Hi bettina 46. I am in a similar situation with my 16 year old DD. She has been under CAMHS since year 7 with anxiety problems, had CBT. When she was about 13 she started self harming, cutting herself with a pencil sharpener blade. Only came to light when her Dad noticed she'd carved the word FREAK into her thigh (this because a pupil had criticised her drawing in art). She managed to get through high school, just, had an exit pass to get out classes when she had a panic attack etc.
Two years ago she was diagnosed with depression and put on Prozac and had excellent support from her CAMHS worker. About 6 months ago, her dose of Prozac was doubled.
She has been at sixth form college since September, they were informed at enrolment about her mental health problems but still agreed to accept her because despite her depression, she had achieved ABBCC in GCSEs (B's in English). Although I felt she might not be able to cope with A levels, she insisted in doing subjects she was really interested in, and had to resist Maths.
The first two weeks were great, she was buzzing, then unfortunately she became involved with a girl (DD revealed she was gay a year ago) who sort of led her on then dropped her after 2 weeks. This affected her at college for about a month. Around that time, I was called into college as she had not been attending Maths. It was explained that she had signed a contract to attend, the college wouldn't get funding if she didn't and how important it was for the college to achieve passes in Maths!!
A couple of weeks went by, DD had massive panic attack one Tues, got sent home for rest of week? Got called in again as DD was being late for 8.40 lessons (the morns I left for work at 7am, she'd go back to sleep fully dressed, miss bus despite me phoning her every 10 mins).
She seemed to be doing better leading up to Xmas and at start of term, but by end of first wk wouldn't get out of bed for Maths on the Fri, phone call from her senior tutor bawling at me down phone. Managed to get her in, DD then was stuck in loo with diahorrea for 20 mins and at break phoned CAMHS for emergency appt and got on bus to hospital later, which I only learned when she got home. CAHMS worker told DD that he would refer her for Consultant appt to review her medication.
Last week was mocks week, DD felt she'd done ok, including Maths. On the Weds she came home after an exam saying aforementioned senior tutor had left her a vm msg saying why hadn't she been in maths and she was to come and get her leaving papers. I phoned this woman and asked why she had left this VM when DD was on study leave and explained that DD had been told she hadn't to attend ANY classes, and on recieving VM had liaised with Student Services who confirmed this. I told her the VM had stressed DD and she was awaiting consultant appt. ST told me she'd speak to Maths teacher, phoned me back saying no DD was meant to be in Maths and it had now been marked as another absence, DD had to stay in class and not leave for any reason!! I then had to liaise with Student Services, who informed me the Maths class had actually been cancelled that morn(???!!!), they contacted vice principal and head of Maths who confirmed that DD did not need to be in any classes that wk.
I was infuriated by this, and was mid writing complaint letter Tues morn when DD phoned saying she couldn't cope any more, she had been segregated in English class for talking, although it wasn't just her, she had another panic attack. About one hour later had phone call from some high up man saying they couldn't cope with her and she was to leave.
Now left with little help on DD's future, looking at apprenticeships. CAHMS worker NOT HAPPY with her exclusion. Have contacted council, LEA, no one seems to know who runs 6th form colleges, can't get her in another one till next year. Is it illegal for her to not be in education at 16, I have tried to phone child benefit can't get through. Do I have to pay for her council tax now? Questions, questions, no one can answer. DO I appeal, under treated mental health for 2 years being a disabilty ( my managers nephew was kicked out same college as they couldn't cope with his ADHD and parents appealed and won) greatful for any suggestions