My daughter is 16, a couple of months from turning 17, is very bright, has tons of friends, but the last couple of years have been very hard for her. She's had a difficult relationship with her father that they both seemed to be past, starting when she was about 13; he had a lot of anger problems (stemming from his previous job that he hated) and some awful things were said in the heat of the moment (I hate you, I wish you weren't my daughter etc). My daughter started to cut herself off from him, and would occasionally talk to me saying that I didn't listen to her, that she hated herself, and then in the last few years that she wanted to kill herself. She's also had problems with her self esteem; from Year 10 onwards she started skipping PE lessons, and sometimes the whole day at school because she told me that she didn't want anybody to see her; she would simply refuse and become quite hysterical if I tried to persist. Recently, though her relationship with her father is better, she's been getting worse; she skipped other lessons at school(she's now in sixth form), for apparently no reason; she simply switches from being perfectly fine to being almost terrified. I drove her to school happily chatting and when we reached the car park she decided she couldn't get out the car and had what I would describe as a breakdown until after two and a bit hours I walked into reception to explain, where they sent me to pastoral and I was handed a bunch of counselling leaflets. I then discovered at home with my daughter that she'd already been having counselling at the school since Year 10 (two years ago) and that 'she's fine'. I took her to the doctors again who has referred her to CAMHS this month, but now she's telling me she's absolutely fine, and she's not skipping lessons anymore. I didn't know what to do- so I read her diary. I feel terrible about it but I was worried about her. In it she's described feeling like she hates herself, especially her own body, that she wants to be thinner, that she blames it on her dad for cutting down her self esteem, that she doesn't feel pretty like the 'other girls' at school, and that she can't control how she feels. She's written that she can start the day completely happy and end it wanting to die, and vice versa, and she doesn't know when she'll feel like this again, only that she can't stop herself.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't know how to help her.
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Child mental health
Need to talk about my daughter
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cantheybeserious · 04/01/2014 13:22
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