Living with mum - end of tether, sorry big moan needed!

[scarlettskye]

My mum is 60 and has suffered with MS for 40 years, she was in good health until 2003 when my dad left her and she came to live with us. Anyone who knows me from RL will have realised who I am now so I'm blushing for the moan I'm about to have

I have 4 children aged 7 and under and work part time. Today and the weeks leading up to today, things have come to a head. Despite cooking the main meal, sorting mum's meds into a dosset box, doing all of the cleaning for her and generally worrying an dmaking sure she is ok (I'm an only child so am totally alone) she has told me "I do nothing for her" and she has to cope on her own. THat any meals I cook aren't proper food because I am following slimming world (yes, but I cook different meals for her and the kids quite often)
Oh and I'm a 'mental case' because I take ad's!! yeah, I wonder why!!!
sorry, said it was a rant!

does anyone know of any organisations that might have people who listen to carers from time to time? I just feel I need somewhere to let off steam with out fear of being judged My mum comes over as really sweet to others but often says things that are really hurtful, probably due to frustration with her MS and divorce etc but it leaves me reeling.

if anyone else has similar experience, I'd really appreciate some support.
thank you
SS xx

[moondog]

Blimey, you sound like an absolute saint!

[raisinbran]

Call the Samaritans ( no they aren't just for people about to commit suicide). They will listen,be symapthetic and you will feel its easier to talk to a stanger with out being judged.

Good luck, I have only had my Mother for a month and I am feeling the strain so no wonder you feel frustrated.

[pipsqueak]

i know lots of people dont like social services but they do offer services to meet the needs of carers - respite /adaptations etc . they may be able to help ?

[scarlettskye]

Thanks for your replies.

Social services have put twice daily care into place for us since her last broken bone (she falls a lot and has osteoporosis just to add to things!) and then she got means tested - its £650 a month for two brief visits a day which she can't afford so we now need to reduce the care they offer. nightmare!
she's been a little more civil the past 2 days so perhaps had a urine infection as that tends to set her off. ironically i used to be a nurse so you'd think i'd be a bit more patient