the lowest level out of the entire school. He just get bullied
I agree with gymboywalton. You are the parents - dont allow it! My son is 9 years and we have no x box or play station. A find it soul destroying that so many parents are prepared to allow their children on this mind numbing rubbish for soo many hours. It's basically a cheap babysitter in my view. My son does trampolining, karate, swimming, BMXing and also plays musical instruments. And when he has friends round and they all turn up with their iPads and tablets I tell them they can have them back when they go home! I'm not prepared to have children round to play/socialise and have them all zombied out on computer games! They have bikes, skateboards, tennis rackets, cricket bats, scooters, footballs, diablos etc to play with and if its bad weather they have Lego technic, mechano, loom bands, top trumps, match attax, games, they can turn the house into a den if they want to! And if they want to watch a DVD they can do that. And as a parent you have to lead by example and spend time with your kids! We go on bike rides together, on walks together and take picnics. Kids love walking through woods and splashing through streams if you can be bothered to take the time. I've spent hours stood at skate parks with my son! At the end of the day do you want your kids to have childhood memories or not?
my husband got a xbox 360 for our teenage son when he was 12 ,he was a bit of a loner kept himself to himself , had very few friends maybe 1-2 and even then he couldn't be bothered unless I took him to see them so we decided on an xbox for him , we never knew what was coming , it quickly become an obsession , the only time we would see him was when it was dinner time , he would then scoff his food quickly to get back on the xbox , at night we had to shout at him to get off the thing , he would come downstairs and go straight on his laptop watching himself play games via you tube , he's 18 now and has no friends , stays in all day , expects me to cook and clean for him , he relies on me so much that it has become a burden . my son hits me if he doesn't get his own way , I lie to my husband about the bruises , he would throw him out if he found out , that scares me , my son would not survive . my son bullies my other 2 children as well , hits them very hard . xbox has destroyed my sons life don't let this happen to you
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