Our DD suffered an early bereavement when her birth mum died when she was 8months old. I have been around all her life and since she was 2 I have been part of her family and living with her as her Mum (when I became her Dad's girlfriend)
From a young age she has occasionally said she wished she was dead, talked about death a lot, recently has become quite anxious a lot of the time, and talking about how she 'hates her life' and wishes she was dead, or wishes she was a cat - because she has so many worries.
She has a family history especially on her Mum's side of depression and suicide, her mum suicide attempts as a teenager, her mums mum has had many episodes of depression and her mums dad committed suicide a couple of years ago. Her Dad also struggles a bit with mental health, has some mild (comparatively) problems too. I myself can be quite a stressy person though many who know me think I'm really laid back - I'm just an internal worrier I suppose!
I read somewhere that anxiety in children can be associated with depression in later life. We have done lots with our DD (me especially) around encouraging her to name / talk about / understand her feelings, which she is good at, and she knows she is very welcome to talk about her birth mum whenever she wants to. I am recently reading a couple of (Non CBT) books on managing anxiety in children and am hoping they will help too.
So my question is, as things currently stand, I'm not sure whether what we are doing is enough, or whether she needs additional professional help. I'm afraid of getting the 'wrong' help and making it worse, also money is very tight. I feel that she lives too much in her head and thinks almost too much, catastrophising about tiny things. I have encouraged her into music, yoga, dance these all seem good for her but its seemingly not enough.
I would really appreciate people's thoughts.
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Child mental health
DD7 - early bereavement, anxiety, "I hate my life",family history of serious depression - is it time for professional help
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newfashionedmum · 11/02/2013 14:55
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