This isn't bullying is it?

(8 Posts)
Decisionsagain Thu 27-Feb-14 22:48:21

Ds, 9, sensitive old soul. Loves school but two boys who are best friends are giving my son a hard time. They seem to lead a lot of the boys and tell my son he can't play with their games. So he goes away leaving his friends. One asked him "do you like me?" My son said he did and the boy replied "well I don't like you". They often try to trip him up as he walks past. It was one of the boy's birthdays this week and he gave everyone sweets and deliberately left my son out. He says he isn't bothered but I know he is as their name crops up in our house every night.

Is this just kids being kids? Or should I be taking it more seriously. It does make me feel sad for him.

Abra1d Thu 27-Feb-14 22:50:54

I would definitely have a word with your son's teacher. This needs stamping out pronto.

CocktailQueen Thu 27-Feb-14 22:51:56

Yup, I agree. Nasty and mean. Nip it in the bud.

Maria33 Thu 27-Feb-14 22:52:18

This is bullying. Get down to the school and get it stopped. Immediately.

It is kids being kids - pushing boundaries and behaving unkindly. Be the adult and talk to other adults who will make it stop.

Your poor dssad

heather1 Thu 27-Feb-14 22:54:33

I would say a caution yes. At the least it's very unkind excluding behaviour.
I would suggest documenting incidents for a week or so and speaking, in confidence to the teacher. I have found it often more effective to speak to the teacher in charge if discipline (if there is one) rather than the form teacher.
Sorry your Ds is having to face this. Often boys are more bothered than they seem but want to protect their Mums from seeing them upset.

Fatone Sat 01-Mar-14 00:13:49

Email the teacher/Head so your comment is in writing. Agree with Cocktail this really has to be nipped in the bud. We have been through similar and it has got worse and worse - that mustn't be allowed. Good luck. Out of school activities with different kids that aren't in his school may help him to realise not all kids treat him the same and build his confidence.

Rexandralpf Sun 30-Mar-14 09:32:24

Yes it is. They are in effect isolating your son and excluding him, being nasty. Keep a running log and email it to the teacher for the school to deal with.

MrsLel Sat 12-Apr-14 04:00:36

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