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To be disappointed (royal baby related)..

(111 Posts)
curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 08:13:40

...that I started a thread asking for people to make donations to Maternity Worldwide while Kate was in labour and only 6 people did?

Some of us are on the bones of our arses. Please don't berate folk. Tvm.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 08:26:13

I'm not berating anyone. Yes of course some people have no money. But really? Only 6 people on all of Mumsnet with a fiver to spare?

poopyisapig Wed 24-Jul-13 08:27:10

DH and I are trying very hard to keep our own family afloat at the moment, I have nothing spare to donate to anything. The same goes for millions of other families.

poopyisapig Wed 24-Jul-13 08:27:59

(and some people who do have a spare fiver just may not want to).

Shakirasma Wed 24-Jul-13 08:34:07

Most families in the uk are on a tight budget at the moment.

There are thousands of worthwhile charities out there desperate for funds and I think that most people are charitable, but we pick and choose who we donate to because if we gave to every charity who asked then we would end up bankrupt.

To express your disappointment that only a few people have donated to your charity of choice smacks of guilt tripping and quite frankly is rather shitty of you.

I didnt see your thread yesterday, but I wont click on it today. That's not because I'm mean or selfish or uncaring; it's because I come on mn in my downtime, to relax, and asking me to donate to a specific charity that you feel strongly about (as opposed to several I feel strongly about and have researched myself) is a bit like a chugger accosting me on the street when all I'm doing is minding my own business.

bearleftmonkeyright Wed 24-Jul-13 08:34:27

I can't donate at the moment, but you have alerted me to their work. I had not heard of the organization. Clearly they run amazing, much needed projects. I will try and look at donating in the future. I am overdrawn and have loads of bills need sorting, no money to entertain kids.

You're whining about people not coughing up money? , perhaps they didn't read the thread, you know there being loads of threads and all that!hmm

Do you think this thread will make people do it or perhaps put them off after being badgered about it..

Onesleeptillwembley Wed 24-Jul-13 08:34:57

Why not just be pleased that 6 people contributed.

insanityscratching Wed 24-Jul-13 08:34:59

People choose the causes they wish to support. That cause isn't one I'd choose to support and Kate being in labour wouldn't change my mind about that either. YANBU to be disappointed but YABU to expect others to donate to a cause of your choosing.

Lambzig Wed 24-Jul-13 08:35:45

This is forum chugging. Just because you support a charity doesn't mean all of us should.

chickensaladagain Wed 24-Jul-13 08:37:45

Well that's £30 the charity didn't have yesterday!

Yesterday I was raiding the back of the sofa for milk money, school holidays and I don't get paid until Friday

I feel bad enough about not donating to charity but my income has not gone up for 6 years so something's have had to give

livinginwonderland Wed 24-Jul-13 08:37:47

I don't like being told which charities to donate to.

98percentchocolate Wed 24-Jul-13 08:38:26

My DH has £3 in the bank to last until next week. I have £17 left to last the next MONTH and I need to buy food with that. We have spent the last week wondering what the hell to do until DH's work sorts out the mess they made with his pay. I would love to donate to a very worthy cause and had planned to when we had more money until I saw this. Now I feel awful and I'm not so inclined to do so. YABU.

Dackyduddles Wed 24-Jul-13 08:38:54

Id be glad 6 bothered tbh. There's a lot of charities and not much money about.

Sure there's rules on this. Maybe reread guidelines?

Onesleeptillwembley Wed 24-Jul-13 08:40:02

It wouldn't be a charity I would want to support, and as said upthread, The new baby wouldn't change that in the slightest.

MrsKeithRichards Wed 24-Jul-13 08:40:05

Yabu for expecting everyone to care about what you care about

wigglesrock Germany Wed 24-Jul-13 08:40:59

I assume you're taking the piss, otherwise catch yourself on, and stop complaining about what people do with their own money.

Golferman Wed 24-Jul-13 08:42:22

Sorry charity begins at home. It really annoys me when people push this stuff down your throat. Especially those fucking adverts on Sky.

XBenedict Wed 24-Jul-13 08:42:37

Yes you are, incredibly u.

Sirzy Wed 24-Jul-13 08:44:36

YABU.

I donate to charities when I want to, not when I am told too.

insanityscratching Wed 24-Jul-13 08:44:42

Maybe you could donate a quid for every YABU you receive and we could all support you that way?

Yabu. If everyone posted about a charity they were passionate about, the threads would be full of nothing else.
Starting a Aibu thread about it to raise profile / more funds is totally unreasonable.

GladbagsGold Wed 24-Jul-13 08:45:42

What everyone else said. My (miniscule) charity budget has all gone to Cancer UK this month. Is that ok with you? Should I ask everyone on MN to also donate to them?

How do you know that 6 people donated? Is that how many people said they had on the thread? Others may have done but not posted. There was a link to that page doing the rounds on FB too, along with other charities who work to improve childbirth conditions in developing countries.

People aren't obliged to donate just cos you ask them to. Yab completely u.

crashdoll Wed 24-Jul-13 08:53:46

I have a limited pot of money that goes to charity because I have a limited pot of money in general atm. It's not my charity of choice, so YABU. Also, I hate chugging and guilt tripping.

In theory it's a nice idea for those - like me - interested in the royal birth to consider donating to a maternity charity for other less fortunate mothers and babies around the world.

But, having briefly considered it, I have to say as I do to all charity requests ATM that we have no funds to do this - especially with two DCs to entertain for the upcoming 6 week summer holiday !

If that thought does occur to anyone then they may feel able to choose their own charity - such as Save the Children, Water Aid, Oxfam etc.
Or specific maternity charities like Maternity Alliance.

Like many posters I do prefer to consider myself which charities I'd like to support. I wish I had the funds to support more than I do, but I always do what I can.

An old friend I know feels obliged to give to every charity that asks him.
But I feel, in the modern world with so many charity requests, you have to take a more pro-active and assertive approach really.

SkinnybitchWannabe Wed 24-Jul-13 09:00:07

I have no spare money and when I have I donate where and when I want too.
Race for Life has cost me loads this month.
YABVU

LadyBryan Wed 24-Jul-13 09:01:47

YABVU

Charity is a very personal thing.

MissStrawberry Wed 24-Jul-13 09:02:19

I didn't see the original thread but while it is fine to be disappointed it is not fine to try and make people feel bad for not donating.

noblegiraffe Wed 24-Jul-13 09:02:35

People interested in raising money for charity usually do a bit more than simply post a link. If you can't be arsed to do proper fundraising, don't be surprised when people can't be arsed to respond to your effort.

Anyway, I was on MN most of yesterday (I'm on maternity leave) and I didn't see your post, so you didn't do a very good job of publicising.

TheFallenNinja Wed 24-Jul-13 09:03:04

On the basis of your ridiculous OP I wouldn't donate.

iliketea Wed 24-Jul-13 09:07:14

YABU - how do you know it's only 6 people? is that just the number who said they donated, it may well have been mors people who didn't want to announce it on a thread. And secondly, just because you feel strongly about a charity does not mean everyone else has too.

Actually, it's a really mean-spirited to start a thread berating the mumsnet community for not donating as you see fit. In fact it's just bloody rude.

OP, do you now think yabu?

DowntonTrout Wed 24-Jul-13 09:13:49

I have had enough of chuggers on the high street, never mind people starting asking for donations to charity on here.

In London you are accosted by them on a daily basis, someone at the station, someone on the corner, someone outside the supermarket, plus the homeless people begging. If I gave a fiver to everyone who asked I could easily have no money left.

YABVU to berate people. I support the Alzheimer's Society, British Heart Foundation and the local hospice because they are personal to me. That is my choice.

Edendance Wed 24-Jul-13 09:14:16

Having spent over £100 this month (with a potential new carpet looming) due to my charity work for a cat charity, that's more charity money than I'd hope to spend in a year.

Charity is not a competition and should be up to the individual if they want to and if they can help. Anyone demanding for cash from me usually guarantees my lack of support.

JambalayaCodfishPie Wed 24-Jul-13 09:15:42

Yabu. Are you insane?

Have you read the threads where people are struggling to feed their kids as they don't get a free school meal during the holidays?

Shame because its probably a decent charity - and you've succeeded in pissing enough people off that they won't even open the link. Well done you!

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Wed 24-Jul-13 09:22:19

People with spare money are probably spending it on giving their children a summer filled with outings and trips. Yabu.

TheFallenNinja Wed 24-Jul-13 09:25:53

How to singlehandedly damage a charity 101.

RoseFlowerFairy Wed 24-Jul-13 09:29:07

I am fed up of being asked for money. If I want to give it I will to a cause that interests me at that time. All this begging for charity is getting like cold calling sales men.

Bowlersarm Wed 24-Jul-13 09:31:58

YABU

I have my favourite charities which I give to.

Then i have my DC, wider family, lots of friends asking for sponsorship for activities they are doing for lots of worthy causes.

I haven't room for another one.

aldiwhore Wed 24-Jul-13 09:32:33

I had a spare fiver, I gave it to Alzheimer's UK. I'm disappointed you didn't curlew

YABVU.

Attitudes like yours work against fundraising, you magically closed purses with your op.

HeffalumpTheFlump Wed 24-Jul-13 09:36:24

I don't think yabu to post the original thread (not sure about how it fits with the guidelines though), but this one? Yabvvvu!! You gave people the choice to donate, people assessed their own situations and made a decision. It's not up to you to decide if that decision was right or wrong.

This is worse than chuggers IMO, as once someone says no to a chugger, they dont have a go at them the next day for their decision!!

HeffalumpTheFlump Wed 24-Jul-13 09:38:12

Oh and I didn't see your original thread, so yabu to think all of mn did!

valiumredhead Wed 24-Jul-13 09:38:44

Attitudes like yours work against fundraising, you magically closed purses with your op

Agree.

I give to charity, don't try and guilt trip people into giving, that's shitty.

Burmobasher Wed 24-Jul-13 09:44:32

I support one particular charity that I feel passionately about. If everybody on MN donated a fiver they could do so much good work but I wouldn't dream of asking.
If I have any spare pennies once my family have been fed and the bills paid it goes to them.
Yalu

Burmobasher Wed 24-Jul-13 09:45:21

yabu

YABVVVU -
I am actually shocked that you have started a thread complaining that people haven't donated.
Now I know the name of the charity for ALL the wrong reasons. How rude.

usualsuspect Wed 24-Jul-13 09:47:19

If you had asked for donations to buy the royal baby a gift you would have raised hundreds.

YouTheCat Wed 24-Jul-13 09:48:47

Well, this thread was a bit pointless. No one is going to donate now.

Guilt tripping never works.

CaptainJamesTKirk Wed 24-Jul-13 09:52:31

Because strangers chose not to support a charity of your choosing, you chose to start a thread whinging? YABU! Charity choices are down to the individual.

KeepTheFaithBaby Wed 24-Jul-13 09:53:06

I have the page saved actually and plan to donate...after pay day. I'm on mat leave and there'll be no money in the bank til Friday!

I think you're being very rude.

Sokmonsta Wed 24-Jul-13 09:55:26

YABU.

Firstly why is this 'royal baby related'? So you put up a post while the doc was labouring. Doesn't mean they are relevant to each other.

Secondly, it's coming up to the end of the month, school holidays and peak holiday time. Not exactly a flush time of the month for many people.

You've pissed me off by insinuating that people are all selfish because they don't publicly announce that they have donated to a cause dear to your heart.

You have more replies to this than your op which I found buried in chat. I'm discounting all the shameless bump posts you made.

One post, highlighting the work of this charity and actually your own thoughts and feelings in the chat op might have given way to more action. But tbh your op on that was just a lazy link to the website.

Well, I literally don't have a pound spare at the moment. But thanks for the link, as DH is a cyclist who does long journeys for charity, and it seems they organise an annual one of their own. smile

I don't think YABU to be disappointed, considering a lot of people seem to have the spare money to give the RMB ✨👶✨ presents, but YABU to moan about it. IYSWIM?

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks England Wed 24-Jul-13 10:00:18

IF I had the money I would donate to the charity that is researching in to my rare condition. They are working on treatments that could save my life and that of many others (possibly my children too).
Does that make me a bad person, favouring a charity that could save my life?

MalcolmTuckersMum Wed 24-Jul-13 10:18:39

Oh come on OP - this is terrible! There have been so many threads recently where your fellow posters have confessed to being on the bones of their arses, unsure how to feed their kids in the holidays, trying to live on £20 a week and so on - how on earth can you NOT have seen this? And then here you come to berate and dispense disappointment and guilt that your appeal didn't equal Live Aid? Seriously totally out of order and you have done this charity no favours at all.

mynameisslimshady Wed 24-Jul-13 10:22:59

I saw that and hid it, its bad enough being faced with people at my door, in town and on the tv trying to guilt trip me into parting with money I can ill afford. I don't need it on here too.

VitoCorleone Italy Wed 24-Jul-13 10:48:50

How do you know only 6 people donated

ProphetOfDoom Wed 24-Jul-13 10:55:18

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LilacPeony Wed 24-Jul-13 10:56:15

Do you work for the charity OP? Is that how you know how many people donated?

lottieandmia Wed 24-Jul-13 10:58:06

YABU - all you can do is ask and if people don't they don't.

As others have said - most of us don't have money to spare and for those that do, charities like the NSPCC or Oxfam are more popular.

Mumsyblouse Wed 24-Jul-13 10:59:28

I donate already to a charity that specializes in helping disadvantaged women and girls around the world, so I don't want to give more to this cause right now, however, I do believe it to be an incredibly valuable one which is why I already donate.

Come back OP, you started the thread so at least speak up and defend yourself.

MrsKeithRichards Wed 24-Jul-13 11:04:29

curlew lost for words?

Crinkle77 Wed 24-Jul-13 11:08:45

I think the problem is that people are suffering from charity fatigue especially during the summer months. There is always someone doing a fun run or walk or what ever and to be honest I do get fed up with people asking or sponsorship all the time. If I am going to give to anyone it will be to friends, family and work colleagues first and foremost.

BeaWheesht Wed 24-Jul-13 11:09:27

I cannot believe you have started this thread .

People donate to the charities THEY want to and not the ones you dictate. Seriously OP you are so out of order it's unbelievable.

I was a professional fundraiser for years (ie not a chugger) and I'd I had been like this every time we were refused sponsorship / charity of the year / whatever I wouldn't hve got very far!

How do you know only 6 people donated anyways? Surely some could've done without you knowing? Did you want the glory or something of raising x amount? It's not just about the money, had you not started this thread thn people might've donated to 'your' charity at some point in the future but the likelihood is that you've now given them negative connotations with it, which is a shame.

It was a nice original thought, yes and I presume your intentions were pure but this is very very odd.

SilverOldie Wed 24-Jul-13 11:38:46

YABU biscuit

You've got a damn cheek to moan that people haven't donated to a charity that YOU have chosen. People have explained on this thread that they are down to their knuckles financially and if we want to donate to a charity it will be one of OUR choosing, not yours. I notice you haven't had the guts to come back and defend yourself.

Go chugging on the high street, not here.

SilverOldie Wed 24-Jul-13 11:40:44

PS What the hell has it got to do with the Royal baby?

DoctorRobert Wed 24-Jul-13 11:44:01

YABU

There would be countless reasons why people haven't donated, and nobody needs to justify those to you.

I used to help run a charity and attempting to guilt trip people into donate just seems like a shitty thing to do, and really very poor PR for the organisation involved. I would have been very annoyed indeed had somebody done this about our charity.

Aquamildred Wed 24-Jul-13 11:44:10

1. I did not see the thread
2. I am struggling to keep my own family afloat at the moment!

SunshineBossaNova Wed 24-Jul-13 11:48:01

YABU. Get over yourself - and read the talk guidelines.

SoupDragon Wed 24-Jul-13 11:53:51

Charity begging on the general MN talkboards is not allowed.

FirstStopCafe Wed 24-Jul-13 12:01:43

YABU. Fair enough to raise awareness of a charity to people but it's not okay to then expect them to donate. As others have said some people cannot afford to give to charity whilst others donate to different charities of their choosing. Personally I fundraise for and donate to a number of charities who have supported my dd in the past. They are hugely important to me and I like to raise awareness of their work. However I would never expect others to donate and if 6 did I'd be thrilled

RowanMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 24-Jul-13 12:02:08

Hi there

Thanks for the reports about this thread. We've moved it to the Charities Noticeboard now.

NatashaBee Wed 24-Jul-13 12:06:37

YABU. Nothing wrong with posting your original thread about it, but you are incredibly rude to come back and complain about people not donating.

Just out of interest, how do you know that only 6 people donated? I often donate when I see charity threads on here - but I don't post back on the thread to say so on every occasion.

picnicbasketcase Wed 24-Jul-13 12:14:05

I think if you had started the thread to thank people who did donate instead of berating the ones who didn't, you may have drawn attention to the cause and maybe even got some more donations. All this has achieved is making people feel bad.

ShadeofViolet Wed 24-Jul-13 12:20:59

Charitable giving is a personal thing.

If I gave my Mum a fiver to donate, she would give it to Oxfam, my Dad would give it to the donkey sanctuary, my DH would give it to Wateraid.

Being told what to do with your money will put people off giving. This thread was a bad idea.

OldLadyKnowsNothing Wed 24-Jul-13 12:40:15

Are people really so petty they'd refuse to ever donate to a charity saving the lives of labouring women, just because it was mentioned here? Really? shock

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 12:57:06

Wow.
Right.

It struck me that we were all waiting with baited breath for the royal baby to be born, and it might be fun to see if we could raise some money for women who are not in the fortunate position that all of us- including the Duchess of Cambridge- are in. I thought that if we ran a collection for the duration of the "wait" it would be a good and worthwhile thing to do. I didn't berate or guilt trip- I provided a link to a site where people could donate if they wished. A few people did, somebody said they couldn't afford to, someone else said that they were going to help the charity in practical ways later in the year. I gave the thread what I thought was a joke title- but I put the word "donation" in it so people would know what it was about. Which meant that practically nobody opened it. Well, practically nobody commented- I suppose loads could have read it and moved on. I hope so- the website is very interesting and informative.

Thinking about it later, I was disappointed. Why wouldn't I be? And I see no reason not to express my disappointment. Of course there are loads of reasons why people couldn't, or didn't want to. But this is a site where people regularly post about which Mulberry bag to buy! The companies that choose to advertise show that there are a significant number of better off people on here. I just thought that a few more of them might like to bung a fiver in the virtual tin.

Oh, and for those of you who are saying that because of my two mildly worded posts they will never donate to this charity ever again- really? Do you really think "I like everything about this charity, th work it does and the way it uses my money, but because I don't care for the person trying to collect money, I'm not going to donate"? Wow.

And the "chugger" comments. I'm more like the people selling lifeboat stickers-you have to walk past me as you go in and out of the supermarket, but that's all. Actually, I'm even less obtrusive than that!

noblegiraffe Wed 24-Jul-13 13:11:25

Yes, like if the people selling lifeboats stickers hid behind a pillar as you came out of the shop, then shouted after you how disappointed they were you didn't take the opportunity to donate.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 13:16:34

I think it's a leeeeeeeeetle bit different!

mumofthemonsters808 Wed 24-Jul-13 13:18:04

People donate to charities of their choice when they have spare funds available. For some this is never because charity begins at home. Money is tight for so many people, at this time of the year new school uniforms need to be bought and children on school holidays creates more expense. Although you are obviously aware of these important facts I find it arrogant that you think money should be allocated to your fund. What about a thank you for those who did donate ?.

CaptainJamesTKirk Wed 24-Jul-13 13:19:22

What you fail to have realised though is that because this charity is important to you, charitable donation is a highly personal thing... Mulberry bag or not does not equate to must support your chosen charity. We all have charities we feel passionate about, we all donate in ways that we feel able to, when we feel able to.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 13:20:49

I did thank them, repeatedly, on then other thread! It would be colossally arrogant to expect everyone, or even most people to donate, but just a few more? On a site populated by mothers? On a day when we were all excited about a high profile birth?

This stuff sticks in my throat seriously. Does it make you feel like a better person to do this?? "oh, look at me, I do stuff for charity"

I have worked hard all my life to support my family and give them a better life than I had. If I choose to contribute to a charity (other than the fact the goverment already chooses to give away some of my taxes to support charities) then that is my choice and I wouldn't be crowing all over an internet site about what a good person I am and about how other people are mean and crap.

wigglesrock Germany Wed 24-Jul-13 13:26:09

To be honest it shouldn't matter if I had Mulberry bags coming out of my ears, you asked people to donate, some did, some didn't. But to start a thread complaining and then using the phrases but we are all Mothers .., we are all grown ups as well and choose which charities to support.

I've no huge problem with you asking, but this thread - Christ words fail me.

Ps I must have been one of the few not waiting with baited breath on the baby hmm

AmandaHoldenmigroin Wed 24-Jul-13 13:27:31

I didn't see it.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 13:29:42

Happy to debate and "defend" myself- but not against things I didn't say and things that I don't feel- however much you have decided that I do!

CaptainJamesTKirk Wed 24-Jul-13 13:32:12

Leave it curlew you really don't realise how bad you are coming across. How do you know only 6 people donated? You can ask all you want, we regularly have threads asking for sponsorship and charitable donations, but to complain and then try and use 'but you're a mother, how can you not support my chosen charity?' and go on about mulberry bags is just so unnecessary ... Look enjoy yourself on your 'more charitable than you' high horse. I'm out of this thread now.

mindosa Wed 24-Jul-13 13:34:21

Curlew, you are not doing your charity any favours so I would move on if I were you.

MissStrawberry Wed 24-Jul-13 13:34:56

You are still expressing words as if you think posters have a duty to donate and guilt tripping them in your 13:20 post.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 13:39:39

"You are still expressing words as if you think posters have a duty to donate"

Nope. Absolutely the opposite!

insanityscratching Wed 24-Jul-13 13:40:30

I think you are in danger of losing the charity support tbh as you are coming across as being particularly churlish. It's your chosen charity so why not tell us what you have done to raise funds for them other than post a link on MN?

Casmama Wed 24-Jul-13 13:53:08

You come across as being very pious. I presume you were looking or a long list of people to comment on the thread about your wonderful idea so you could pat yourself on the back about how much was raised.

I have no problem with the original idea but think this one is pretty attention seeking and achieves very little.

Still wonder what kind of fun you thought it would be.........I'm guessing thatvery few people viewed donating on-line to charity as being a fun activity.

SilverOldie Wed 24-Jul-13 14:06:25

And you STILL don't get it. Hides thread.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 14:08:21

I get it. I just don't agree with you!

I'm still wondering how you know that 6 people donated?

FWIW I read the thread but didn't comment. I had already seen a link to the site on FB but didn't donate as I already give regularly to another charity which does similar work. But you wouldn't know any of this until now... Plenty of people might have read it and donated but not felt the need to post that they had. Likewise people can post that they have donated without actually doing so. You really have no way of knowing.

LilacPeony Wed 24-Jul-13 23:18:29

I'm still wondering how you know that 6 people donated? Because the OP works for the charity I assume.

curlew Wed 24-Jul-13 23:25:23

Nope. Hadn't heard of it before yesterday morning. I just took what people said at face value.

CaptainJamesTKirk Thu 25-Jul-13 07:31:16

I'm back again...

So you're getting grumpy and trying to make all of us feel guilty for a charity you hadn't even heard of until now. Nice to know you did your research beforehand, nice to know this is a charity extremely important to you. I've been supporting 2 particular charities for 20 years and wouldn't get grumpy that other people choose not to support it. A charity you discovered a whole 10 minutes before your original thread and you're extremely disappointed in the members of his forum.

And you still fail to acknowledge you don't know how many people donated... It might have been 50, it might have been 2 (yes people do lie you know). But you still come on to complain.

Incognitoagain Thu 25-Jul-13 07:53:41

Tbh, I didn't see the original thread but.....

OMG, how ungrateful!!!! If I had donated I would be pretty pissed off by the OPs attitude!!

Perhaps a thread along the lines of, ' thank you so much to all those who donated. I know we're all struggling financially ATM, so your donation is really appreciated ' would be more appropriate.

You should be thankful for any donations, even if it was only 6!!

I think this thread was a bad attempt at guilt tripping people into donating, which seems to have well and truly backfired!!

If I were the OP, I would stay away from fundraising in the future!

Incognitoagain Thu 25-Jul-13 08:50:26

Forgot to say,

I'm sure that your original intentions were good, and that this is a worthwhile cause, but...

You have been VERY naive.

You've chosen to fundraise for a charity you don't know inside out, you can't do it justice, or defend yourself in situations like this. You then moaned when people didn't donate, even when you only heard of it 'yesterday'. Then... You started commenting on people buying designer handbags ( giving you the idea we are all loaded) what people spend their money on is their business. If you look carefully, for every thread like that, there are dozens more, of people really struggling financially. Then the old guilt trip angle....

I hope you can see why people are so angered by this thread.

curlew Thu 25-Jul-13 09:07:02

The charity was referred to me by somebody who does know about these things. It is a cause dear to my heart and I was delighted to find a specific charity working in this area. If anyone has any questions about the charity I would be happy to answer them.

I have said repeatedly that there are loads of people who can't, for many reasons, donate. I have also thanked the people who did.

I mentioned the Mumsnet demographic because there were so many posts saying that things were too tight financially for people to make any charitable donations. It would have been crass indeed to ask for donations on a forum where the vast majority of people were struggling financially- I do not think this is true of Mumsnet.

And finally, I have not moaned. I expressed my disappointment.

TheFallenNinja Thu 25-Jul-13 17:07:46

Your arrogance is breathtaking.

NatashaBee Thu 25-Jul-13 17:28:51

It would have been crass indeed to ask for donations on a forum where the vast majority of people were struggling financially- I do not think this is true of Mumsnet.

What makes you say that? From all the credit crunch and Aldi/Lidl threads, I'm inclined to disagree with you.

CaptainJamesTKirk Thu 25-Jul-13 18:21:58

Exactly what TheFallenNinja said.

I mentioned the Mumsnet demographic because there were so many posts saying that things were too tight financially for people to make any charitable donations. It would have been crass indeed to ask for donations on a forum where the vast majority of people were struggling financially- I do not think this is true of Mumsnet.

So people said they were struggling, but you have decided that this can't possibly true because in your opinion MN is full of Mulberry bag purchasing mothers who don't care about charity.

Seriously I really truly will leave this thread now curlew. You really can't see you're in the wrong. Not for your first post asking for donations, but for you second post (aka this one).

TheFallenNinja summed it up perfectly and with that I leave this thread. You've at least succeeded in making people aware of the charity although not really in a good way.

crashdoll Thu 25-Jul-13 20:08:03

Breathtakingly arrogant. What insane assumptions about the financial status of MNers! hmm
"Expressed disappointment"??? We are not teenagers breaking a curfew FFS!

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