Year 4 bullying - low-level, constant, what to do?

[CocktailQueen]

DS is in Year 4, aged 8.5. This other boy, let's call him James, and ds played in the same football team for 2 years. James's dad trained it. My dh fell out with James's dad over how James behaved at football - bullying, excluding others, bad temper, fouling. His dad did nothing about this. I had words with James's mum at the same time because James was fouling ds really badly and she did nothing. She's quite scary and holds grudges.

In June ds left the team and went to another team, which has since been v successful - winning all matches, ds doing really well - this is relevant. Since ds left, James's team has lost all matches. James has been nasty to ds every day at school - they are in same year but separate classes - calling me fat, saying dh is an idiot, calling ds useless and crap and saying he can't play football, etc.

Every day there's something new. I'm fed up with it. DS tells the dinner ladies but they just tell them both off! FFS.

I really want to write to his teacher and see what they can do but definitely have a word with James. Talking to his parents would not solve anything - they would not listen and I think a lot of what James is saying is from his parents. Lovely. :(

What can we do? Will ds's teacher listen? Given all this happens at lunch time, what can teachers do to help?

[CocktailQueen]

Can't believe all this kicked off over bloody football. DS has been left the team, for 3 months and James is still banging on about it every day. Arghhhhh.

[Muskey]

Cocktail please go and see his teacher. Give the teacher some time to try and resolve the issue but if she does not act or the situation does not improve then go and make an appointment with ht. I went through something similar and if you don't do something about it, it might escalate. Don't talk to the dc as this may be interpreted as you bullying the dc and don't approach the parents if they are as you describe then you will be wasting your breath and probably make things worse.
In situations like this if you don't stand up for your dc no one else will

[CocktailQueen]

Thank you. No, no point talking to the parents - she has been spectacularly rude to me and her h has blanked me and dh.

Have written to ds's teacher to make this formal and so that there's something on record. FFS.

[CocktailQueen]

Anyone else? Bumping...

[Sallyhasleftthebuilding]

First give teacher a chance. Does she know? Are dinner staff telling them?