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Can schools offer family mediation and support?

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Starlight001 Tue 08-Jan-13 00:23:15

Hello from ireland! My partner is separated with 2 dd's both early teens. His ex wife moved to London with girls shortly after separation. Girls were born and raised in Ireland and were very upset about leaving their dad and friends etc. My partner refused to let them leave the country initially but due to ex wife causing trouble and after seeking legal advice he was advised not to stop ex wife but to be patient and hope that it may bring some calm to a very stressful and difficult situation.

2 years later and my partner and his ex wife constantly argue and the girls are allowed to abuse their father on the phone and they are allowed to make their own decisions regarding travelling to see him or not for the holidays. Their mother is often putting down their father and seems to stir anger in them towards their father. However, recently the girls have warmed to their dad and are starting to open up saying that they can't talk to their mother about how they feel without her being sarcastic and angry. They have feelings that they cant express and they want to return to Ireland as they miss their dad, their friends and the lifestyle.

As a very close on looker I feel the family really need mediation and the girls would probably benefit from some family counselling which they have never received since the family break up.

Would it be wise for my partner to initiate mediation/support via the girls school in the uk? Is support like this offered via schools or should he seek this kind of help through another source?

Your advice is much appreciated as I don't have children of my own and I haven't much experience with kind of thing.

I should mention that one of the girls has asked her dad if she can live with him in Ireland? Her mother is saying she will call social services on him if this happens.

Your help and advice is much appreciated!

Starlight001

amazingmumof6 Tue 08-Jan-13 09:37:57

yes, he should! they are his children too!
if you have the details of the the school itself, check out their policies regarding this on their website

I wonder if you could find out the number for the girls' GP or the school nurses (if available) and dad can perhaps talk to them, get professional advice on counselling.

I fear the mother would not be happy about any improvement, she is already making things difficult for everyone, I'd gather info from those sources first about possibilities & rights etc.

I don't know the legal side of things.

sorry to hear about the situation

Starlight001 Tue 08-Jan-13 12:24:19

Thank you amazingmumof6! I will pass on the advice!

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