Hello lovely mumsnetters!
Just sitting here looking at my son after spending a day together.
I have, over the last 12 years suspected there has been 'something' not quite right with him.
From around 9 months he was a very highly strung child who had temper tantrums which were very extreme. I can honestly say I still haven't encountered a child who can have a tantrum like him (and I'm a childminder! So many years experience!).
Anyway, long story VERY short, we have always wondered if something else was going on with him but have always tried to parent in a way that supports him and gets the best out of him where possible.
Just a little insight into his behavioural traits. He has always been hypo sensitive to touch, anything that gets on his hands that he doesn't like he would flip out and panic. Could be anything from a baked bean to piece of fluff but generally anything wet.
He was (and still is) constantly on the wind up with his brother, always rocking the harmony boat and hyper actively trying mess up anything that is running along smoothly. He's always been an attention seeker of such. For example if they are playing a game he will cheat, or if it's a computer game he will get really stressed and demand to take over and it's always 'his turn!'.
He has always been sensitive to foods. He is a good eater but is very sure of what he won't eat, will NEVER touch anything new! Almost like a phobia.
He's extremely emotional. He has always needed his sleep and acts like a new born over tired baby if had more then one late night (after 9.30pm!).
His diet definitely has a huge impact on his behaviour and I have realise that it's not sugar but the caffeine in any fizzy drinks hey may consume that cause his attention deficit.
God love him but he's honestly got to be one of the most annoying children I've ever met, don't get me wrong I love him dearly and he's such an interesting, imaginative boy but life is always just so much easier when he is at school or at away from us. I feel awful saying that but it's true, he's a right royal pain in the butt sometimes. Life always takes 'work' when he's around and when he's not and it's just his brother it's so so easy as his brother responds in a 'normal' manner where as the other doesn't. The older son always need huge explanations of everything, always need reminding to play nicely, to calm down, to stop being annoying etc etc etc..
Anyway I could go on forever. He's very intelligent, has always excelled at school. Always top of the class and just finished his first year at senior school. We really worried how he would fit in socially but he hasn't been phased by it. He is quite blasé about any issues that have arisen and isn't easily affected by friendship concerns. He is in the top stream and seems to take it all in his stride academically (thank god) but so far this summer holidays hasn't seen a friend or heard a peep from anyone, but isn't bothered either!
When i think back to myself at his age, almost 13 I was never home!
Anyway, I have been researching Aspergers syndrome and I think he ticks so many boxes.
My dilemma.... I don't want to get him labelled but I worry for his future and should his behaviour continue he will Carry on being hugely misjudged and not given the support he may well need.
He's always being seen as 'guilty' when anything happens but I can honestly say, if he had the ability to act correctly for each circumstance he could have avoided these situations. As he gets bigger and stronger it's looking like he's a badly behaved, rude, disrespectful young man and I know deep down he's massively misunderstood.
What would you advise me to do. Would you push for some tests/diagnosis? I'm feeling really confused whether to take my thoughts further.
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Child mental health
I think my son has Asperger's syndrome
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vicki2010 · 13/08/2014 20:21
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