I don't even know where to start with all of this tbh.
Dd2 is 13 and has always seemed slightly troubled tbh, but it just seemed how she was, which sounds bloody stupid now, but I just thought it really was just typical teen behaviour.
She has a big problem with social situations, and this has got worse over the last few months to the point where she will not do anything that involves contact with people she doesn't know.
When my brother bought his new gf round, dd sat crying upstairs. She was crying because she so wanted to come down and meet her but just couldn't do it.
She did eventually, after gradually moving down the stairs over the space of about an hour. Once she'd met her she was fine.
The other week she was supposed to meet a friend at the end of our road, but wouldn't go because there was people stood having a conversation by our house and she'd have to walk past them. In the end Ds walked her to the end of the road, she met her friend and as then fine to come back and walk past the people.
She won't pay for things in shops and if someone she doesn't know speaks to her she mumbles an answer, if she answers at all.
At school she is ok but is getting upset about having to read out in class or stand at the front and talk.
This morning all of this came to a head. Dd1 wasn't going to school because she was ill. Dd2 started to get angry saying she couldn't walk on her own (she has done previously sometimes). Then she got really upset and couldn't breathe properly, which i am assuming was a panic attack.
Over the next 2 hours i asked her about a million questions and figured out that there was something that she needed to tell me.
She wouldn't speak during these two hours btw, just used her hands and head to indicate answers to me.
Eventually I asked her if she been cutting herself and she nodded and cried and then had another panic attack.
It then took me about another hour to persuade her to show me her arms. Thankfully the cuts haven't been deep and i think most will fade, if she stops obviously.
I have an appointment with the doctors with her this evening, although she has said she won't speak to them.
I have absolutly no idea what to do next and i'm gutted that it has even happened. I had started to relax and thing maybe I was a good parent, and now i think I must be fucking awful.
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Child mental health
Dd2 has been self harming and is also having panic attacks
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TheOriginalNutcracker · 17/05/2013 12:50
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